Before you plan your wedding, plan your marriage! Wish you could know what you're getting into when you say I do? Now, with this audiobook, you can. Dr. Gary Chapman, #1 New York Times best-selling author of 'The 5 Love Languages', has spent the last 35 years counseling couples. In Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married, he shares what he and these couples have learned from experience. Among the twelve things you should know: that being in love is not enough to make a successful marriage; that romantic love has two stages (and how to make the transition); that mutual sexual fulfillment is not automatic; and that personality profoundly affects behavior. The stakes on marriage are high, but the rewards of preparing are even higher. Whether you're single or dating, this audio can be your relationship blueprint and help you decide if and when you're ready to tie the knot. If you're engaged, even recently married, it will help you examine your relationship foundation and learn the skills necessary for building a successful marriage. This was written to help you realize your goal of marital happiness. But don't just listen to it - experience it. Grapple with the practical tips and ideas discussed, honestly share your thoughts and feelings, respect each other's opinions, and find workable solutions to your differences. The more you do so, says Chapman, the more you will be prepared for marriage.
Some of the key points I enjoyed reading most about include: love is not enough, 2 stages of romance, solving disagreements without arguing, toilets are not self-cleaning, and personality influences behavior. The discussion questions at the end of each chapter are a wonderful way for couples to begin drawing closer to each other and beginning to develop that healthy relationship that Chapman recommends.
Although Chapman does write about faith and spirituality in this book, even a non-religious person would find this book helpful and insightful. I highly recommend this book to any person anticipating marriage in the future, or anyone dating, engaged or even married already. I fully intend to purchase a copy for my children, and for gifts to give at bridal showers!