In this modern classic, Carolyn G. Heilbrun builds an eloquent argument demonstrating that writers conform all too often to society's expectations of what women should be like at the expense of the truth of the female experience. Drawing on the careers of celebrated authors including Virginia Woolf, George Sand, and Dorothy Sayers, Heilbrun illustrates the struggle these writers undertook in both work and life to break away from traditional "male" scripts for women's roles.
-Dorothy L. Sayers
Carolyn G Heilbrun
“Instead, we should make use of your security, our seniority , to take risks, to make noise, to be courageous, to become unpopular.”
“It is hard to suppose women can mean or want what we have always been assured they could not possibly mean or want.”
After reading this book – I must say, I cannot write reviews anymore – arrogant really – very arrogant that I even put on my website “review.” From now on I can only write my impressions of books.
My impression of this book is very favorable – and timely.
On November 8th 2012, I turned 48. I’ve been looking forward to this, simply because 8 is my number – with every decade I always look forward to my 8th year .
I will state here that I’m the baby of my generation. I’ve buried grandparents, I’m watching parents, uncles, Aunts, brother, grow older – and I’m enjoying watching the generation after me grow up.
My birthday has never bothered me – I simply don’t like everyone else’s birthday. I tell all of my nieces (I have three – and a niece-in-law) don’t leave me – don’t go away – but keep changing keep growing. I tell my son and my nephew the same – don’t go, don’t move away from me but keep growing, keep changing.
Strange isn’t it?
“Writing a Woman’s Life,” has challenged me; challenged me in the final chapter. Throughout the work I must say – I agree, I agree and yes I agree. I cringe at the thought of any woman at any time who had to dress as a man to experience life. This is a condemnation of our culture and of the men and women who demand that our dreams and aspirations are divided into a female and male context.
I cringe that both men and women write their literary aspirations within gender guide lines – in other words that a woman with “male,” dreams are hailed as revolutionary – rather than inspirational; inspirational on a human footing rather than a female or male footing.
I will say here I believe in the female and the male role. I believe women should show pride in the pursuit of love. He should pursue and she should let him down quickly or enjoy the pursuit. I say this now for I have little interest in romance and the dance it demands. Romance for me now is to be peaceful or not at all – up front and with as little pain as possible or never mind. I say this for younger women – as if I were talking to my nieces. I believe in the male role of chivalry and to give no man the egotism that he craves – she wants me.
Other than that – I want and crave individualism. Who are you? Where did you come from? What do you like, what don’t you like – will we be friends if so why, if not – why not?
These are the challenges this book has given me as an individual.
As a writer?
Frankly I’m not sure. Thankfully the book is short and I read it with care – I’ve highlighted, made notes, scribbled my impressions and all this because early on I understood this will be a handbook, a guide as I write – as I write until I die.