Status
Available
Publication
Picador (2019), Edition: Reprint, 288 pages
Description
With searing honesty, intimacy and humor too, America's leading young black feminist celebrates the power of rage in this piercing new audiobook.So what if it's true that Black women are mad as hell? They have the right to be. In the Black feminist tradition of Audre Lorde, Brittney Cooper reminds us that anger is a powerful source of energy that can give us the strength to keep on fighting.Far too often, Black women's anger has been caricatured into an ugly and destructive force that threatens the civility and social fabric of American democracy. But Cooper shows us that there is more to the story than that. Black women's eloquent rage is what makes Serena Williams such a powerful tennis player. It's what makes Beyoncé's girl power anthems resonate so hard. It's what makes Michelle Obama an icon. Eloquent rage keeps us all honest and accountable. It reminds women that they don't have to settle for less. When Cooper learned of her grandmother's eloquent rage about love, sex, and marriage in an epic and hilarious front-porch confrontation, her life was changed. And it took another intervention, this time staged by one of her homegirls, to turn Brittney into the fierce feminist she is today. In Brittney Cooper's world, neither mean girls nor fuckboys ever win. But homegirls emerge as heroes. This audiobook argues that ultimately feminism, friendship, and faith in one's own superpowers are all we really need to turn things right side up agai… (more)
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LibraryThing member rivkat
Thoughts on our current crisis from a black feminist perspective. “Black-girl feminism is all the rage, and we need all the rage.” But she recognizes that rage is dangerous, especially for a fat woman: “if you have the nerve to be fat and angry, then you are treated as a bully even if you are
Relatedly, she discusses her complicated reactions to Hillary Clinton; “white women’s racism has never kept me from admiring them, befriending them, or supporting them,” especially given the “similarities between how Black and white communities constrict and resent women who seek power.” Clinton’s “social awkwardness, her detail-oriented policy-wonk tendencies, and her devotion to the long game of racking up qualifications through intentional resume building feels familiar, because it is the very same strategy of every high-achieving Black woman I know.” Still, white feminists need to do better, since just as Black men have expected Black women to subordinate themselves (and feminism) to equalize male status, white women have put race before gender. [I think she conflates “mainstream media didn’t pay attention to Bill Cosby’s verbal attacks on Black women and Daniel Holtzclaw’s rapes of Black women” with “white feminists didn’t pay attention”--I don’t think even white feminists control the mainstream media, and I did know about these things from mostly white feminists, but that isn’t to say that her main point is wrong.] “White women and Black men share a kind of narcissism that comes from being viewed as the most vulnerable entities within their respective races.” Black men have too often been frustrated patriarchs, seeking the same power white men have rather than seeking to overturn that power—using Cosby and Eldridge Cleaver as horrible examples in which toxic racism produces exactly the monsters that white people fear.
Cooper discusses the childhood lessons about exceptionalism she learned and later discarded, her friendships with white girls and a smaller number of black girls also in advanced programs, and her early conclusion that abstinence was critical to her success. This distrust of sexuality, she argues, is part of why Black women often struggle to find/reclaim their wholeness even when they have material success. “To be Black in the United States is to be taught our flesh is dirty and evil. A liberatory theology for us cannot set us at war with our very bodies.” Thus, she rejects “respectability politics” that try to rely on exceptionalism and performing conservative white values—reframing such politics as “at their core a rage-management project,” a survival strategy for the exceptional that has largely outlived its usefulness, and she prefers to manage her rage differently, especially since “when you are twice as good, white folks will resent you for being better.” Elsehwere: “American democracy is not interested in acknowledging that a Barack Obama can be found in every Black community.” Meanwhile, America legitimizes white rage: “Had Darren Wilson been just a bit more ‘civil,’ Mike Brown might very well be alive.”
I appreciated Cooper’s reading of Michelle Obama’s appearance at the Trump inauguration. Mrs. Obama always had to navigate hugely difficult territory, and she became a fashion icon, but she wore her hair back and a relatively plain dress at the Trump inauguration: a “refusal to perform the public standard” that was itself a statement of rejection: “a signal to the world that what we were about to witness was some bullshit.” I also liked Cooper’s discussion of emotions, including white fear: Emotions just are what they are, but that doesn’t mean that you should let them control your actions. And Black people don’t get to express emotions (or screw up and be redeemed, or carry guns openly) with the same freedom as whites do.
Cooper also discusses the fraught issues of interracial relationships between Black men and white women, and the underemployment plus prison pipeline that severely impairs Black women’s chances of forming long-term relationships with Black men. She describes knowing Black men who are overcompensating for their own fathers’ absence by becoming “super dads”—but notes that “none of you thinks anything about learning to be better partners,” even though one big reason their fathers weren’t around was that they didn’t know how to be good partners to their mothers. “Kanye made millions blaming Black women for desiring men to have some level of economic stability”—that’s the genius of structural violence, that it is often enforced most strongly and intimately by peers. Cooper wants their resentment to turn instead to the structural conditions that made Black men so disadvantaged compared to white men (though still outearning Black women, even though Black women have higher average educational attainment). Ultimately, solutions within the community won’t work—buying Black is all well and good, but it can’t close the wealth gap. She cautions against relying on “resilience,” which is another way of saying “Let’s see just how much we can take away from you, before you break.”
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doing nothing aggressive at all.” Cooper wants us, especially black women, to respect the messiness of emotion around the work of justice, which also means not condemning members of marginalized groups for not being perfect; as she points out, “[v]ery often Black girls don’t get the opportunity to be in process.” Furthermore, “the power of a good political analysis is that it can be a masterful cloak for the emotional work we haven’t done,” which leads us to tear down others just a few steps up the ladder (Beyonce is her example of this among Black feminists). Her job as a Black feminist, she says, is to love Black women and girls. She criticizes those in the community, male and female, who teach girls to distrust each other, and argues that Black men should, but too often do not, stand in solidarity when Black women are killed as Black women have done for Black men. Relatedly, she discusses her complicated reactions to Hillary Clinton; “white women’s racism has never kept me from admiring them, befriending them, or supporting them,” especially given the “similarities between how Black and white communities constrict and resent women who seek power.” Clinton’s “social awkwardness, her detail-oriented policy-wonk tendencies, and her devotion to the long game of racking up qualifications through intentional resume building feels familiar, because it is the very same strategy of every high-achieving Black woman I know.” Still, white feminists need to do better, since just as Black men have expected Black women to subordinate themselves (and feminism) to equalize male status, white women have put race before gender. [I think she conflates “mainstream media didn’t pay attention to Bill Cosby’s verbal attacks on Black women and Daniel Holtzclaw’s rapes of Black women” with “white feminists didn’t pay attention”--I don’t think even white feminists control the mainstream media, and I did know about these things from mostly white feminists, but that isn’t to say that her main point is wrong.] “White women and Black men share a kind of narcissism that comes from being viewed as the most vulnerable entities within their respective races.” Black men have too often been frustrated patriarchs, seeking the same power white men have rather than seeking to overturn that power—using Cosby and Eldridge Cleaver as horrible examples in which toxic racism produces exactly the monsters that white people fear.
Cooper discusses the childhood lessons about exceptionalism she learned and later discarded, her friendships with white girls and a smaller number of black girls also in advanced programs, and her early conclusion that abstinence was critical to her success. This distrust of sexuality, she argues, is part of why Black women often struggle to find/reclaim their wholeness even when they have material success. “To be Black in the United States is to be taught our flesh is dirty and evil. A liberatory theology for us cannot set us at war with our very bodies.” Thus, she rejects “respectability politics” that try to rely on exceptionalism and performing conservative white values—reframing such politics as “at their core a rage-management project,” a survival strategy for the exceptional that has largely outlived its usefulness, and she prefers to manage her rage differently, especially since “when you are twice as good, white folks will resent you for being better.” Elsehwere: “American democracy is not interested in acknowledging that a Barack Obama can be found in every Black community.” Meanwhile, America legitimizes white rage: “Had Darren Wilson been just a bit more ‘civil,’ Mike Brown might very well be alive.”
I appreciated Cooper’s reading of Michelle Obama’s appearance at the Trump inauguration. Mrs. Obama always had to navigate hugely difficult territory, and she became a fashion icon, but she wore her hair back and a relatively plain dress at the Trump inauguration: a “refusal to perform the public standard” that was itself a statement of rejection: “a signal to the world that what we were about to witness was some bullshit.” I also liked Cooper’s discussion of emotions, including white fear: Emotions just are what they are, but that doesn’t mean that you should let them control your actions. And Black people don’t get to express emotions (or screw up and be redeemed, or carry guns openly) with the same freedom as whites do.
Cooper also discusses the fraught issues of interracial relationships between Black men and white women, and the underemployment plus prison pipeline that severely impairs Black women’s chances of forming long-term relationships with Black men. She describes knowing Black men who are overcompensating for their own fathers’ absence by becoming “super dads”—but notes that “none of you thinks anything about learning to be better partners,” even though one big reason their fathers weren’t around was that they didn’t know how to be good partners to their mothers. “Kanye made millions blaming Black women for desiring men to have some level of economic stability”—that’s the genius of structural violence, that it is often enforced most strongly and intimately by peers. Cooper wants their resentment to turn instead to the structural conditions that made Black men so disadvantaged compared to white men (though still outearning Black women, even though Black women have higher average educational attainment). Ultimately, solutions within the community won’t work—buying Black is all well and good, but it can’t close the wealth gap. She cautions against relying on “resilience,” which is another way of saying “Let’s see just how much we can take away from you, before you break.”
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LibraryThing member froxgirl
"This is a book by a grown-ass woman written for other grown ass-women." Black people are usually designated as articulate by whites only when they meet some vague white standards. This immensely powerful screed moves the needle way past that, all the way to commanding, as the author presents both
I recently saw Cooper at a reading, and she's as dynamic in person as her words are in this book, which would truly benefit every reader who is concerned about the intersection of feminism and fighting racism - and even more if that reader never gave it a thought. Truly consciousness-raising in the best sense of those old words. And too many fine quotes to list them all here. This entire book is a fine quote!
"Black women turn to sass when rage is too risky - when we have jobs to keep, families to feed, and bills to pay. Black girl feminism is all the rage, and we need all the rage."
"When I heard Beyoncé articulate friendships with Black women as the core of what feminism was for her...I love being a woman and being a friend to other women should be feminism's tagline. If this isn't true for you, you aren't a feminist."
"We can't let white women become the center of a conversation that isn't about them. Black feminism is not about the damage that white girls do - not solely or primarily. It is about the world Black women and girls can build, if all the haters would raise up and let us get to work."
“When you are twice as good, white folks will resent you for being better.”
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her ideas and her back story in uniquely firm and irrefutable narrative. It's one of the most convincing arguments for feminism, via academic and down-to-earth language that I've ever read, even in a recent excellent batch of nonfiction by black women (Morgan Jenkins, Patrice Kahn-Cullors, Ijeoma Oluo).I recently saw Cooper at a reading, and she's as dynamic in person as her words are in this book, which would truly benefit every reader who is concerned about the intersection of feminism and fighting racism - and even more if that reader never gave it a thought. Truly consciousness-raising in the best sense of those old words. And too many fine quotes to list them all here. This entire book is a fine quote!
"Black women turn to sass when rage is too risky - when we have jobs to keep, families to feed, and bills to pay. Black girl feminism is all the rage, and we need all the rage."
"When I heard Beyoncé articulate friendships with Black women as the core of what feminism was for her...I love being a woman and being a friend to other women should be feminism's tagline. If this isn't true for you, you aren't a feminist."
"We can't let white women become the center of a conversation that isn't about them. Black feminism is not about the damage that white girls do - not solely or primarily. It is about the world Black women and girls can build, if all the haters would raise up and let us get to work."
“When you are twice as good, white folks will resent you for being better.”
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LibraryThing member itchyfeetreader
A powerful collection of essays talking about the intersectionalism of race and gender along with a smattering of religion. Each is authoritative with a near perfect blend mix of the more academic or theoretical with the anecdotal which made it very readable. Some new ideas for me and lots to
This would have been a five-star read for me had it included a bibliography or references to some of the data and studies included in the book.
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reflect on. This would have been a five-star read for me had it included a bibliography or references to some of the data and studies included in the book.
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LibraryThing member KWharton
Loved this! I listened to the audio book read by the author. I loved that she covered race, the church, her family, sexuality, police violence, being black in a white school, and the Babysitters' Club! This book was challenging (partly because I'm white), but also encouraging. I would love to read
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more by Brittney Cooper. I would recommend it to people who are starting to think about racism and sexism in our world - it's very accessible. Show Less
LibraryThing member jzacsh
So good. Putting on my list of books to re-read. This has been a really good, so very different, pairing with How To Be An Antiracist.
I don't agree with the views on religion in this book, but this didn't distract me from her mountain of insights and great messages here.
I don't agree with the views on religion in this book, but this didn't distract me from her mountain of insights and great messages here.
LibraryThing member spinsterrevival
Well this was an amazing memoir, and the word eloquent is spot on. It seems like Cooper’s voice needs to be heard (and listened to) by everyone right now, and I have so much respect for her.
LibraryThing member DrFuriosa
This is an engaging collection of essays that reminded me a great deal of Bad Feminist, and I mean this as a compliment. The first essays were ok, but the rest just crackle with insight. I will definitely check out Dr. Cooper's other work.
LibraryThing member LibroLindsay
The mix of Black feminist theory and memoir was right up my alley. It's a fabulous listen, too, on audio.
LibraryThing member wellreadcatlady
I happened to read this while Surviving R. Kelly was released and damn do they pair well. Brittney Cooper explains difficulties black women have in feminist circles and black advocates because both disregard black women. The essays are a mixture of her personal experiences and what she has learned
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LibraryThing member gismcxc
A really great book on the Black Woman experience in America - where the rage comes from, how to keep moving. Very instructive and illuminating on the forces and history that have molded us into the where we are now positions.
Awards
Hurston/Wright Legacy Award (Nominee — Nonfiction — 2019)
NPR: Books We Love (2018)
New York Public Library Best Books: For Adults (Memoir — 2018)
Language
Original language
English
Original publication date
2018-02
Physical description
288 p.; 8.25 inches
ISBN
1250112885 / 9781250112880