by Glennon Doyle

Hardcover, 2020




The Dial Press (2020), 352 pages


#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * Reese's Book Club x Hello Sunshine Book Pick In her most revealing and powerful memoir yet, the activist, speaker, bestselling author, and "patron saint of female empowerment" (People) explores the joy and peace we discover when we stop striving to meet others' expectations and start trusting the voice deep within us. "Untamed will liberate women--emotionally, spiritually, and physically. It is phenomenal."--Elizabeth Gilbert, author of City of Girls and Eat Pray Love This is how you find yourself. There is a voice of longing inside each woman. We strive so mightily to be good: good partners, daughters, mothers, employees, and friends. We hope all this striving will make us feel alive. Instead, it leaves us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed, and underwhelmed. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent--even from ourselves. For many years, Glennon Doyle denied her own discontent. Then, while speaking at a conference, she looked at a woman across the room and fell instantly in love. Three words flooded her mind: There She Is. At first, Glennon assumed these words came to her from on high. But she soon realized they had come to her from within. This was her own voice--the one she had buried beneath decades of numbing addictions, cultural conditioning, and institutional allegiances. This was the voice of the girl she had been before the world told her who to be. Glennon decided to quit abandoning herself and to instead abandon the world's expectations of her. She quit being good so she could be free. She quit pleasing and started living. Soulful and uproarious, forceful and tender, Untamed is both an intimate memoir and a galvanizing wake-up call. It is the story of how one woman learned that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows them how to fully live. It is the story of navigating divorce, forming a new blended family, and discovering that the brokenness or wholeness of a family depends not on its structure but on each member's ability to bring her full self to the table. And it is the story of how each of us can begin to trust ourselves enough to set boundaries, make peace with our bodies, honor our anger and heartbreak, and unleash our truest, wildest instincts so that we become women who can finally look at ourselves and say: There She Is. Untamed shows us how to be brave. As Glennon insists: The braver we are, the luckier we get.… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member bobbieharv
Toward the end, as she's confessing her need to control people, she writes: " I exist to make all your hopes and dreams come true. So let's sit down and take a look at this comprehensive list of hopes and dreams I've created for you. I have been paying very close attention and trust me, I SEE you and know you better than you know yourself. You can do anything I put your mind to! Let us begin!"

This is as good a description of this whole book, except for the few and far between memoir sections, as I could write. She is lecturing us, prescribing for us, because she knows better.

By the end, I'm sorry, but I couldn't stand her. And today I see it's at the top of the New York Times best-seller list. Who are all these people who want to be preached at?
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LibraryThing member JRlibrary
So many passages in this collection of thoughts on being true to yourself ring so profoundly true that were I to highlight the meaningfully significant parts.... I’d potentially run out of ink. Wonderfully thought provoking.
LibraryThing member banjo123
Glennon Doyle was a Christian Mommy-Blogger, who had just written an Oprah Book Pick (Love Warrior) about recommitting to her marriage after her husband's infidelities; when she met and fell in love with soccer star, Abby Wambach. She left her marriage, married Wambach, and now has written a memoir that covers her life; eating disorder, addiction, parenthood, etc; from a feminist and recovery oriented perspective.

I really enjoyed this book, here are a few favorite passages:

"We do not need more selfless women. What we need right now is more women who have detoxed themselves so completely from the world's expectations that they are full of nothing but themselves. What we need are women who are full of themselves,"

"I've got these conditions--anxiety, depression, addiction---and they almost killed me. But they are also my superpowers. The sensitivity that led me to addiction is the same sensitivity that makes me a really good artist. The anxiety that makes it difficult to exist in my own skin also makes it difficult to exist in a world where so many people are in so much pain--and that makes me a relentless activist. The fire that burned me up for the first half of my life is the exact same fire I'm using now to light up the world."

"I have noticed that it seems easier for the world to love a suffering woman than it is for the world to love a joyful, confident woman."
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LibraryThing member spinsterrevival
Wow this book had a lot. All I knew of the author previously was that she was a Christian lifestyle person, and I remember seeing that she married a woman and thought that must have pissed off a lot of those people (and good for her!). But I loved this story, and there is some amazing insight here for those who probably need it most.… (more)
LibraryThing member Lisa_Francine
Wow! Words of wisdom throughout - I will be re-reading this one again and again. Some of my favorite essays included: polar bears, ghosts, boys, and woods. Thank you @glennondoyle for living your truth and sharing the journey with all of us!
LibraryThing member LindaLoretz
Mixed feelings

I think I want to rate this book 2 1/2. Parts of it were good, but it read much like a self-help book. It also seemed preachy at times.
LibraryThing member librarygeek33
I wanted to dismiss this book but my heart wouldn't let me do it. Just when it would start feeling a little too "New Agey," she would say something that was oh, so true.
LibraryThing member Carmenere
Great book! Glennon’s memoir tells her story about living the life one is supposed to, expected to; Husband, family, career etc etc. It is when she meets her soulmate, Abby that she realizes she’s lived her life as a tamed animal, instructed to jump through hoops, yet inside her natural instincts kick in and she is free to live a life untamed.
Ms. Doyle doesn’t only discuss her bisexuality and it’s implications but many emotional circumstances which affect all kinds of humans.
The thing that I question is how many people we’re hurt for her to find her true self. It’s a delicate balance and one wonders just how much should be suppressed. What do I know, I know nothing. Everybody has to choose what is right for them. Just a thought.
I listened to the audio version but yearned to grab a book and hilight this, that or the other thing. A hard copy is definitely on my “To buy” list.
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8.53 inches


1984801252 / 9781984801258

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