[What′s an explosive child? A child who responds to routine problems with extreme frustration-crying, screaming, swearing, kicking, hitting, biting, spitting, destroying property, and worse. A child whose frequent, severe outbursts leave his or her parents feeling frustrated, scared, worried, and desperate for help. Most of these parents have tried everything-reasoning, explaining, punishing, sticker charts, therapy, medication-but to no avail. They can′t figure out why their child acts the way he or she does; they wonder why the strategies that work for other kids don′t work for theirs; and they don′t know what to do instead.]
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We've all seen an "explosive child": one who exhibits intense temper outbursts, sudden mood swings, extreme noncompliance, and verbal and physical aggression. For parents who seem to have tried everything, finally there is hope. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Ross Greene provides a practical, compassionate approach to treating these children, who may be diagnosed with any of various psychiatric disorders, including oppositional-defiant disorder, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), bipolar disorder, and Tourette's disorder. Drawing upon recent advances in the neurosciences and his extensive experience working with challenging children, Dr. Greene explains that they are not willfully destructive. Their behaviors stem from brain-based deficits in two critical developmental skills: flexibility and frustration tolerance. With Dr. Greene's sensitive, expert advice, you will find ways to defuse explosive episodes, reduce tension, and build a warm, lasting relationship with your child.
This is a FANTASTIC book, and I would highly recommend it to anyone who has a defiant or easily frustrated child. Just the beginning of the book alone was really helpful to me – the author believes that most children with the sorts of issues he describes in this book (ADD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, etc.) really are motivated to do well (in other words, it’s not just more discipline that is needed), and that they do well if they have the ability. If they are misbehaving, it’s likely because they don’t have the developmental skills to do any differently.
Then, the author gives some strategies for making the child’s environment “User-friendlier,” to reduce the number of tantrums and other sorts of episodes, mostly through what is basically well-defined “choose your battles” system. I loved this book.
While you may think, "Oh no, another disorder to labe...moreThis book was a necessity and was rather helpful. Imagine a normal, intelligent child who is able to focus for the most part, but in certain instances explodes suddenly into a rage over trivial things. The Explosive Child tells the story of such children and gives explanations of how to deal with such children, why they may act in such a way, and how to recognize and prevent such occurrences before they get out of control.
While you may think, "Oh no, another disorder to label children with," Dr. Greene clearly separates the inflexible/explosive child from the pack of dysfunctional children with such disorders as ADHD, tourettes, or autism. His methods for dealing with an inflexible/explosive child require more discipline for the adult than for the child, but are logical and effective. Consequences for misbehavior to a child who already knows they are acting in an unacceptable way, could be counter-productive to developing the skills required for dealing with their inflexibility to change. Greene shows you how to recognize the signs of a meltdown before the child loses all control and tells you how to counter it with empathy and understanding.
This is a good book for all caregivers and teachers; especially those who work with preschool and grade school students. It is also important for any parent with a child that they have lost hope and patience for.
Empathizing, detailing concerns, and inviting him to help me meet both of our needs helps to minimize the outbursts, and has taught me, perhaps most importantly, to understand why I am giving the rules and limitations I am. A parent who says no, just for the sake of establishing dominance is doing nothing worthwhile for the child. I regret that I am sometimes that parent.