You're never weird on the Internet (almost) : a memoir

by Felicia Day

Other authorsJoss Whedon (Writer Of Introduction.)
Paper Book, 2015

Status

Available

Publication

New York : Touchstone, 2015.

Description

The Internet isn't all cat videos. There's also Felicia Day -- violinist, filmmaker, Internet entrepreneur, compulsive gamer, hoagie specialist, and former lonely homeschooled girl who overcame her isolated childhood to become the ruler of a new world... or at least semi-influential in the world of Internet Geeks and Goodreads book clubs. After growing up in the south where she was "homeschooled for hippie reasons", Felicia moved to Hollywood to pursue her dream of becoming an actress and was immediately typecast as a crazy cat-lady secretary. But Felicia's misadventures in Hollywood led her to produce her own web series, own her own production company, and become an Internet star. Felicia's short-ish life and her rags-to-riches rise to Internet fame launched her career as one of the most influential creators in new media. Now Felicia's strange world is filled with thoughts on creativity, video games, and a dash of mild feminist activism -- just like her memoir. Felicia's story demonstrates that everyone should embrace what makes them different and be brave enough to share it with the world, because anything is possible now -- even for a digital misfit.… (more)

Rating

(482 ratings; 4.2)

Media reviews

For anyone who has ever felt that they don't belong or who is looking to forge a career in online entertainment, this book is a must-read.
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It’s a memoir of sorts, chronicling Day’s life from her homeschooled childhood to her violin-prodigy college years to trying, and eventually succeeding, at making it in Hollywood.
Felicia Day's memoir You're Never Weird on the Internet (Almost) starts off as a cute, snarky story about how a quirky upbringing turned Day into a nerd superhero; by the end, it's become an illuminating, frank look at the commercial realities, injustices and insecurities that everyone trying to
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earn a living online must confront.
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The last sliver of her memoir contains powerful stuff. If only she had dug as deep for the rest of the book, it might have been a real winner.

User reviews

LibraryThing member pocketmermaid
I devoured this in less than two days. The book captures Day's voice and her conversational tone feels like she's speaking directly to you! Get yourself a cup of coffee, crack open this book and let Felicia tell you everything!

I became of fan of hers through the stepping stone of seeing her play
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Penny in Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, then realized I had already seen her as a minor character in the final season of Buffy: The Vampire Slayer. A friend of mine, a gamer girl, told me that I absolutely had to watch The Guild. "But I don't play video games," I replied. "Doesn't matter," she said. The truth was that I HAD played video games, long ago in the 90s, and none of them were RPGs. I was afraid The Guild would be lost on me. It turns out my friend was right. All I needed was some minor video game background and a cursory understanding of the Internet to be able to find The Guild immensely enjoyable and hilarious.

That said, I feel that Felicia put more of herself into The Guild than she did in this book. She holds her readers at arms length (she informs us early on that she's a lady, and that she would not be writing about the first time she had sex, for example). There are many things she glosses over in her book, such as a frequent mention of her boyfriend, yet he is never referred to by name, and we never even get any details of how they met, etc. She also talks about her struggles with her mental health, but she doesn't explore it with any real depth. Admitting her problems does feel like enough, though. Since she maintains a playful voice throughout the book, I would feel that if she took a turn toward darkness, it would change the entire tone of the book. I admire her for discussing her mental health here, and I also respect her privacy. Just because she's a celebrity does not mean she owes us every gritty detail. She does give us a lot of honesty, though, with a heaping dose of Felicia Day quirkiness, when she never dismisses the toll on her health (mental and physical) from Internet and gaming addiction. In a roundabout way, she shows us the importance of unplugging and self-care. IF FELICIA DAY CAN DO IT, ANYONE CAN.

Her most vivid accounts are from her childhood. She was a precocious child, a home-schooled ("for hippie reasons"), musical prodigy, who because of the her freedom of being home-schooled, she managed to cobble together an amazing non-traditional education for herself -- but dealt with extreme isolation and loneliness as a result. This explains why she latched onto gaming and the Internet so strongly, and this isn't lost on her. She discusses her early days of gaming and forging friendships across the wires. I loved reading her accounts of dialing-up in those early Internet days, and how it seemed so incredibly advanced. I'm just a few years younger than Felicia and these descriptions brought back a lot of memories for me. That long time it took to connect to the internet, that horrible sound the phone made, keeping track of your minutes because you were charged by the hour, making sure no one picked up the other extension because it immediately disconnected you, ONLY HAVING ONE BROWSER TAB, etc. It might seem weird for us to think of the days of the Internet before social media, but Felicia even reminds us that the advent of these things is still pretty new (and she was an early adopter of practically every social media platform - she recalls an incident when she was caught "twittering" on stage at San Diego Comic-Con a few years back, and no one had any idea what she was talking about.)

One more thing I wanted to say is that I totally related to her chasing the elusive 4.0 in college, simply for bragging rights. But, unlike me, Felicia actually accomplished this. I graduated with a 3.9, Felicia, IMAGINE MY PAIN. I love how she constantly brought up her 4.0 achievement, and simultaneously acknowledged its uselessness -- particularly on acting auditions.

Now that I've babbled enough about my thoughts and you are now clear that I totally loved this book, I have to admit that I'm not sure if there's much of a reach for this book beyond already established fans. She even acknowledges in her opening chapter how, despite her established career, she is not an immediately recognizable celebrity. If I were to recommend it anyone who isn't already a Felicia fan, it would be to thirty-somethings who have nostalgia for the early days of the Internet, and for gamers ... but then, I'd have to wonder, why aren't you already a fan of Felicia's?
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LibraryThing member bell7
Actor, writer, producer Felicia Day talks about her years growing up as a homeschooled child, math/music double major, and World of Warcraft addict into the woman she is today. She is quirky, intelligent, hilarious, but never quite sure of herself, yet through the Internet she is able to meet
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like-minded people as well as launch an online show that makes her, as she calls it, "situationally famous."

You may be familiar with Felicia Day from her online show The Guild, or from Supernatural, Buffy, or Eureka. As she says in the Introduction, "As a redhead, I'm a sixth-lead specialist, and I practically invented the whole 'cute but offbeat hacker girl' trope on television. (Sorry. When I started doing it, it was fresh. I promise.)" (8). I had seen her on Supernatural, and was glad I did because I could hear her voice in my head as I read the book. Usually caps, bold, and other font features are jarring for me, but it made the memoir sound like she was just sitting down talking to me, and I didn't mind. I imagine it would also work really well in audio, though I would have missed the ridiculous photoshopped and/or captioned black and white photos sprinkled throughout the text. Felicia's experiences were really relatable, as I'm only a few years younger than her and also remember the change that was CompuServe/AOL and email and text-based webpages and forums. I was never a gamer, but I knew people who were (I dated a pretty big geek in high school), and I could definitely get that experience of realizing "hey, there are people out there kind of like me" (hello, LibraryThing and other people who read 100+ books a year). She comes across as really genuine, too, talking about addiction and struggles with depression and perfectionism. I could relate to the perfectionism. I had a 3.8 rather than a 4.0 in college, but it was a point of pride for me and I've only lately realized that... it doesn't matter in real life. At all. Anyway, yes, did I mention relatable? If you think you'd be interested, especially if you've seen any of the shows she's been in, definitely take a look.
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LibraryThing member madam_razz
This is book is written in such an engaging way that it is nearly impossible to put it down. It's also a very fast read. Right from the very start, it sucks you in and has you grinning and laughing along with the awkward moments and thoughts from the author's life that she's divulged in details
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that are extremely relatable. It's easy to think that even the awkward moments of celebrities and other people in the limelight who have accomplished a lot of creative and cool things are nowhere near as awkward as the moments from your own life that, even when you look back on years later, make you cringe and blush and want to sink into the floor. But, that's not the case here.

This book makes it clear that Felicia Day was, and still is, just like everybody else. She has had and still deals with awkward moments in life, insecurities and emotional upheavals. Even depression and anxiety. And yet, she was still able to stay a nice person and accomplish a lot of awesome things. That's pretty inspiring and uplifting, if you ask me. It lets you know that you can do that, too, because here's someone just like you who did it herself and is still doing it.

This book was engaging and written without any lofty under or overtones, without any I'm-smarter-than-you wording (even when she talks about to college before the age of 18 and graduating with degrees in math and music and with a 4.0 GPA).

Reading this book is like meeting Felicia Day for coffee and having a conversation with her, listening to her telling you all of these things, instead of sitting quietly somewhere by yourself and reading about it.

Seriously, guys, I can't stress enough how much of a wonderful and fast read this is. And it's totally worth it. I got this book from the library, but I'm totally going to buy it from Amazon anyway, despite having already read it once, because I need this book on my shelf. And I anticipate being able to walk to the bookshelf it's on and pull it down to read some choice passages and pages, or even a choice chapter, when I need some encouragement, comfort, or motivation myself.

Please read this book!! Even if you don't know who Felicia Day is, or you only know in a casual sense that she's an actress that friend/relative of yours loves. IT'S TOTALLY WORTH IT.
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LibraryThing member rakerman
This book could be called "How I ended up making The Guild, and how it almost unmade me".

It's very much a story about creativity, Makers and Making. We first find out the experiences that made Felicia Day, and then how those experiences led to The Guild.

On that journey, we find out about her
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truth-is-stranger-than-fiction homeschooling, her love of computer gaming and online forums, and her eventual World of Warcraft addiction. As narrated by Felicia Day's internal dialogue, a kind of Inside Out where Anxiety is a lead character.

Everything outside this journey is pretty much excluded from the book. In particular, Felicia Day The Actress doesn't really appear, all of her acting takes place off the stage of the book. You won't find out anything about how she met and worked with Joss Whedon or Wil Wheaton, or what a day on the set of Buffy is like. Even for The Guild, you find out the experience of writing it and bringing it into being on the Internet, but nothing about acting in it or interacting with the other actors.

As the pieces assemble, there will be lots of things that are familiar to those who grew up interested in computers and somewhat outside the mainstream of the culture. And some things that are in a realm of extraordinary geekdom rarely attained.

You get a good idea of Felicia Day's drive to create and her experience of interacting with the world. You're invited along as she descends into World of Warcraft addiction and emerges to create The Guild. (I discovered it was much more of a shoestring-and-a-dream effort than I had realised.)

Felicia Day then very honestly and bravely brings the audience along as she loses herself, having a total mental breakdown under the pressures of continuing to create The Guild while launching and running her web video company Geek and Sundry.

The heart-felt description of her collapse and slow recovery adds considerable richness and poignancy to her life story.

The tone is very informal and I don't know how well it works just on the printed page. As read by Felicia Day in the audiobook, the experience is of a conversation about her life.

My one critique would be that the arc of the story basically concludes with the end of chapter 10 (The Deletion of Myself). While recognizing the significance of GamerGate, the material about it in chapter 11 felt stuck-on to the arc of Felicia's personal narrative - it would have been better as a separate piece elsewhere.

Whatever combination you may be of bookish, academic achiever, gamer, creator or anxious human being, you may enjoy spending some time being weird with Felicia Day in the pages of her memoir.
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LibraryThing member Deesirings
I picked this up for an audiobook to listen to while commuting, never having heard of the author, but knowing I frequently like memoirs. This was read by the author, which gave it a special touch. I really liked the content but found the reading voice a little over the top on occasion. Nonetheless,
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I really appreciated the author's tale, especially where she got really stuck (and depressed) and eventually produced a web series that she wrote. My very favourite part was where she described writing the first episode in late-December one year. If I recall, it was basically a two-week period. She really made those two weeks sound like they lasted FOREVER. Even though she was only writing for a bit of the day each day. The act of writing sounded so all-consuming and terribly difficult yet... worthwhile. It was really inspiring to hear about that. In this part and in other parts even more explicitly, Felicia really drives home the message that the listener can do create things and pursue dreams too. She very much conveys the message of "if I can do it, so can you." So thank you, Felicia Day, for sharing so much of yourself, ultimately believing in yourself and believing in others too.
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LibraryThing member meandmybooks
3 stars for the book, but 5 for Felicia Day's passion for encouraging her readers to believe in themselves and follow their dreams and create things that reflect their unique ways of seeing the world!

I don't know beans about gaming or YouTube shows – I picked this up because I enjoyed the
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author's character on Supernatural and was intrigued when I glanced at the book description and learned that she was homeschooled. And I did find the early parts of the book, where she talks about her quirky upbringing, to be really enjoyable (particularly, contrasting Day's family's “lazy hippie” brand of “unschooling,” intensively focused on reading, math, and performing arts, with the nonschooling approach of Tara Westover's right-wing family in her recent book, Educated: A Memoir). And she does a great job of explaining her on-line world and celebrity. But I've never played “World of Warcraft” or watched “The Guild,” and even with Day's self-deprecating humor and bubbly enthusiasm they didn't much interest me.

I've had this sitting on my shelf for a while, but then Audible had it on sale, so Felicia Day read it to me herself. And I think that was a good thing, but I'm not quite sure. Her “manic-pixie-geek-girl” persona is adorable, but also a little exhausting. Like hanging out with my sixteen year old daughter when she's had too much caffeine and is all fired up about the latest social injustice – I agree with her and am proud of her for caring so passionately, but a part of my brain keeps wondering if she's ever going to stop to take a breath.
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LibraryThing member bookczuk
Dr Horrible? Yup.
Buffy? Uh huh.
Dollhouse? I think so.
House? Saw that one, too.
Eureka? Eureka!
Cheetos? Crunch.
Geek and Sundry? Subscribed.
Tabletop? A few times
Supernatural? (We haven't gotten to her arc yet)
The Guild? Wowzer!

Yeah, I'm a Felicia Day fan. Intelligent humor, artful awkwardness.
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Seemingly unafraid to be outside of the norm for females in the entertainment industry. Honesty.

But is that her?

I was utterly thrilled to learn that someone I enjoy so much had a book out and immediately put in a reservation for it at my library and was first on the list for when it came in-- which gave me just enough time to begin to worry that I'd be disappointed by the book. That it would be as bad as some other celebrity memoirs that I've read. That I would cringe the next time I saw her on internet or television.

As they say down under, no worries mate!

Felicia's book is marvelous. Brutally honest, funny, informative. She plays the quirky geek girl often, but she is quirky. She is a geek and she is female, for real. Her upbringing was decidedly unconventional. I never would have guessed that she didn't graduate from high school, but managed to go to university, major in math and music/violin (4.0!) Her foray into acting and onto the internet fascinating. As for integrity, she's got it, and isn't afraid to speak about details many people keep hidden (struggles with her mental health), while keeping private details that many blather too freely (no kiss and tell name dropping, though she does tell that she kisses.) The voice in the book is open, direct, entertaining, able to poke fun at herself.

I came away with these impressions:

1. I'd recommend this book to fans and to girls coming up who probably fit the quirky geek girl mold. The road may not be easy, but it can be done. Stay the course.

2. This gal is a mensch. I'd have her over for martinis in a skinny minute.

3. I know jack squat about gaming.

4. Joss Whedon writes a kick ass forward.

5. You go, girl. Thank you for a great read.
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LibraryThing member bexaplex
I was laughing so hard in parts of this book that I cried, and then Felicia had to make me cry for real at the end. C'mon, there's no crying on the internet.

Felicia Day's memoir is about her desultory education and her equally unplanned path to creative success. There's a lot of insight here about
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what it feels like to be doing work that you're not invested in, and also what it feels like to be doing work that you're over-invested in, and why you might be doing either of those things.

There were a lot of moments in Felicia's young life that I recognized, despite not being home-schooled. A bizarre amount of moments. I don't game (and thank goodness for Felicia's description of her first steps into WoW and how hideously unfun it was), but I definitely remember finding the internet, and fandom, and HELLO, AWESOMENESS.
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LibraryThing member J.Riley.Castine
Felicia Day is one of those people who is famous for all the right reasons. She's smart, witty and just has that enduring presence that makes you feel right with the world.

Reading her story was most enlightening. I don't want to got into spoilers here but I will just simply say that she's just as
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weird as the rest of us.

So many celebrities seem less real and approachable, Felicia is not like that at all and this book really opens up her world to the rest of us.

I am still chuckling about the recital ad she talks about here, classic Felicia all the way!

So, if you've not figured it out yet, yes, I loved it!
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LibraryThing member theWallflower
Wondrous! Magnificent! Funny! Hilarious! Stupendous! After reading this, I wanted to write a fan letter to Felicia Day, thanking her for writing the book. I wanted to give this book to my wife, even though she wouldn't understand any of it, just because I wanted to show her how strong and
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delightful and personable she is. This is a role model for my kids.

You never realized how amazing she is as a person. Going from a lazy homeschool life to prodigy violinist to college degree. And then a Hollywood actress for no damn reason whatsoever. But it's not without drama. She's had to fight Internet addiction, low budget film-making, and the Gamergaters.

She's pretty much the pioneer for the message she's spreading -- embrace your weird. After reading it, I felt motivated to create things like her. To not listen to the humilitous voice that says "aw, gee, that's not good, I'm not a professional." I want to be her and not her at the same time. This is a MUST READ.
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LibraryThing member pennma05
This was great! I love Felicia Day's humor and it was great getting a look at how she became who she is today including some things you probably never would have guessed about her! That chapter about #GamerGate... omg I wanted to throw things. It's so ridiculous the things people feel the need to
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do to other human beings. Unbelievable! Anyways... great book!
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LibraryThing member rondoctor
This is not a book I ordinarily would read, but the Internet connection in the title plus a good review pulled me in. I'm glad it did. Felicia Day is a delightful writer and her story resonated with me even though I'm about 3 generations removed from her. It is a story of resilience and
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persistence, written with abundant humor and pathos, in a style that is exceptionally readable. I highly recommend it.
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LibraryThing member regularguy5mb
I've been a fan of Felicia Day ever since I saw her on Buffy the Vampire Slayer as Vi, my favorite potential Slayer from Season 7. So, of course, I've tried to follow her career as close as possible. I remember finding the Guild back during its second season, and then of course there was the
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brilliance of Dr. Horrible, followed by oh so much more.

Now she's written a book about her experiences, this book. Starting with her youth and her learning process as a homeschool kid (but, from what she's written, it sounds like the best homeschooling experience ever), to her early adventures with the Internet and online gaming, to her practically crippling addiction to WoW and her eventual triumph over her inability to focus on her writing and the creation of the Guild, Felicia is completely open and honest about her life. She doesn't shy away from the hard times when she was falling apart due to her depression and anxiety, and even goes into the problems she had with Geek & Sundry due to the extreme stress and massive workload she had set for herself.

As someone who is currently in a similar position, fighting to actually write something and get numerous ideas off the ground, I am so grateful to Felicia and this book for showing me an example of someone who did eventually make a breakthrough and get things done to come out on the other side of it with huge success. Seriously, I want to write her a long e-mail singing her praises for what she has written and shared here. I feel like I'm not alone with my issues and that it is possible to work around them.

So, thank you Felicia, and congrats on this excellent book. I wish you continued success in whatever you do.

And if you are a creative interested in stories of other creatives, a Felicia Day fan, or a geek interested in stories of other geeks; definitely pick up this book. It's so worth it.
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LibraryThing member jcbrunner
The internet is a weird place. Its openness and decentralized nature allows people to connect and share in ways unimaginable even a few years ago. People with exotic hobbies and collections who were isolated in their community can now find soul mates all over the planet. At the same time, the
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internet is a dark place as the surprisingly large number of mentally ill and dangerous people can contact people directly. Much of the internet is still under Wild West rules where the weak are at the mercy of the mean and the tragedy of the commons is in full effect. It is surprising, for instance, how much time and effort some people are willing to commit to see their pet issues win on Wikipedia and other internet projects. A lot of the immature voices on the net also belong to actual kids and teenagers who have not yet been potty-trained in proper social behavior and even learn wrong patterns on 4Chan, on-line games and diverse boards. Felicia Day's book speaks about both issues, albeit in a book with a wrong title.

Geek is a relative term. Felicia Day as a math graduate in Hollywood is certainly geekier than traditional Hollywood actresses. Still, she used MS Paint to design the logo of her YouTube web series. No computer geek would ever do that! Then again, if one looks at how computers are used in movies and TV, Hollywood is one of the holdouts ("enhance! enhance!"). Felicia Day's biography thus is better read as an account of a successful internet entrepreneur.

This unrealized redefinition of her own role and the futile attempt to be a writer/actor and producer at the same time caused an internal burn-out and major depression whereas she still had to keep up external happy face to her fans (very Stephen Fry-esque). Fortunately, she seems to have managed to overcome it with a healthier work/life balance. The role of her boyfriend in this account is rather strange, as he is a near mystery who would barely get a line in the movie version. Her mother, brother and dog play vastly more important roles. And in times of need, the boyfriend didn't seem to be there to catch and help her (almost girlfriend from Canada-style).

For those already familiar with the Felicia Day origin story, there are a few new nuggets such that she and her mother were active Ross Perot supporters. Her acting career is not given much emphasis (apart from the first steps in Hollywood). Felicia Day has been at the forefront of the growing number of women internet and entertainment entrepreneurs. This book offers an interesting look behind the scenes of what happened so far.
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LibraryThing member ReadingBifrost
“If you strive for something, make sure it’s for the right reasons. And if you fail, that will be a better lesson for you than any success you’ll ever have. Because you learn a lot from screwing up.”

I wasn’t ever a big player of wOw, not as big as Felicia. My addiction of choice was
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Ragnarok Online! Anyone who has used (or is using) internet gaming as an outlet can find something in common with the woman behind The Guild. But not only that. Anyone that has used anything as an outlet for depression or anxiety can easily pick up on their own habits and thoughts along side of Felicia’s in her memoir.

She starts the book with her childhood as a homeschooled-hippie-violin-prodigy child that lived in Alabama then in Mississippi (yay for repressing the home state!) and moves on through her very young teen college years, and eventually to her LA years as an actress.

Through the book I feel that Felicia was saying, “Hey, this is who I was, this is who I am, and this is who I’m hoping to become.” She’s very open in this book- clearly explaining her anxieties and depression she struggled with and how she handled them (or didn’t handle them). I can’t explain how inspirational this book became after reading it all the way through! Sure, you can read books about “being yourself” and a load of other school poster quotes, but Felicia Day’s book is in her voice and speaking from her own experience as a geek, a girl, a gamer, and a person still trying to find her notch in society.

***On a side note, the ebook is just not enough and I regret not getting a hardback. I really need get a signed hardback copy of this. It makes my nerdy side want to be back in high school just so I can write a book report on her (though I do have to brag my report on George Lucas was stunning and well received).***

So, geek or not, Felicia Day’s memoir is hilarious and heartwarming and heartbreaking and, well, full of emotions that level up humans during their lifespans. Buy it, read it, then have a Felicia Day marathon!
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LibraryThing member jenspirko
Day's engaging memoir is affirming, funny and irresistible. She traces her evolution from geeky un-self-aware kid to geeky, more-self-aware adult and gives hope to all those who have felt out of place in their towns, schools or jobs. She does not shy away from discussing her struggles with
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emotional disorder and creative blocks, and she deals straightforwardly with her GamerGame experience. Never coy, she leaves readers with a deeper understanding not only of her own work and perspective, but of this strange phenomenon of our times: Internet fame. It is rare for me to call any book, especially a celebrity memoir, a "Must-Read," but this one definitely rates that description!
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LibraryThing member MickyFine
Depending on your interests, you likely know Felicia Day as that super awesome actress from The Guild, Buffy, Dr. Horrible, and Supernatural or she just looks strangely familiar. If you fall into the first camp, I highly recommend you pick up this book. It's just as delightful as one would expect a
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book by Felicia Day full of humour and also plenty of insight on the current status of video game and internet culture. If she only looks vaguely familiar, you should definitely watch something from the list at the beginning of my review and then read this book.
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LibraryThing member klack128
I liked Felicia Day plenty before I read this book, and was very excited for it to be released. And it did not disappoint.

Felicia both embraces her nerdiness and really opens up about her struggles with anxiety and depression. Her story really hit home for me personally, and I really admired her
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honesty in talking about the things she has faced. It was pretty eye-opening to hear her tell of how, behind all of her success and and business - savvy was a lingering insecurity and unhappiness.

I think Day is an amazing person, and such a great example of a kick ass woman, and this book really solidified that for me. I can't wait to see what comes next for her!
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LibraryThing member lycomayflower
Felicia Day's memoir of her childhood and how the internet has played a role in both her career and her emotional life was mostly fun and fascinating. She reads her work excellently--though I'll admit that the half-ironic ALL CAPS enthusiastic internet speech in subheadings and asides started to
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wear a little bit thin before the book was over. In fact, I was getting a little "done with this" at about the, mmm, three-quarters mark until Day starting discussing depression, self-pressure, perfectionism, and the treatment of women on the internet (and how many of these things often function together), and then I was all in again. I enjoyed the whole book and laughed and nodded a lot at the beginning and appreciated the behind-the-scenes stuff about the making of The Guild, but the more serious stuff toward the end really catapulted this from a mostly enjoyable read I'd probably mostly forget to something I was really, really glad I read and might return to some day. Recommended to Felicia Day fans and all varieties of internet participatory fandom geeks. If you don't know who Day is and you don't participate in some kind of internet geekery, there is undoubtedly stuff here worth your while, but you may find getting to it tedious.
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LibraryThing member theokester
I've been a fan of technology and video games for ages. I helped keep our family computer up to date and installed our first modem back in the day so I could connect to BBS-es and do some dial-up gaming with friends. When the Internet came around, I built my own little set of cheesy web pages to
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post stories, random info and just experiment with what I could do. When YouTube exploded onto the scene, I had fun trolling the crazy new videos to see what was out there and have fun reveling in the geek-dom of everything. It was around that time that Felicia Day brought "The Guild" to the Internet and pioneered the new media delivery mechanism to become one of the first "Internet Web Actors." I laughed along with other fans at the Guild and kept up with some of her work peripherally over the years. I was never a huge "fanboy" but I have subscribed to her various "channels" to see what new stuff is coming out. So when one of those "new things" was an auto-biography, it seemed only natural that I'd pick it up and read it.

One thing I immediately noticed as I started reading was that this book is definitely written in Felicia's "voice." If you aren't familiar with her work (meaning the stuff that she scripts herself or has creative license with), that won't mean much to you but I found it a lot of fun to have the book really written in her voice. It made it feel that much more "real"...like she had just pulled up a chair and was telling me about her childhood and her experiences. As a side-note to be aware of...since it is in her voice, there is some vulgarity (aka - swearing). Not a ton, but if you've only seen her "prime time" TV acting, it might put you off a little bit...just be warned.

The book traces her life from young childhood up to present day in a mostly chronological manner. The tone is very sarcastic and funny which is an interesting balance especially in some of the more "tragic" parts of her life. Felicia's life isn't rife with huge tragedy (she's not a war orphan...she didn't have abusive parents...etc.) but she did have struggles like anybody. She was pushed and pulled by trials of life all through growing up. She was awkward socially and had trouble creating good friendships or fitting in with others. What is cool is the way she presents these (fairly normal) struggles of childhood in a realistic way. While her struggles and trials came about in ways that are pretty unique to her situation, they aren't so outlandish that they become entirely unrelatable. As such, the way she perseveres and pushes through her problems can provide good examples to other kids, teenagers or young adults dealing with their own struggles.

While she's not a "holocaust victim turned billionaire philanthropist" (sorry for the semi-flippant example), she is an example of having issues that might drag somebody down but balancing those problems with a positive and optimistic outlook on life. Essentially she decided not to let other people set limits for her. Instead, she took risks and just kept on pushing through the hard times trying to do something she believed in and something that she felt would make her happy. There were failures and struggles along the way but she kept on trying. She ignored the totally pessimistic nay-sayers but she did listen to the constructive criticism and suggestions from people so she could learn and grow. As the title suggests, she shrugged off the people calling her weird or telling her "that's not how it's done" and she pushed on to become what she wanted to be . She may not be a perfect role model for everybody but the story of how she overcame obstacles and achieved success is something that anybody can learn from. Her quirky, sarcastic, go-getter, try anything attitude is a lot of fun and her snarky voice makes for an entertaining read. Fans of Felicia will certainly like the book.

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3.5 out of 5 stars
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LibraryThing member RenaeMcBrian
This book has heightened my giant crush on Felicia. love her. Proper review to come.
LibraryThing member EllsbethB
This was a fun book. There are parts that had me laughing out loud. It was interesting to learn more about Felicia Day and how she learned to take her passions and transform them into a Geek Empire.
LibraryThing member bookworm12
Quirky and nerdy, Day narrates her own audiobook about surviving a homeschooled childhood, college as a violinist at 16, beginning an acting career, and her love of online gaming. I didn't know her work well before the book, but it's an enjoyable read.
LibraryThing member Beammey
Legit. one of those books you will probably laugh and cry over. I laughed out loud a few times and a few chapters later I was almost in tears. I connected to Felicia from page 1 and loved the ride this book took you on. The good and the bad. I didn't think there was a dull moment and I was looking
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forward to the next to page. It's great. Easily 5 out of 5 stars from me.
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LibraryThing member kaylaraeintheway
I thought this memoir, by the "Queen of the Nerds" Felicia Day, was entertaining enough, but I felt like she was trying a little too hard to write a witty memoir. I felt like she was being true to herself and her voice, but I don't know...to me, she truly shone as a writer during the last 2
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chapters of the book, when she was talking about the crippling depression and anxiety she experienced, and the #GamerGate fiasco that happened last year; she was not afraid to be open and honest about her experiences and shortcomings, which I loved. Something else that rubbed me the wrong way was, despite her being an advocate for female gamers and nerds, she made a few jabs at people, activities, and things that are stereotypically "feminine", like crafting or wearing heels. I got a "I'm not like the other girls vibe a few times, which left a weird taste in my mouth.

In all, I enjoyed reading about Felicia Day in her own words and with her own embarrassing pictures, mainly because I did not know a whole lot about her.
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Original publication date

2015

Physical description

x, 260 p.; 24 cm

ISBN

9781476785653
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