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Juvenile Fiction. Juvenile Literature. LGBTQIA+ (Fiction.) HTML:EIGHT STARRED REVIEWS! The reassuring book kids and families need right now. "An absolute original . . . a story that kids will love." �??R. J. Palacio, bestselling author of Wonder At a time when everything is changing for Bea and her family, the important things will always stay the same. A soon-to-be classic by the Newbery Award-winning author of When You Reach Me. After her parents' divorce, Bea's life became different in many ways. But she can always look back at the list she keeps in her green notebook to remember the things that will stay the same. The first and most important: Mom and Dad will always love Bea, and each other. When Dad tells Bea that he and his boyfriend, Jesse, are getting married, Bea is thrilled. Bea loves Jesse, and when he and Dad get married, she'll finally (finally!) have what she's always wanted�??a sister. Even though she's never met Jesse's daughter, Sonia, Bea is sure that they'll be "just like sisters anywhere." As the wedding day approaches, Bea will learn that making a new family brings questions, surprises, and joy, and readers will discover why the New York Times called Rebecca Stead a "writer of great feeling." "An undeniably beautiful book." �??The New York Times "No author writing today observes young lives with more clarity, tenderness, and grace." �??Newbery Medalist Katherine Applegate, author of The One and Only Ivan "Stead truly understands the inner life of kids." �??Newbery Medalist Erin Entrada Kelly, author of Hello, Universe and Yo… (more)
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This story is heart-warming and
Basically the book hits the themes of
This is a chronicle of her reflectios of her past and evolving current situation.
In her short past she has some regrets. Well, don’t we all! The birthday party where she played musical chairs and when no chair was a available when the music
When she was eight, her mother and father called her in for a meeting and she found out they were getting a divorce. Bea also learns that her dad is gay.
Divorce changes Bea's life as it does for everyone. She now alternates her life between two different houses depending on which day it is. She finds out she is getting a sister. She goes to therapy to talk about how it's going.
Bea is actually navigating her life pretty well. Her parents gave her a journal to keep a list of things in her life that will not change.
1. Mom loves you more than anything, always.
2. Dad loves you more than anything, always.
3. Mom and dad love each other, but in a different way.
4. You will always have a home with each of us.
The list goes on and amazingly the parents completely uphold the list. Does that ever really happen in divorces. It is my hope, but not my experience.
This story, while not a thrilling one, is compelling as you experience the ups and downs of Bea's new life with two dads, a reluctant new sister and a hostile uncle.
I found this book to be deeply touching, and warmly reassuring as we all must open our eyes and hearts to the differences in people.
The book poses some some tough questions for our 21st century children and is delicately respectful of the complexity of life and the wonder of the gifts we all are given but don’t always utilise; forgiveness and love.
This is an excellent addition to the LBTQ collection. It might be a controversial edition in some settings.
Fiction, ages 8 - 12
The book is designed for middle grade students. It introduces sexuality, divorce, same sex marriage, the meaning of love, anger management, and coming of age with all the problems and joys associated with it. Children deal with illness,
I am not sure how appropriate it is for children who have no interest in same sex issues or those with no connection to the issue of homosexuality, but it seems to me the book crosses sexual borders because of how it deals with the subject of all kinds of relationships and myriad issues adults and children face. While some children may be too young to understand the concepts, and it may confuse them about their own sexuality, with a parent’s input, they should all do fine.
The book is written very well, with tremendous insight into the mind of the middle grade 8-year old when she learns of her parent’s divorce. She is the main character in the book. To reassure her, her parents give her a list of things that will not change because of the divorce, and she adds to it as the book develops. One could substitute any divorcing couple or couple remarrying, and the book would have the same excellent value in helping children deal with the stresses of life caused by those they are involved with and love. The subject is handled authentically and compassionately by the author. Kudos to her.
1. Mom loves you more than
2. Dad loves you more than anything, always.
3. Mom and Dad love each other, but in a different way.
They also told Bea that Dad was gay, and in response to Bea’s question, told her yes, he would be gay forever. She added that to the list of “Things That Will Not Change.”
Bea has eczema. It gets worse when she has anxiety, which she feels quite often. Bea also has issues dealing with hurt and anger, so she sees a therapist, Miriam.
Following the divorce, Dad got a boyfriend, Jesse, and after two years, Dad announced they would be getting married. Bea loved Jesse, but as she said, she had never thought about her dad being married to Jesse: “Or anyone, except my mom.” But Bea rolled with it, because she never wanted Jesse to leave. Bea spent a part of each week with each parent.
“I thought how my life with Mom and Dad was like a room with two big windows and two different moons.”
Jesse’s sister Sheila babysat Bea, and Bea’s whole family adored Sheila. But most importantly, Jesse had a daughter named Sonia in California, and she was the same age as Bea. Bea couldn’t wait to get a sister when her dad and Jesse married.
Another thread in the story concerns Mission, Sheila’s twin brother. Mission refused to accept that Jesse was gay. Sheila told Bea:
“Some people would probably think it’s wrong for me to be telling you this, Bea. But you might as well know right now that there are people who will try to make you choose between who you are and who they want you to be. You have to watch out for those people.”
Jesse said as much to Bea but in a different way:
"If you think about it, Bea, life is like a trip. A very long one. And what matters most is the people you travel with.”
Miriam tries to work with Bea and her anger. She explained to Bea:
“There are times when it’s right to be angry, Bea. And there are times when we use anger as a kind of protection from feeling hurt. It’s a way of covering up.”
Miriam encouraged Bea to think about the long-term effects of her behavior before she acted. Mostly though she tells Bea (a lot) that she is a wonderful person, and she needs to forgive herself for her things she did in the past when she was hurt and angry. Bea knew her misdeeds were not good, and was surprised that her apologies to people she hurt were accepted. As Miriam noted, “Everyone but you forgives you.”
Evaluation: Bea’s parents (all three - Mom, Dad, and Jesse) are unbelievably perfect. Bea, on the other hand, is given to do very nasty, harmful things when she feels psychic pain. I'm not sure how those two aspects of the story connect. In any event, the characterization of Bea and of her actions and feelings is excellent. This middle grade book would make a great choice for group discussions in school and/or reading and discussing together with parents.
Not my favorite Rebecca Stead, but this was ok. I think I probably prefer
She is super excited to have a new half sister, even if it doesn't always play out as she hopes.
I thought this was a very interesting handling of a kid with anxiety and impulse control issues. Stead has managed to really get into Bea's perspective beautifully. This is for a younger middle-grade audience, and deals with lots of interesting situations regarding school, the dads' marriage, and various friendship and family situations. I'm not sure that the ending ties everything together the way the author intended, but it's a gentle read that I'd recommend to those who enjoy realistic juvenile fiction.
It feels like free therapy for the reader when Bea goes to her therapist -- which is either extremely appealing or kinda preachy, depending on your pov, but I loved her therapist's kindness and her coping suggestions. I found the book pretty firmly white and privileged in the race column, although I can't quite remember if Jesse's family is mixed race, so I might be selling it short. I think a lot of kids, especially young girls dealing with family transitions, will really enjoy this book and get a lot out of it.
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