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Biography & Autobiography. LGBTQIA+ (Nonfiction.) Sociology. Nonfiction. HTML:"A painfully timely story . . . an artful memoir . . . a powerful, vital book about damage and the ghostly afterlives of abuse." �??Los Angeles Review of Books True crime, memoir, and ghost story, Mean is the bold and hilarious tale of Myriam Gurba's coming of age as a queer, mixed-race Chicana. Blending radical formal fluidity and caustic humor, Gurba takes on sexual violence, small towns, and race, turning what might be tragic into piercing, revealing comedy. This is a confident, intoxicating, brassy book that takes the cost of sexual assault, racism, misogyny, and homophobia deadly seriously. We act mean to defend ourselves from boredom and from those who would chop off our breasts. We act mean to defend our clubs and institutions. We act mean because we like to laugh. Being mean to boys is fun and a second-wave feminist duty. Being rude to men who deserve it is a holy mission. Sisterhood is powerful, but being a bitch is more exhilarating . . . "Mean calls for a fat, fluorescent trigger warning start to finish�??and I say this admiringly. Gurba likes the feel of radioactive substances on her bare hands." �??The New York Times "Gurba uses the tragedies, both small and large, she sees around her to illuminate the realities of systemic racism and misogyny, and the ways in which we can try to escape what society would like to tell us is our fate." �??Nylon "With its icy wit, edgy wedding of lyricism and prose, and unflinching look at personal and public demons, Gurba's introspective memoir is brave and significant." �??Kirkus Reviews "Mean will make you LOL and break your heart." �??… (more)
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In this book, a memoir written in short essay-chapters, she discusses her childhood in Santa Maria as a "Molack"--her term for her 3/4 Mexican 1/4 Polish self. Racial divides at school, her sister's anorexia, her own reading. She discusses sexual assault and the police, and her own refusing to testify for fear of seeing the perpetrator. She goes off to Cal--4 years after I left--and I loved this section discussing the dorms, classes, buildings, everything. I really enjoyed her essay format, because the book does not flow over 20 years, it is snapshots that weave in and out.
My only complaint? She is obsessed with white people being blonde and the pop culture "blondes have more fun" "gentlemen prefer blondes" etc etc. Spoiler alert--you can be white and have dark brown hair since birth. And you get all the same *#@! about not being blonde. (My personal favorite: "Dye your hair the shade of blonde you were as a kid!" Um, impossible.)