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Misty Bernall, mother of one of the teenagers killed at Columbine High School, tells the story of her daughter's life, describing how Cassie had, at one point, started down a troubled path before dedicating her life to God, and sharing the details of the moment when Cassie's affirmation of faith resulted in her death.
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LibraryThing member wrenkin
Terrible: one of the worst books I've ever read. It was given to me, free of charge, when I was in New York and while I sympathize with the mother's loss I don't think she can write. I also don't buy into the characterization of her daughter who, while the victim of a horrible crime, was apparently
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less a martyr than a normal teenager faced with a paranoid mother's efforts at indoctrination. Given her reactionary behaviour I don't trust the mother to tell me what Cassie was really like. Show Less
LibraryThing member mmoj
This was a very good book. Misty wrote about a difficult time in her family's life. We all think as parents that we are doing what we need to do and that our children our fine. None of us can imagine that what Cassie went through could happen to our kids. Too often we are like Cassie's friend's
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mother who thought that Misty was going overboard. I commend Misty for making Cassie a real person, someone who could have gone in another direction if not for her parents love and involvement. This is a cry in the night that we as parents must be parents, not just best-friends to our children. Show Less
LibraryThing member JCLHeatherM
Written by Cassie's mother Misty, we meet a young teen girl, vibrant, friendly popular, and like many other highschoolers, battling with their parents. Cassie was by no means perfect, but she proved herself to be a true heroine, willing to put her life on the line for what she believed.
LibraryThing member countrylife
Thought provoking story of one of the victims of the Columbine school massacre, of her rebellious life, recently turned around, then abruptly cut short. Her mother bares her heart in the sad, yet ultimately triumphant story of her daughter’s life.
An excellent memoir for any young adult to read.
An excellent memoir for any young adult to read.
LibraryThing member sarley
This book is inspirational to any age. This book is based on a girl who stood up for what she believes in. She got shot for saying "Yes" she believes in God. I believe every student should read this book. It allows every student to understand how important it is to stand up for what you believe. I
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chose this book based on inspiration. It sends every student in the right direction in standing up for what they believe. Show Less
LibraryThing member LinkBDD123
This book change the way that I saw the "accident" at Columbine and Cassie's life. It's a shame what she went through untill 2 years before her death! I thought she was just another Christian that died for thier faith, but I was completely wrong!!!!
LibraryThing member elleayess
There is much controversy in many of the books regarding the shootings at Columbine as to whether there is truth to them or not. From this one to the most popular book written by Mr. Cullen...there is going to be untruths in them. No one really knows what happened in that school except the people
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that were there and it is not uncommon for memories to become tainted, both as time goes on and right after the initial event as being in shock can distort memories. So I basically take with a grain of salt what I read about the topic. What I found interesting in this book, however, was Cassie's background. I was not aware of the troubles she had with alcohol, drugs and the occult. I was under the impression that she was just another popular girl that was murdered on this day. What a testimony to the ignorance we all have towards tragedies. I do realize that some of the points in this book were falsified, maybe not on purpose, but because all the info had not been exposed at that point. However, I do not think that the author of the book would have any reason to falsify Cassie's struggles before that horrific event occurred. I actually found this book NOT on purpose. My daughter had read it years ago, probably for school, and left it in my Jeep. I moved it from the Jeep to the bookshelf, and there it sat for ten years. In cleaning through the bookshelf, I found the book, forgetting that I put it there. So, before giving it away, I took the short time to read it, and am very glad that I did. I would not call it great, but it forced me to form a different opinion about Cassie. Show Less
LibraryThing member earthforms
The event in the title didn't happen, according to Dave Cullen's research. Not a bad book otherwise, but definitely perpetuates the terrible stereotyping and general fear state that permeated the time about things like Marilyn Manson.
LibraryThing member nicdar111
I've read this book several times. My grandma's library had a copy that I read at VBS in jr high. I also read again in high school. It is a really good book. I'm not religious but it had a profound affect on me
LibraryThing member Trialia
I'm not sure whether or not to read this, since the incident described in the summary that gave Cassie such individual notoriety never actually happened that way - investigation and witness accounts since Columbine have proven that.
I would normally just say I'm not interested, particularly since
I would normally just say I'm not interested, particularly since
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I'm about as far from Christian as you can get without being an atheist. But Cassie sounds like an interesting personality for someone who was still so young. So... thinking about it. Has anyone I know read this? Show Less
LibraryThing member deargreenplace
This is a memoir written by the mother of one of the teenagers killed in the Columbine High School shootings.
I'm wary of being too honest in my review of this book because of the sensitivity of the subject matter, and the obvious grief that the author and her family suffered after the loss of their
While Mrs Bernall has bravely outlined her struggles with her teenage daughter Cassie prior to April 1999, it seems to me that Cassie had an extremely difficult adolescence, largely because of her parents' excessive attempts to control her behaviour. As a mildly rebellious teenager myself, Cassie didn't sound to me as though she was very different from most teenagers - experimenting with drugs and the occult, dressing "alternatively", making friends with people that parents don't approve of, staying out late and so on.
The turning point for Cassie's mother appeared to be when she was going through her daughter's drawers to look for something (a teen bible), and discovered a batch of letters in which Cassie and her friend appeared to be discussing how to murder their parents. Cassie's parents reacted by giving copies of the letters to the local Sheriff, telling their pastor, and getting a restraining order stopping Cassie from being anywhere near her best friend. Mrs Bernall searched her daughter's backpack daily, removed her from the local high school and put her in a Christian Fellowship school, and did not allow her to go anywhere other than the church youth group. They moved house to get away from Cassie's old friends, who were trying to maintain contact with her. Mrs Bernall also looked through her daughter's notebooks and CDs, and makes reference to finding Marilyn Manson CDs with "negative" messages. By her mother's own admission, Cassie already had self-esteem issues and was self-harming. I am not a mother, but I have been a teenager, and I would not have reacted well to being treated like this. Adolescence is a difficult time when hormones affect our thoughts and behaviour - how many times have you heard a teenager say "I wish you were dead" or "I wish I was dead" to a parent? It happens, and it doesn't make young people inherently evil. Nor does suffering from depression or using sub-cultures as something to identify with and a way of expressing themselves.
I find it really difficult to understand how young people can suddenly become ultra-religious, and to be honest this type of indoctrination gives me the creeps, but then I don't have first-hand experience of small-town American culture - from what I've seen the church movement manages to ensnare a lot of impressionable young people. I was brought up Roman Catholic, and by the time I was 12 I had started to question things and decide that it just wasn't something I believed in. I found other interests and didn't stop behaving in a christian (small c) way just because I had stopped believing in organised religion.
The author vetted Columbine High School for her daughter by "talking to parents and looking at the students." Looking at them? Throughout the book Mrs Bernall does not hide her tendency to judge people by how they look, or to justify her fear of alternative-looking young people. It's unfortunate that Harris & Klebold had precisely the appearance that she was hoping to protect her daughter from, but clearly they were also damaged young people. Their preference to wear black clothes was a symptom of their emotional state, not the root cause of their behaviour.
I suppose what saddened me about this account was the way that being Christian with a big C was felt to be Cassie's only way to "redemption", the irony being that she was purportedly shot by Eric Harris & Dylan Klebold for confirming her belief in God. Only one witness substantiates this claim, but I suppose thinking of their daughter as a "martyr" gives the family a way of coping with what happened.
I'm wary of being too honest in my review of this book because of the sensitivity of the subject matter, and the obvious grief that the author and her family suffered after the loss of their
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daughter. This review should not be read as a judgment on the Bernalls' parenting skills - it is simply my opinion based on what's written in the book, and nothing more.While Mrs Bernall has bravely outlined her struggles with her teenage daughter Cassie prior to April 1999, it seems to me that Cassie had an extremely difficult adolescence, largely because of her parents' excessive attempts to control her behaviour. As a mildly rebellious teenager myself, Cassie didn't sound to me as though she was very different from most teenagers - experimenting with drugs and the occult, dressing "alternatively", making friends with people that parents don't approve of, staying out late and so on.
The turning point for Cassie's mother appeared to be when she was going through her daughter's drawers to look for something (a teen bible), and discovered a batch of letters in which Cassie and her friend appeared to be discussing how to murder their parents. Cassie's parents reacted by giving copies of the letters to the local Sheriff, telling their pastor, and getting a restraining order stopping Cassie from being anywhere near her best friend. Mrs Bernall searched her daughter's backpack daily, removed her from the local high school and put her in a Christian Fellowship school, and did not allow her to go anywhere other than the church youth group. They moved house to get away from Cassie's old friends, who were trying to maintain contact with her. Mrs Bernall also looked through her daughter's notebooks and CDs, and makes reference to finding Marilyn Manson CDs with "negative" messages. By her mother's own admission, Cassie already had self-esteem issues and was self-harming. I am not a mother, but I have been a teenager, and I would not have reacted well to being treated like this. Adolescence is a difficult time when hormones affect our thoughts and behaviour - how many times have you heard a teenager say "I wish you were dead" or "I wish I was dead" to a parent? It happens, and it doesn't make young people inherently evil. Nor does suffering from depression or using sub-cultures as something to identify with and a way of expressing themselves.
I find it really difficult to understand how young people can suddenly become ultra-religious, and to be honest this type of indoctrination gives me the creeps, but then I don't have first-hand experience of small-town American culture - from what I've seen the church movement manages to ensnare a lot of impressionable young people. I was brought up Roman Catholic, and by the time I was 12 I had started to question things and decide that it just wasn't something I believed in. I found other interests and didn't stop behaving in a christian (small c) way just because I had stopped believing in organised religion.
The author vetted Columbine High School for her daughter by "talking to parents and looking at the students." Looking at them? Throughout the book Mrs Bernall does not hide her tendency to judge people by how they look, or to justify her fear of alternative-looking young people. It's unfortunate that Harris & Klebold had precisely the appearance that she was hoping to protect her daughter from, but clearly they were also damaged young people. Their preference to wear black clothes was a symptom of their emotional state, not the root cause of their behaviour.
I suppose what saddened me about this account was the way that being Christian with a big C was felt to be Cassie's only way to "redemption", the irony being that she was purportedly shot by Eric Harris & Dylan Klebold for confirming her belief in God. Only one witness substantiates this claim, but I suppose thinking of their daughter as a "martyr" gives the family a way of coping with what happened.
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LibraryThing member Hawkfire
it was sad, but great
LibraryThing member murphh
This is a true story writen bythe mother of a girl killed in the Columbine school shootings. It talks about what occured previously on in Cassie's life that could have been better, and it talks about what actually went on inside the school where Cassie and more then a dozen other teens were killed.
LibraryThing member yeremenko
It is worth noting people who have examined the shootings and interviewed witnesses are certain that Valeen Schnur, not Cassie Bernall was asked the question and answered "Yes" but only after hesitation and prevarication. Valeen survived so she isn't a handy martyr. These facts come from the girl
It is interesting that the one student that was without doubt singled out, Isaiah Shoels, for being black not Christian, has faded into obscurity while this myth of martyrdom survives.
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hiding under the table with Cassie as well as the others closest to her in her final moment. Now the book is more about her life than that moment, it does use the title and the idea she was specifically targeted for her faith in its promotion. It is interesting that the one student that was without doubt singled out, Isaiah Shoels, for being black not Christian, has faded into obscurity while this myth of martyrdom survives.
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LibraryThing member Voracious_Reader
In She Said Yes: The Martyrdom of Cassie Bernall by Misty Bernall, Cassie's mother expresses that her daughter's death matters more or at least as much as what lead to her answer of "Yes" at the hands of the Columbine shooters.
She makes the case that without faith and parents that happened to find
It is the power of a mother's love that hopes all things which brings us Cassie's story. Her mother asks "why my daughter?" "My death is not my own, but yours, and its significance depends on what you do with it" she quotes from a Hebrew prayer service for fallen soldiers. What significance does her daughter's death have?
Whether or not the exchange between the gunman and Cassie actually took place, which is apparently debatable, doesn't really matter. We want that exchange to have happened. She's a heroine. For evil to have looked into the face of good, and for good, even in the face of death, to have triumphed is uplifting. Faith does not come easily for Cassie, nor most of us. Yet, in the end, when it was really all that mattered, it did come. She was not alone, and she did not doubt. So, it isn't the truth of the exchange that matters. The significance is the desire within us to answer "Yes."
She makes the case that without faith and parents that happened to find
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out that their child was in trouble, Cassie could have had a very different, but equally infamous life as the shooters. The story is of what was as well as what could have been for a deeply troubled, but incredibly determined, teen. It is the power of a mother's love that hopes all things which brings us Cassie's story. Her mother asks "why my daughter?" "My death is not my own, but yours, and its significance depends on what you do with it" she quotes from a Hebrew prayer service for fallen soldiers. What significance does her daughter's death have?
Whether or not the exchange between the gunman and Cassie actually took place, which is apparently debatable, doesn't really matter. We want that exchange to have happened. She's a heroine. For evil to have looked into the face of good, and for good, even in the face of death, to have triumphed is uplifting. Faith does not come easily for Cassie, nor most of us. Yet, in the end, when it was really all that mattered, it did come. She was not alone, and she did not doubt. So, it isn't the truth of the exchange that matters. The significance is the desire within us to answer "Yes."
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LibraryThing member MissReadsALot
I thought the story was really hard to follow, but this read for a biography, exspecially as an AR test. Me and my friends that read the book thought Cassie was really scary-like and that we that we sorda believed her. All of us thought was just okay.
LibraryThing member DF6B_MeaghanG
At Columbine High School things were pretty messed up. Two students brought guns, bombs and other dangerous weapons to school. While hiding under a table in the library, Cassie Bernal was approached by one of the gunmen. He held a gun to her head and asked her if she believed in God. She simply
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replied "yes". This book tells about Cassies life leading upto the shooting and her families life following the shooting. I did not enjoy this book as much as i though i would but its a quick and easy read. Show Less
LibraryThing member briannad84
I love the design for the cover! My favorite part was when Ms. Bernall explained that the act of forgiving the shooters was an everyday thing. That was something that stuck out in my mind and I've used her very example when trying to comfort others in situations where they needed to forgive, but
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the task just seemed too overwhelming, as well as to remind myself of this. Show Less
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Awards
Soaring Eagle Book Award (Nominee — 2001)
Colorado Blue Spruce Award (Nominee — 2003)
Golden Archer Award (Nominee — 2002)
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Original publication date
1999-09-01
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Pages
xiv; 142