Mean

by Myriam Gurba

Paperback, 2017

Status

Available

Call number

813.6

Publication

Coffee House Press (2017), 160 pages

Description

Biography & Autobiography. LGBTQIA+ (Nonfiction.) Sociology. Nonfiction. HTML:"A painfully timely story . . . an artful memoir . . . a powerful, vital book about damage and the ghostly afterlives of abuse." �??Los Angeles Review of Books True crime, memoir, and ghost story, Mean is the bold and hilarious tale of Myriam Gurba's coming of age as a queer, mixed-race Chicana. Blending radical formal fluidity and caustic humor, Gurba takes on sexual violence, small towns, and race, turning what might be tragic into piercing, revealing comedy. This is a confident, intoxicating, brassy book that takes the cost of sexual assault, racism, misogyny, and homophobia deadly seriously. We act mean to defend ourselves from boredom and from those who would chop off our breasts. We act mean to defend our clubs and institutions. We act mean because we like to laugh. Being mean to boys is fun and a second-wave feminist duty. Being rude to men who deserve it is a holy mission. Sisterhood is powerful, but being a bitch is more exhilarating . . . "Mean calls for a fat, fluorescent trigger warning start to finish�??and I say this admiringly. Gurba likes the feel of radioactive substances on her bare hands." �??The New York Times "Gurba uses the tragedies, both small and large, she sees around her to illuminate the realities of systemic racism and misogyny, and the ways in which we can try to escape what society would like to tell us is our fate." �??Nylon "With its icy wit, edgy wedding of lyricism and prose, and unflinching look at personal and public demons, Gurba's introspective memoir is brave and significant." �??Kirkus Reviews "Mean will make you LOL and break your heart." �??… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member lisapeet
What a great memoir—it's all voice, but it's an incredibly strong and engaging voice, honest and brutal and super funny. /there were so many good moments of recognition about the ways the exterior world knocks up against the world in your head if you're a particular sort of smart, restless,
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impatient woman, and Gurba has a pitch-perfect tone for telling you all about it—sort of in between a glint in her eye and a punch on the arm. Really really sharp.
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LibraryThing member Dreesie
I read this for the CA book club (Alta magazine), and I admit I enjoyed it way more than I expected to. I have read some of Gurba's articles, tweets, and the SCATHING review of American Dirt. She always came across as having a huge chip on her shoulder. So I was curious how she would write when
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choosing her own topics and having time to edit, etc. The chip is smaller, and she clearly has a dry and sarcastic sense of humor--as do I--and her humor is very apparent. So many of her topics are very serious, but the humor she shows and in the "meanness" she uses to survive, shows a lot of self-reflection and kindness.

In this book, a memoir written in short essay-chapters, she discusses her childhood in Santa Maria as a "Molack"--her term for her 3/4 Mexican 1/4 Polish self. Racial divides at school, her sister's anorexia, her own reading. She discusses sexual assault and the police, and her own refusing to testify for fear of seeing the perpetrator. She goes off to Cal--4 years after I left--and I loved this section discussing the dorms, classes, buildings, everything. I really enjoyed her essay format, because the book does not flow over 20 years, it is snapshots that weave in and out.

My only complaint? She is obsessed with white people being blonde and the pop culture "blondes have more fun" "gentlemen prefer blondes" etc etc. Spoiler alert--you can be white and have dark brown hair since birth. And you get all the same *#@! about not being blonde. (My personal favorite: "Dye your hair the shade of blonde you were as a kid!" Um, impossible.)
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LibraryThing member BibliophageOnCoffee
Myriam Gurba has a fierce and unique voice. Worth checking out.

Awards

Lambda Literary Award (Finalist — 2018)
Publishing Triangle Awards (Finalist — Judy Grahn Award for Lesbian Nonfiction — 2018)
ALA Over the Rainbow Book List (Selection — 2019)

Language

Original language

English

Original publication date

2017

Physical description

160 p.; 5.5 inches

ISBN

1566894913 / 9781566894913
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