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Checked out
Publication
New York : Random House, [2019]
Description
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * "From The New Yorker's beloved cultural critic comes a bold, unflinching collection of essays about self-deception, examining everything from scammer culture to reality television."--Esquire "A whip-smart, challenging book."--Zadie Smith * "Jia Tolentino could be the Joan Didion of our time."--Vulture FINALIST FOR THE NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE'S JOHN LEONARD PRIZE FOR BEST FIRST BOOK * NAMED ONE OF THE TEN BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY THE NEW YORK PUBLIC LIBRARY AND HARVARD CRIMSON AND ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR BY The New York Times Book Review * Time * Chicago Tribune * The Washington Post * NPR * Variety * Esquire * Vox * Elle * Glamour * GQ * Good Housekeeping * The Paris Review * Paste * Town & Country * BookPage * Kirkus Reviews * BookRiot * Shelf Awareness Jia Tolentino is a peerless voice of her generation, tackling the conflicts, contradictions, and sea changes that define us and our time. Now, in this dazzling collection of nine entirely original essays, written with a rare combination of give and sharpness, wit and fearlessness, she delves into the forces that warp our vision, demonstrating an unparalleled stylistic potency and critical dexterity. Trick Mirror is an enlightening, unforgettable trip through the river of self-delusion that surges just beneath the surface of our lives. This is a book about the incentives that shape us, and about how hard it is to see ourselves clearly through a culture that revolves around the self. In each essay, Tolentino writes about a cultural prism: the rise of the nightmare social internet; the advent of scamming as the definitive millennial ethos; the literary heroine's journey from brave to blank to bitter; the punitive dream of optimization, which insists that everything, including our bodies, should become more efficient and beautiful until we die. Gleaming with Tolentino's sense of humor and capacity to elucidate the impossibly complex in an instant, and marked by her desire to treat the reader with profound honesty, Trick Mirror is an instant classic of the worst decade yet. FINALIST FOR THE PEN/DIAMONSTEIN-SPIELVOGEL AWARD FOR THE ART OF THE ESSAY… (more)
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LibraryThing member soylentgreen23
A fascinating collection of essays, looking at modern forms of self-delusion. The writing is often personal, and while that might alienate some (I've read reviews elsewhere saying that the reader couldn't relate to the writer as much as they wished) I think it adds an extra dimension to the point
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being relayed. The essay on the various scams that are central to modern America is one of the strongest, and if you aren't angry when you come to the end of that piece you haven't been paying attention. Show Less
LibraryThing member rivkat
Rambling (not necessarily a criticism) essays about millennial life and the ways in which existing systems, especially patriarchy, entrap us because even resistance constitutes engagement that might keep the old structures alive. (E.g., “as women have attempted to use #YesAllWomen and #MeToo to
I was a fan of this bit, as part of a discussion of the effects of clothing on how we behave: “athleisure frames the female body as a financial asset: an object that requires an initial investment and is divisible into smaller assets—the breasts, the abs, the butt—all of which are expected to appreciate in value, to continually bring back investor returns. Brutally expensive, with its thick disciplinary straps and taut peekaboo exposures, athleisure can be viewed as a sort of late-capitalist fetishwear: it is what you buy when you are compulsively gratified by the prospect of increasing your body’s performance on the market.” Tolentino, discussing scammers from Fyre to Trump, admits that “my own career has depended to some significant extent on feminism being monetizable. As a result, I live very close to this scam category, perhaps even inside.” Much of the story she tells is, sadly, pretty relatable: thinking herself immune from sexism because she was young and talented, then later on realizing that her UVa campus was fucked up—among other things, she got roofied and considered herself lucky that it made her violently ill, and also every Valentine’s day “flyers blanketed the campus with Jefferson and his slave Sally Hemings depicted in cameo silhouette, and the cutesy slogan “TJ [heart]s Sally” below that.”
In an essay on difficult women, Tolentino discusses, among other things, the double bind of criticizing conservative women: sexism works on them too, and yet, “if you stripped away the sexism, you would still be left with Kellyanne Conway,” very worthy of condemnation. “Moreover, if you make the self-presentation of a White House spokesperson off-limits on principle, then you lose the ability to articulate the way she does her job.” Although it’s her job, she’s skeptical of “adjudicating inequality through cultural criticism,” which allows people like Ivanka Trump to claim feminist allyship (though not racial justice allyship, which seems important). It’s true that conservatives have learned to weaponize accusations of insufficient feminism, but I’m not sure that liberals did that (Tolentino thinks we taught them how) or that bad faith is avoidable in any particular way by progressives; it just has to be fought. Overall, a lot of wheat and a lot of chaff in here.
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regain control of a narrative, these hashtags have at least partially reified the thing they’re trying to eradicate: the way that womanhood can feel like a story of loss of control. They have made feminist solidarity and shared vulnerability seem inextricable.”) A lot of the book is about the internet, which has allegedly heightened the risk that everything becomes personal/identity-based and not primarily political. Some of it is annoying to old folks like me (“In the five years since my graduation, feminism had become a dominant cultural perspective”—sure, fine, whatever), but many of the observations are sharp. I was a fan of this bit, as part of a discussion of the effects of clothing on how we behave: “athleisure frames the female body as a financial asset: an object that requires an initial investment and is divisible into smaller assets—the breasts, the abs, the butt—all of which are expected to appreciate in value, to continually bring back investor returns. Brutally expensive, with its thick disciplinary straps and taut peekaboo exposures, athleisure can be viewed as a sort of late-capitalist fetishwear: it is what you buy when you are compulsively gratified by the prospect of increasing your body’s performance on the market.” Tolentino, discussing scammers from Fyre to Trump, admits that “my own career has depended to some significant extent on feminism being monetizable. As a result, I live very close to this scam category, perhaps even inside.” Much of the story she tells is, sadly, pretty relatable: thinking herself immune from sexism because she was young and talented, then later on realizing that her UVa campus was fucked up—among other things, she got roofied and considered herself lucky that it made her violently ill, and also every Valentine’s day “flyers blanketed the campus with Jefferson and his slave Sally Hemings depicted in cameo silhouette, and the cutesy slogan “TJ [heart]s Sally” below that.”
In an essay on difficult women, Tolentino discusses, among other things, the double bind of criticizing conservative women: sexism works on them too, and yet, “if you stripped away the sexism, you would still be left with Kellyanne Conway,” very worthy of condemnation. “Moreover, if you make the self-presentation of a White House spokesperson off-limits on principle, then you lose the ability to articulate the way she does her job.” Although it’s her job, she’s skeptical of “adjudicating inequality through cultural criticism,” which allows people like Ivanka Trump to claim feminist allyship (though not racial justice allyship, which seems important). It’s true that conservatives have learned to weaponize accusations of insufficient feminism, but I’m not sure that liberals did that (Tolentino thinks we taught them how) or that bad faith is avoidable in any particular way by progressives; it just has to be fought. Overall, a lot of wheat and a lot of chaff in here.
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LibraryThing member KWharton
So many spoilers in the "Pure Heroines" chapter! Don't read it if you don't like spoilers! There are spoilers about Madame Bovary, Anna Karenina, Twilight, The Virgin Suicides, and probably many others I can't remember.
LibraryThing member kglattstein
I have to admit that I absolutely loved some of the essays, some of them were tedious and too wordy, and I skimmed some. I have this book on my list to reread. All of Jia's commentary is intelligent and well presented - especially for someone like me who is a little "older" and wanting a little
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view into the mind of a millennial. A number of books I've picked up have not connected or I found a little whiney or too obvious in their attempt to persuade the reader toward their point of view as if there is no other. This book is definitely none of that. Jia writes about her experiences and perceptions about current issues based on those experiences. I found all of her writing gave me insight into another way of thinking - one which I was seeking. Show Less
LibraryThing member streamsong
Author [[Jia Tolentino]] is known as a ‘quintessentially millennial’ author and essayist.
Her essays cover a wide variety of subjects, and the subjects were a bit hit or miss for this older reader.
Some were not relatable to my casual, retired lifestyle. These included growing up with the
Others essays were of more interest. One of these was the rape culture on various campuses, including the University of Virginia that she attended.
I was also interested in her essay ‘Ecstasy’ where she compared religion to drug addiction. It’s an old trope (“Religion is the opiate of the masses”) but she had interesting twists on the idea – especially as she grew up in a Texas evangelical mega church (which she dubbed ‘The Repentagon’), attending private Christian schools. She later left the evangelicals and dabbled with drugs.
My favorite essay was “Pure Heroines”; a survey of literature’s women protagonists – from the independent childhood heroines such as Anne Shirley and Harriet the Spy, to the blank ‘Mary Sues’ of The Hunger Games and Twilight and to the ‘happily ever afters’ of 19th and 20th century fiction when marriage was the ultimate fulfillment. She lists some 40 books and authors, and I am tempted to read the half that I have not yet read.
“If you were a girl, and you were imagining your life through literature, you would go from innocence in childhood to sadness in adolescence to bitterness in adulthood – at which point, if you hadn’t killed yourself already, you would simply disappear.” P 95
Pithy, witty writing. I believe that some of the topics may appeal most to younger readers, and though I hate to sound sexist, I believe many of her topics might appeal more to women readers than to men.
I’ll average the 5 star essays and the 3 star essays to a solid 4 star rating.
Her essays cover a wide variety of subjects, and the subjects were a bit hit or miss for this older reader.
Some were not relatable to my casual, retired lifestyle. These included growing up with the
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internet, being a teen reality TV star, Barre exercise classes and the need for women, especially professional city women hoping to rise in their profession, to be ‘constantly optimizing’ their looks and bodies. Others essays were of more interest. One of these was the rape culture on various campuses, including the University of Virginia that she attended.
I was also interested in her essay ‘Ecstasy’ where she compared religion to drug addiction. It’s an old trope (“Religion is the opiate of the masses”) but she had interesting twists on the idea – especially as she grew up in a Texas evangelical mega church (which she dubbed ‘The Repentagon’), attending private Christian schools. She later left the evangelicals and dabbled with drugs.
My favorite essay was “Pure Heroines”; a survey of literature’s women protagonists – from the independent childhood heroines such as Anne Shirley and Harriet the Spy, to the blank ‘Mary Sues’ of The Hunger Games and Twilight and to the ‘happily ever afters’ of 19th and 20th century fiction when marriage was the ultimate fulfillment. She lists some 40 books and authors, and I am tempted to read the half that I have not yet read.
“If you were a girl, and you were imagining your life through literature, you would go from innocence in childhood to sadness in adolescence to bitterness in adulthood – at which point, if you hadn’t killed yourself already, you would simply disappear.” P 95
Pithy, witty writing. I believe that some of the topics may appeal most to younger readers, and though I hate to sound sexist, I believe many of her topics might appeal more to women readers than to men.
I’ll average the 5 star essays and the 3 star essays to a solid 4 star rating.
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LibraryThing member thereserose5
I really enjoyed these essays. My favorite by far was I Thee Dread, but the overall voice of the book was strong and these were clearly well-researched.
LibraryThing member addunn3
The author hives some interesting perspectives of women, discrimination, and culture.
LibraryThing member capewood
T/FB: 2021 Book #78. 2018. Tolentino is the co-author of the New Yorker article that started the "Free Britney" business. The book is a series of essays about social media, drug use, feminism, and her, considering she was only 30 when she wrote it, interesting life. Good book.
LibraryThing member Tytania
Collection of essays. She's better when not talking about herself.
She's in her 30s, Filipina, grew up in Houston in an evangelical church, and as a teenager was a cheerleader and appeared in a reality TV show. I can't relate remotely to this person.
She's in her 30s, Filipina, grew up in Houston in an evangelical church, and as a teenager was a cheerleader and appeared in a reality TV show. I can't relate remotely to this person.
LibraryThing member burritapal
This was pretty good up until around the middle of it, then it got a little tedious to finish. I especially enjoyed the chapter about Active wear; about those kind of women who will buy overpriced workout wear like Lululemon, and go to the overpriced studios to do the latest "in" workout. Check out
"One day, I was at a studio on the west side of town when a woman next to me queefed a thick, wet queef while sinking deep into Warrior II. I held back my laughter. She kept queefing, and kept queefing, and queefed and queefed and queefed. Over the course of the hour, as she continued queefing, my emotions went fractal—hysterical amusement and unplaceable panic combining and recombining in a kaleidoscopic blur. By the time we hit final resting pose, my heart was racing. I heard the queefing woman get up and leave the room. When she returned, I peeked an eye open to look at her. Clothed, disturbingly, in a different pair of pants, she lay down next to me and sighed, satisfied. Then, with a serene smile on her face, she queefed one more time."
Another good chapter was the one on weddings, surely the most shameful crapitalistic industry, going after the pocketbooks of women who want to be"queen for a day" before their term of "enslavement" begins.
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this excerpt:"One day, I was at a studio on the west side of town when a woman next to me queefed a thick, wet queef while sinking deep into Warrior II. I held back my laughter. She kept queefing, and kept queefing, and queefed and queefed and queefed. Over the course of the hour, as she continued queefing, my emotions went fractal—hysterical amusement and unplaceable panic combining and recombining in a kaleidoscopic blur. By the time we hit final resting pose, my heart was racing. I heard the queefing woman get up and leave the room. When she returned, I peeked an eye open to look at her. Clothed, disturbingly, in a different pair of pants, she lay down next to me and sighed, satisfied. Then, with a serene smile on her face, she queefed one more time."
Another good chapter was the one on weddings, surely the most shameful crapitalistic industry, going after the pocketbooks of women who want to be"queen for a day" before their term of "enslavement" begins.
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LibraryThing member ZeljanaMaricFerli
This is a somewhat interesting collection of essays about a wide range of topics relating to the experiences of millennial women in relation to the illusionary quality of popular culture. I loved the first one, "The I in Internet", by far the most. There was nothing in it that we haven't heard
Some of the other pieces were mediocre, while some were just awful (the worst being the one about the author's past as a reality show participant) and some felt very superficial although well-meaning ("Always Optimizing"). Even though I don't agree with the author on many topics, I could appreciate her honesty while reading this, but I am confused about why this is so highly regarded. I learned nothing new from this.
2.5 stars
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before, but it was well-written and relevant. Some of the other pieces were mediocre, while some were just awful (the worst being the one about the author's past as a reality show participant) and some felt very superficial although well-meaning ("Always Optimizing"). Even though I don't agree with the author on many topics, I could appreciate her honesty while reading this, but I am confused about why this is so highly regarded. I learned nothing new from this.
2.5 stars
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Awards
BookTube Prize (Octofinalist — Nonfiction — 2020)
NPR: Books We Love (2019)
The New York Times Notable Books of the Year (Nonfiction — 2019)
Globe and Mail Top 100 Book (2019)
Chicago Public Library Best of the Best: Adults (Selection — 2019)
New York Public Library Best Books: For Adults (Top Ten — 2019)
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Original publication date
2019-08-06
Physical description
xi, 303 p.; 25 cm
ISBN
9780525510543
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