The Excellent Wife: A Biblical Perspective

by Martha Peace

Paperback, 1999



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Focus Publishing (1999), Edition: Revised, 257 pages


Christian Nonfiction. Religion & Spirituality. Nonfiction. Here is a scripturally based blueprint for the woman who truly desires to be the wife God intended her to be. This book is based on Proverbs 31:10: An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels." Thousands of women have already discovered the worth of this volume and testify to lives and marriages changed because of a commitment to the principles presented here. If this is a commitment you have made, or want to make, The Excellent Wife answers the difficult questions facing you today.

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LibraryThing member autumnesf
Basic Biblical principles on how to be a Godly wife.
LibraryThing member atimco
The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace is just what its subtitle says: a biblical perspective on what wives should aspire to be. With so many competing voices telling us about marriage and the role of women, it's refreshing to read what the Bible says about the subject. It's refreshing to see a design
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different from the dysfunction and failed experimentation of the world.

But make no mistake — this is a book that will upset you. It is not a book for those looking for quick fixes for difficult marriages, or commiseration over the sins of a husband, or feel-good encouragement and sentimentality. This is a hard book... but it is a good book. Like Scripture, Peace reminds us repeatedly of our own responsibility to be godly, no matter what our husbands are like. Our marriages may be difficult, but that is no excuse for sin. It's pretty black and white.

Peace, a NANC biblical counselor, often includes charts that compare sinful responses and thoughts with godly perspectives to adopt instead (for example, "I can't believe he did this to me again" would be replaced with something like, "He did this again. How can I love and help him?"). These charts are helpful tools to train our thinking. There is practical help for women in difficult marriages, especially women married to unbelievers.

The only criticism I would make is that Peace sometimes strains a little too hard to make a certain verse fit her point. She is so concerned with being biblical in all her statements that she interprets a couple verses rather widely to encompass the meaning she wants to convey. I don't want to split hairs, but I do want to be careful with handling Scripture. I wish I had noted some as I read to cite as examples. There weren't many, just a few that made me raise an eyebrow.

I read this book in two pieces — one large chunk all in one day, and then the last couple chapters exactly (quite by accident) a year later. I'm not sure why I didn't finish it sooner. Maybe it was less tempting than fiction. Maybe I felt I paid my dues with reading so much of it in one day, or that I already had all this stuff down. Or maybe it was that I began to see areas in my own life where my godliness as a wife was so far from the real standard of the Word.

I was convicted mostly on my own definition of submission and how it differs from God's (yikes, that's sin, to set up my own definition instead of following His). Biblically, I should be cultivating an attitude of submission that goes far beyond simply deferring to my husband's leadership in the decision-making process. For my own joy as well as that of my husband, I should be seeking to submit constantly and this includes the most mundane details of life. This does not preclude appeals or providential hindrances, of course. It is just a heart attitude that I am seeing is not consistently present in my life.

The doctrine and practice of submission is so open to attack by the secular world that cannot see its inherent beauty. All they see is how it has been misunderstood and abused by fallible people, and I'm sorry for it. But as I work through it in my own life, I know that it is an act of obedience to God. Therefore, it is for His glory and my good and joy. And that is why I will continue to pursue it.

I will very likely revisit this book and use it to minister to women struggling to love their husbands in the way God designed. It's a good resource.
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LibraryThing member Pammela
My FAVORITE Book of all time for wives!!! I cannot say enough about this book. I was blessed to be a part of an online Bible Study with other women discussing this book in weekly lesson/discussion format. I was also doubly blessed to be able to take over the online discussion group and lead this
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study. This book is life-changing!! The light is taken off of the husband and focused on the wife. I learned that it wasn't my husband at was me that I needed to focus on. God changes and works in the heart of our spouses. We are resonsible for our own actions. Leave the rest to God! Very practical things to do that will transform you (wife) and bless your marriage. Totally Biblically based upon Scripture. A Must have for any wife and the married to be.
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