Screamfree Parenting: The Revolutionary Approach to Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool

by Hal Edward Runkel

Hardcover, 2007

Status

Available

Call number

649.1

Genres

Publication

Harmony (2007), Edition: 1, 240 pages

Description

You can start a revolution in your family ... tonight. Screamfree (trademark) parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It's about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids' behavior ... for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity. When we say we "lost it" with our kids, the "it" in that sentence is our own adulthood. And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family. It's time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you've always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member tjsjohanna

What I took from this book is that parenting has to come from the place that acknowledges agency. Children cannot be "forced" to do things without paying the consequences in the relationship and even in the behavior that eventually cannot be controlled as children grow to adulthood. This is the

single most difficult thing - parenting while not forcing behavior. I totally agree with Mr. Runkel's premise and I liked that he emphasized staying calm and being grown-up - not reacting with personal emotion, but acting with the end in mind. What I wish had been included in this book was more hands-on principles or more examples - it was hard for me to visualize how to apply the principles in all the many parenting interactions I have. I am going to work harder at being the grown-up in my relationships with my kids!

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LibraryThing member tiffwick

Though I may not agree with everything Runkel has to say, I am learning (and being reminded) of a lot. His philosophy can be used to improve any personal relationship, not just your kids.I recommend this book because I feel that most people can take away something.

LibraryThing member TheMadTurtle

My wife and I read this book together. I don't want to speak for her, but I think we both enjoyed the book very much. The ideas presented are wonderful to keep in mind in many types of situations with regard to our relationships, not just when we're frustrated with our children. Sure, there are

some "examples" Runkel uses to illustrate his points that are easy to go "yeah, right" to, but really you'll find that in just about any parenting book. Runkel gets to the heart of the matter here, though, by turning the focus away from our children's misbehavior and onto our part in how we deal with it. If a new parent asked me to recommend a book, this would be it.

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LibraryThing member jmoncton

Great parenting resource for parents of toddlers to teens.

LibraryThing member dms02

3.5 stars is probably more accurate a rating for me.

Decent book with a good premise. We are responsible to our children - not for them is the main concept. Teaches more about remaining calm and allowing children to make their own choices so that they grow to be independent human beings. Of course

consequences are a portion of that learning.

Reminded me of the Kahlil Gibran passage in the Prophet about children are not ours - they are just here for our guidance. Gleened a few good ideas and I will certainly have a cool calm mantra in my head as I parent moving forward.

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