Sorrow and Bliss: A BBC Two Between the Covers pick

by Meg Mason

Hardcover, 2021

Status

Available

Call number

823.92

Collection

Publication

W&N (2021), 352 pages

Description

Fiction. Literature. Humor (Fiction.) HTML: Shortlisted for the Women's Prize for Fiction! "Brilliantly faceted and extremely funny. . . . While I was reading it, I was making a list of all the people I wanted to send it to, until I realized that I wanted to send it to everyone I know." �?? Ann Patchett The internationally bestselling sensation, a compulsively readable novel�??spiky, sharp, intriguingly dark, and tender�??that Emma Straub has named one of her favorite books of the year Martha Friel just turned forty. Once, she worked at Vogue and planned to write a novel. Now, she creates internet content. She used to live in a pied-à-terre in Paris. Now she lives in a gated community in Oxford, the only person she knows without a PhD, a baby or both, in a house she hates but cannot bear to leave. But she must leave, now that her husband Patrick�??the kind who cooks, throws her birthday parties, who loves her and has only ever wanted her to be happy�??has just moved out. Because there's something wrong with Martha, and has been for a long time. When she was seventeen, a little bomb went off in her brain and she was never the same. But countless doctors, endless therapy, every kind of drug later, she still doesn't know what's wrong, why she spends days unable to get out of bed or alienates both strangers and her loved ones with casually cruel remarks. And she has nowhere to go except her childhood home: a bohemian (dilapidated) townhouse in a romantic (rundown) part of London�??to live with her mother, a minorly important sculptor (and major drinker) and her father, a famous poet (though unpublished) and try to survive without the devoted, potty-mouthed sister who made all the chaos bearable back then, and is now too busy or too fed up to deal with her. But maybe, by starting over, Martha will get to write a better ending for herself�??and she'll find out that she's not quite f… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member nivramkoorb
This book showed up on a best of list and I decided that it seemed interesting so I tried it and I was very impressed. Mason is an excellent writer and the book that deals with mental illness is full of humor but deals well with a serious subject. The book takes place in London and Oxford. We meet
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Martha a 40 year old married woman with no children just as her husband Patrick is leaving her. From there we are told Martha's story through her first person narrative. I always have a slight problem with books in the first person because I can never trust their assessment of the other characters in the book but in this case it is best told this way. Martha has been dealing with depression and long episodes of it since she was 17 but over the years she has gone from doctor to doctor and medicine to medicine with no firm diagnosis or cure. Along the way we meet the people in her life including her husband Patrick and her sister Ingrid. Each character brings a unique voice to the book and Martha's exchanges with her sister are where most of the humor comes from. This is a serious book but one that deals with so many issues of family relationships which are always difficult but even more so given Martha's mental illness. This was an excellent book and at 330 pages it was just the right length. For anyone who has ever struggled with mental illness or has a close relationship with someone in this situation, this book is a must read.
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LibraryThing member pgchuis
Funny and very sad. It felt real.

I particularly enjoyed Ingrid's sense of humour, and the character of Patrick.
LibraryThing member bobbieharv
I got this kindle book from my library because of the Ann Patchett blurb on the cover. Patchett wanted to send it to everybody she knows. I'm just glad she didn't send it to me. Some of the reviews said how funny it was. I never laughed. The narrator is a screwed up woman with zero self-awareness,
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who makes life miserable for the people who (unaccountably) love her. The only part that really grabbed me were the sessions with the therapist who finally diagnosed her, and how irritating is this? Her illness was only referred to as "_____"

What can be the point of that? And the disclaimer at the end: the symptoms "are not consistent with a genuine mental illness." So what is the point of making it all up?

One extra half star because at least it was fairly well-written
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LibraryThing member ablachly
I didn’t know a book could be both devastating and hopeful at once, but apparently it can.
LibraryThing member Castlelass
Protagonist Martha suffers from a (deliberately unnamed) mental illness. As the story opens, she is enduring her fortieth birthday party, and arguing with her husband. The storyline then shifts back to Martha’s past, onset of her mental issues, a failed first marriage, and details about her
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parents, sister, and current husband. It picks up where we came in (at the party) and goes forward into the next year.

The story is told in first person by Martha so the reader must be prepared to be in the head of an unreliable and often unpleasant narrator. During the early part of her illness, she is misdiagnosed and treated with ineffective medications. The point seems to be how poorly mental illness is sometimes handled, and the damaging ramifications. Other themes are love, family, loneliness, and self-accountability.

I have mixed feelings about this book. It is compelling in that I ignored other books to focus on this one. I very much enjoyed the protagonist’s relationship with her sister and her sister’s large family. But I would not recommend it to anyone who prefers a likeable main character. I think the reader needs to be in a good place mentally before embarking on this one (e.g., not suffering from depression). I am uncomfortable with the way mental health and mental health professionals are portrayed. The author admits that she is unfamiliar with this field, and it shows.
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LibraryThing member Othemts
Sorrow and Bliss begins with 40-year-old Martha Friel separating from her husband Patrick. Martha then narrates her life story going back to her childhood in a dysfunctional family that is elite but not prosperous. At the age of 17 she begins suffering recurring bouts of depression that profoundly
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affect her life. Only later in life does she learn that she has a condition (a fictional condition only referred to as “--” throughout the book) that runs through her family.

This condition makes Martha trying for those who love her especially Patrick and her sister Ingrid. The novel does a good job of balancing the deleterious effects of mental illness but not excusing Martha for the horrible things she does. Nevertheless she remains a sympathetic narrator. I wasn't totally won over by this novel but did find it had some good parts about familial love and reconciliation.
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LibraryThing member Paperandkindness
This was a strange read for me. The main character is a mess and she’s pretty unlikeable, but somehow I was rooting for her anyway.
LibraryThing member sachesney
I felt a little disorientated by this book and the lack of discussion about the main character's diagnosis of her mental illness. At times, although a good read, it felt frivolous to be so casual about the suffering to both Martha and Patrick.
LibraryThing member shazjhb
Martha has a mental illness - hereditary that effects her ability to function. This is not a known mental illness. However, what is interesting is the reaction others have to her illness and how she reacts. Interesting book. Not an easy read but it stays with you.
LibraryThing member ccayne
I wanted to like this, but I didn't. I found it claustrophobic and depressing.

Awards

Women's Prize for Fiction (Longlist — 2022)
RUSA CODES Reading List (Shortlist — 2022)
British Book Award (Winner — 2022)
Australian Book Industry Awards (Shortlist — Literary Fiction — 2021)

Language

Original language

English

Physical description

352 p.; 9.37 inches

ISBN

1474622976 / 9781474622974

Barcode

91120000468341

DDC/MDS

823.92
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