Hold on to Your Kids : Why Parents Matter

by Gordon Neufeld

Other authorsGabor Maté (Author)
Hardcover, 2004



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EC Child & Brain development




A.A. Knopf Canada (2004), Edition: First Edition, 344 pages


Family & Relationships. Psychology. Nonfiction. HTML:This parenting classic on one of the most disturbing and misunderstood trends of our timeâ??peers replacing parents in the lives of childrenâ??is now more relevant than ever. The latest edition includes new material on how social media and video game culture are affecting our children, and what parents can do.   In Hold On to Your Kids, Dr. Neufeld and Dr. MatĂ© explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for directionâ??for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behaviour. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids. Once understood, it becomes self-evidentâ??as do… (more)


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344 p.; 6.3 inches

User reviews

LibraryThing member carterchristian1
This is a very important book. Peers have such strong influence on children in these days of Facebook and cell phones. It is hard for parents to persist. But they must do so and keep doing it if children to survive in this society.
LibraryThing member Cecilturtle
A fairly common sense approach to parenting. I have reservations as to the underlying theme that Mom should stay at home, but the actual premise is sound. With parents more and more delegating their role due to social pressures (especially in North America), I can see how this would be valid. I
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think European values still hold strong with an emphasis on family, so this thesis may seem a bit extreme. A little dry, but well explained.
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LibraryThing member MarthaL
An excellent books for parents of children of all ages to read. Presents the concepts of collecting your children. Discusses the power of peer pressure and how to counteract it. Well worth reading again and discussing with others.
LibraryThing member Mirkwood
Just started it, no surprise here. For years "professionals" have told us how to parent our kids and kids are not better off for it. Glad I didn't listen.Attachment parenting validated, nice for a change.
LibraryThing member deldevries
Some great ideas in here. Think about relationships and positive attachment through connection as helping an adolescent grow up in a safe environment. Peer pressure might be positive, but why leave it to chance.




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