Fierce Attachments

by Vivian Gornick

2015

Status

Available

Call number

974.7

Collection

Publication

Daunt Books

Description

In this deeply etched and haunting memoir, Vivian Gornick tells the story of her lifelong battle with her mother for independence. Gornick's groundbreaking book confronts what Edna O'Brien has called "the principal crux of female despair": the unacknowledged Oedipal nature of the mother-daughter bond. Born and raised in the Bronx, the daughter of "urban peasants," Gornick grows up in a household dominated by her intelligent but uneducated mother's romantic depression over the early death of her husband. Next door lives Nettie, an attractive widow whose calculating sensuality appeals greatly to Vivian. These women with their opposing models of femininity continue, well into adulthood, to affect Gornick's struggle to find herself in love and in work. As Gornick walks with her aged mother through the streets of New York, arguing and remembering the past, each wins the listener's admiration: the caustic and clear-thinking daughter, for her courage and tenacity in really talking to her mother about the most basic issues of their lives, and the still powerful and intuitively wise old woman, who again and again proves herself her daughter's mother.… (more)

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LibraryThing member froxgirl
This aptly-titled memoir for three (one, her father, exits without leaving much of an impression other than vacancy) details the constricted life of writer Gornick and her mother, widowed early, within the confines of their Bronx apartment and neighborhood. Gornick battles her acerbic mother
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throughout her life and seeks out useful allies. Nettie, another widow and neighbor, a woman who conducts affairs openly in their universe of disapproving housewives ("Drucker, Roseman, Zimmerman, Singer, Kornfeld" - all others faceless, featureless, and identified via husband's name alone) becomes Gornick's purveyor of sensual possibilities. On the death of her father, Gornick's mother hermetically seals herself into histrionics of ceaseless mourning and Gornick is unable to wrench herself from her mother's sphere. Interspersed in the story are their walks through Manhattan years later, as they become more companionable yet still combative, in early middle and old age. This is an intense narrative, frustrating as Gornick seems unable to establish her own territory, although we know from her writings in the Village Voice and her body of non-fiction work that she very much does so, just not here. Her words flow as speech would, her rage and her contrasting descriptions of pleasures of the body as vivid as if you were at a long but wholly engaging dinner together.

Quotes: "Suddenly, I am miserable. Acutely miserable. A surge of defeat passes through me, I feel desolated, without direction or focus, all my daily struggles small and disoriented. I become speechless. Not merely silent, but speechless, My mother sees that my spirits have plunged. She says nothing. We walk on, neither of us speaking."
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LibraryThing member steller0707
Gornick and her mother are so alike and so different, as portrayed in her memoir. It's an honest reflection on their relationship and that with their friend Nettie. Both women were enormous influences in Gornick's life. It's also a reflection on the lives of women only one generation apart.

Original publication date

2005

ISBN

978-1-907970-65-8 / 9781907970658
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