How we fight for our lives : a memoir

by Saeed Jones

Paper Book, 2019




New York : Simon & Schuster, 2019.


"Written from the crossroads of sex, race, and power in America, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming-of-age memoir and a haunting reflection of the nation as a whole"--

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LibraryThing member ozzer
"Being black can get you killed
Being gay can get you killed
Being a black gay boy is a death wish"

So Saeed Jones understands the challenges he faces as a young man. This memoir follows his evolution into adulthood coming to terms with his sexuality, race, and especially the troubled relationship with his mother. The memoir captures the extreme risks he takes to explore his sexuality. One wonders why he didn't find more satisfying partners as a young man and only hopes that this will eventually happen for him. His relationship with his mother is especially poignant as it evokes the all too common black mother struggling to raise and protect her children alone in a world that views them with hostility. Only after her death does he come to appreciate her importance to his development. Meeting the old woman in Barcelona is a powerful metaphor for his relationship with his mother. Memoirs written by young people can be unsatisfying reads because of the lack of a wider life experience. Certainly, this seems to be a problem here, but Saeed copes remarkably well.… (more)
LibraryThing member alliepascal
This is the only kind of memoir I want to read; it's short, it's focused and to the point, and it's excellently written.
LibraryThing member bostonbibliophile
What can I say that hasn't already been said? It's lovely. The last chapter is one of the loveliest tributes I've read to a beloved mother. It reads both as a collection of essays and an eloquent whole. It is very personal and intimate and reaches out at the same time. Jones has written a lovely treasure of a book.


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