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Fascinated by our pervasive fear of dead bodies, mortician Caitlin Doughty set out to discover how other cultures care for the dead. In rural Indonesia, she watches a man clean and dress his grandfather's mummified body, which has resided in the family home for two years. In La Paz, she meets Bolivian natitas (cigarette-smoking, wish-granting human skulls), and in Tokyo she encounters the Japanese kotsuage ceremony, in which relatives use chopsticks to pluck their loved-ones' bones from cremation ashes. Doughty vividly describes decomposed bodies and investigates the world's funerary history. She introduces deathcare innovators researching body composting and green burial, and examines how varied traditions, from Mexico's Días de los Muertos to Zoroastrian sky burial help us see our own death customs in a new light. Doughty contends that the American funeral industry sells a particular -- and, upon close inspection, peculiar -- set of 'respectful' rites: bodies are whisked to a mortuary, pumped full of chemicals, and entombed in concrete. She argues that our expensive, impersonal system fosters a corrosive fear of death that hinders our ability to cope and mourn. By comparing customs, she demonstrates that mourners everywhere respond best when they help care for the deceased, and have space to participate in the process. Illustrated by artist Landis Blair, From Here to Eternity is an adventure into the morbid unknown, a story about the many fascinating ways people everywhere have confronted the very human challenge of mortality.… (more)
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Caitlin Doughty's main message is that we need ways to ritualize death and honor our loved ones who have died. Here in the U.S. we are not (generally speaking, of course) very good at this. Her world tour of death rituals allows the reader insight into other traditions, tacitly giving us permission to create our own and recognize what might work for us.
Caitlin Doughty is a Californian mortician, and she writes this successor to her first book about domestic funerals ("Smoke gets in your eyes"), with a tour of "good deaths" in other parts of the world. With her keen focus, we visit the following: Colorado, Indonesia, North Carolina, Spain, Tokyo, La Paz (Bolivia), and the Joshua Tree in California, to compare customs and actually participate in the meaning-making rituals of death.
In this
In Japan, the crematory rate is 99.9%. Until the current Emperor, the Emperors have all chosen a burial. They do have places where you can place your bones. In Japan, they see ashes as being unclean and they only keep the bones, which is done by the family at the crematorium by using chopsticks to place them in the urn. At Ruriden columbarium they have slots for your bones with Buddhas in front that light up. The entire place changes colors according to the season by the use of lights.
She also encountered a corpse hotel in Japan where different rooms are set up to your different tastes and needs. Some have showers, kitchens, and mats for people to sleep on which if you have out of town family members there for the funeral this would be a place to put them. You can have the room for up to four days. They will bring the corpse into the room whenever you want. At American funerals, you barely get to spend any time with the beloved before they are buried. In Japan, you get to truly say goodbye.
Doughty explores some ways in America that people are trying as means of disposing of your corpse after death. She also examines practices in Mexico dealing with Dios de los Muertos, in Spain where they keep the corpses behind glass and Bolivia where they have the belief in the natitas, the skulls of the dead who help others with problems they might have. This book was utterly fascinating and incredibly interesting. It will even give you ideas about what to do with your own body after its gone. It did for me. This book was just as good as her last book. I highly recommend it.
My folks are aged (still very healthy, but I worry), and I realize they are quite comfortable with death, they have lived a full life, and see friend pass on before them. So my worries are for my grief and my reactions... Having a sterile, hands-off, two hour
That's what I need to consider: what will help me celebrate them, to honor and love and remember?
Mom & Dad have their plans, and I will comply... but there will need to be something more as well. Caitlin's book has been helpful.
(I need to make my own plans for myself.)
You should read this, but *definitely* read her first book "Smoke Gets In Your Eyes".
I picked this up because I thought it was a graphic novel drawn by Landis Blair, who’s art I very much enjoy. It turns out
Very interesting read on a topic I hadn't given much thought to! Doughty travels around the world and describes, sometimes in nauseating detail, the rituals that come from the event of death. She gives us stories in the U.S., Indonesia, Mexico, Spain, Japan, and Bolivia. We read about glass caskets, outdoor cremations, bones picked up by chopsticks, natural burials, composting bodies, and sky burial by vultures. It's a little morbid, but it's fascinating, and it really has me thinking about what I'd like to have happen when I die. Like the author, I think being put in a metal casket in the ground does not sound like my cup of tea at all. But thanks to the author, now I have a whole set of things to contemplate! A good read!
Traveling the World to Find the Good Death
By: Caitlin Doughty
Narrated by: Caitlin Doughty
The author traveled around various countries and described the countries way of treating their dead, their thoughts on death, and how it may have changed. She compares these countries to
Traveling the world with Caitlin, we discover that the James Bond film Spectre inspired The Dias de los Muertos (The day of the dead) parade in Mexico, that the fear surrounding death and the dead doesn't hold true throughout
Traveling the world with Caitlin, we discover that the James Bond film Spectre inspired The Dias de los Muertos (The day of the dead) parade in Mexico, that the fear surrounding death and the dead doesn't hold true throughout
These books (and now a whole new reading list thanks to Doughty's The Order of the Good Death website) have made a profound impact on me, and I'm looking forward to how my ongoing exploration will help me become more comfortable with death. I'm already contemplating how I can get more involved. Yeah yeah, I am a total Doughty fangirl now.
Many thanks to Goodreads and the publisher for providing me with this ARC.
These facts, when the book club picked it, made me a bit wary – I’m still not entirely at peace with my grandmother’s passing in the fall. I don’t like to talk about death. I don’t like to talk about dead bodies. I have difficulty with viewings and other death-related occasions. But, with an open mind, I started reading, with the hope that Caitlin would help me develop a better relationship one of the only facts about our lives on earth – they will end.
My husband often says he wants a Viking funeral, or a Tibetan Sky Burial, and each time he brings it up, I ask him to stop. I can’t stomach it. But Caitlin has gone all over the world, and her own country, exploring different cultures’ death rituals. And maybe it’s her writing, maybe it’s the distance, but it is absolutely fascinating! I really could not put From Here to Eternity – the travel aspect also helped me stomach the content. And at times, I cried, but for good reasons – Caitlin expertly goes back and forth between being detached and un-emotional, to feeling all the things when listening to her coworker recount the circumstances of the loss of her unborn son.
People die all the time, and she also goes into why cremation has become such a large part of the modern funeral industry, as well as the monopolies, corruption, and out-of-date laws that govern the industry in the US. To say I learned something would be a massive understatement. I was freaked out significantly less than I anticipated being while reading Packing for Mars last month.
Doughty takes the reader through many ways of handling our dead, the various ways and means of saying
Everyone's got their own views on this, and I'll be damned if I'm going to foist mine on anyone. I'll just say that this is a really interesting book to read before considering what you would like done with your mortal remains.
In this book, the author travels the world to see how death is handled in a variety of cultures. It was a very eye-opening journey for me. I had no idea how little I actually knew about this topic. I thought that in the United States the options for dealing with a loved one's remains consisted of a choice between burial and cremation. I had no idea that in one community, residents have the option of an open-air pyre. Why don't we have this everywhere?
I was amazed by the variety of customs associated with dying. In this book, we see communities that keep the corpses of loved ones with them for rather long periods of time continuing their relationship with the deceased. There were a variety of rituals from around the world explained. Some of the scenes were quite vivid. While I don't think that I want to rush to practice some of the traditions explained in this book, I really liked being able to see how variations of how people around the world look at the process of death. In some ways, I think that a lot of cultures have a much healthier relationship with the dead. They prepare the bodies and care for the dead while in the United States, we are removed from the process leaving it to the professionals.
This book is narrated by the author. I think that she did a great job with the reading of this book. The book covers things and events that the author has seen so I think that she was able to deliver the story in a manner that nobody else would have been able to do. I thought that she had a very pleasant voice and I found it easy to listen to this book for long periods of time. I ended up listening to the entire book in a single day and found that I liked the narration more and more as I made my way through the book.
I would recommend this book to others. I love the way that this author is able to educate others on the process of death and dying in an entertaining manner. I found this book to be quite thought-provoking and I feel like I learned a thing or two. I could easily see myself reading this book again at some point in the future and I can't wait to check out some of the author's other works.
I have the audio narrated by the author. It doesn't get any better than that!