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"Habits are the invisible architecture of our lives. Rubin provides an analytical and scientific framework from which to understand these habits--as well as change them for good. Infused with her compelling voice and funny stories, she illustrates the core principles of habit formation with dozens of strategies that she uses herself and tests out on others. Rubin provides tools to help readers better understand themselves, and presents a clear, practical menu of strategies so readers can take an individualized approach. She tackles each strategy herself and in doing so shows us the importance of knowing ourselves and our own habit tendencies. Armed with self-knowledge, we can pursue habits in ways that will truly work for us, not against us. Going to the gym can be as easy, effortless, and automatic as putting on a seatbelt. We can file expense reports, take time for fun, or pass up that piece of carrot cake without having to decide. With a foundation of good habits, we can build a life that reflects our values and goals"--… (more)
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It was a fairly interesting book, and it was interesting to read about Rubin's own family and her pursuit of habits and being "better than before" in her own life. The beginning on Self Knowledge dragged out a little for me, as I was much more interested in reading about the actually techniques and examples of putting them into practice. I started out thinking I am an Upholder and have changed my mind to Questioner, as I realized that only after I had a reason to make a habit would I bother to keep it. I also tend to prefer books like The Power of Habit that have scientific studies laid out and don't necessarily lay out several different strategies for me, myself. And as I went along, I realized there are very few habits that I currently want to change. Still, I enjoyed it and have recommended it to a couple of people I thought would enjoy the "make it work for you" personal approach.
I'm an Upholder and an Abstainer, just like Rubin.
I should probably be eating lo-carb.
It would be great to have a treadmill desk.
Rubin's well researched and readable book delves into habits, which underpin so much of our days. Worth reading, like her previous 'The Happiness
1. I am a person who does best with external accountability and validation. Even the reward and goal system of an app works better than attempting to change using sheer will.
2. Put your new
I found the author's voice to be too smug and self-satisfied to entirely enjoy. There is also the question of her unacknowledged privilege - gym memberships and treadmill work stations are not available to everyone.
Still, finding out which type of personality you are in relation to life changes can be very helpful as it was for me.
A couple of thoughts that occurred to me while reading:
- Gretchen must be aware of how extraordinarily fortunate she is to have both the flexibility and the financial resources necessary to pursue mastery of her habits. This isn't an excuse for the rest of us to slack off, but surely she must know that the majority of her readers, even those with a comfortable middle class lifestyle, have to juggle career and family and personal fulfillment within a stark range of inflexible constraints.
- According to the tendency categories from early on in the book, I am undoubtedly a Questioner. That said, I question her seemingly blind devotion to the habit over what quality improvement it's supposed to aid. Exercise is an excellent example. As a lifelong acquirer and reformer of habits I'm extra sensitive to the trap of going through the motions. With exercise it's easy to do a lot while accomplishing very little. (And sometimes very little could be something unwelcome like repetitive strain injury.) Proper exercise needs to be focused, frequently varied, and never overdone, otherwise its value goes way down. Coincidentally, I was forming this thought when I read this line from Gretchen, "The fact that I can easily read magazines while I exercise may suggest that I'm not exercising very hard—and I'm not. But at least I'm showing up." Gretchen, I know from the rest of the book that you're better than that. Maybe it's my Questioner tendency speaking through, but habits need to produce qualitative outcomes. Otherwise they should be banished or reformed.
As a final note, be on the lookout for her "Secrets of Adulthood" scattered throughout the book. They are like little Easter Eggs of wisdom.
I was impressed with the emphasis on how different we all are - we don't all have the same goals, we can't all rely on the same strategies to keep going etc. I mostly warmed to the author and her personal anecdotes (I wonder if we are in fact twins separated at birth - I find myself also to be an Upholder/Lark etc), although I'd like to point out that I don't share her eating preferences!
Helpful and inspiring - let's see if I can go ahead and create the habits I have identified....
I liked this book much better than her other two books. My problem with Gretchen Rubin is that she constantly reminds us that she has a blog, and mentions her husband and children way too much. There are so many good
At times I found her preachy. She certainly doesn't do herself any favours when she recounts conversations that she has with people as she sounds completely righteous.
Like I said there were a lot of good takeaways from the book - I wish she had of expanded upon those and done away with all of the personal fluff.
I think Rubin needed someone as a test case who is the opposite of her. She’s such a perfectionist Upholder that it didn’t sound like she had any problems at all maintaining her habits, and unfortunately she comes off as sanctimonious. Then she gets so hyped up to want to help (change) others that I’m surprised she hasn’t lost some friends and acquaintances. Also, I read The Four Tendencies a few years ago, and this book is definitely just a warm up to that as you can tell that it was the book she really wanted to write once she had the chance.
I read this because one of my friends whose thoughts and intelligence I absolutely trust has been raving about the author - her books and her podcasts - for over a year to me. We've been talking a lot at work about good leadership and she thinks that understanding these different personality traits really helps her leadership of a varied group of people.
I get it and I did think there were some interesting suggestions in this book, but overall I was really, really annoyed by the author's tone. I suspect she was trying to use self-deprecating humor sometimes, but she came off as very smug. And the whole book was based around her life as an upholder set up vs. "the others". As if she was doing it all right and everyone else should aim to be like her. So annoying.
And then there was the troubling fact that she and I have almost the same habits and tendencies which made me wonder if everyone I know thinks I'm as annoying as she was to me!
So, I don't know, it came highly recommended but I can't think of anyone here who would really like it.
Here's the thing: I was a psych major in university. And because of that, I enjoyed the sections that were backed up by psychological
And this book was a great reminder that while I know a decent amount about human psychology, I'll be darned, I couldn't apply it to my own life and write regularly. This book is great at helping with that — at turning the theoretical into actions.
I was less interested in the sections that dealt with a departure from established, researched concepts (like some of her classifications, or the diet thing). There's no reason why some of the classifications she uses to categorize people couldn't be right. And I get her point: she is the most important data point in her own life, so if something doesn't work for the majority of the population but works for her... then the important thing is that it works for her, and there's no reason for her to stop doing it.
But I like my claims backed up with citations. So, when she had none... that ruined the credibility of the book a little for me.
Still, this isn't a psych textbook. This is a self-help book. And it conveys a lot of useful information about habits to the reader in a friendly and approachable way. I could see this being a fantastic source of help and motivation for a lot of people.