Description
When parenting authorities Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish sat down to write the national bestseller How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, they found that the could not contain their chapter on sibling rivalry. No matter how much they tried to pare down their advice, they found the subject inexhaustible-and parents agreed! Siblings Without Rivalry guides the way to family peace and tranquility with humor and compassion for both parents and children. Action-oriented and easy to understand, it's packed with sensitive yet sensible ways to turn quarreling siblings and frustrated parents into an open, communicative family.
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Available
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Collections
Publication
WmMorrowPB (1988), Edition: Reissue, 219 pages
User reviews
LibraryThing member teckelvik
This book drives me nuts. I've had it recommended frequently, and the ideas make sense, but the chatty, fake-therapy-session format is so hard for me to read I kept giving up part way through. I finally decided to read one chapter at a time and see if that helped.
1. Kids need to learn the skills
1. Kids need to learn the skills
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that are necessary to building caring relationships and dealing with others who are different than they are. Parents should focus on teaching those skills rather than worrying about the current drama or imposing their ideas about family life. Show Less
LibraryThing member SydneyAP
An excellent practical guide to negotiating your family through disputes in a respectful and thoughtful manner. Great examples illustrate the techniques and encourage creativity in problem solving. Pushes the negotiations back on the siblings, leaving parents free to arbitrate in more serious
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matters and equipping siblings with a great toolkit for the future. Show Less
LibraryThing member mellonhead
This book has taught me so much about family dynamics and the roles we put on each other. It even had me re-inspecting my role in my family growing up. It is an easy read, and I have picked it up every 6-9 months and re-read portions of it and learn something new each time. I think it takes a while
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to learn the skills they recommend to help you learn to manage your children to help them learn to manage their relationships. It is a phenomenal parenting tool. I can't recommend it enough! Show Less
LibraryThing member LLLMontebello
Vivid dialogue and cartoons show how children can express their feelings without doing damage, how parents can be helpful to both "bully" and "victim," how to reduce rage between battling siblings, and how to motivate children to work out their own solutions to problems.
LibraryThing member HippieLunatic
Sometimes it is good for a parent to have common sense laid out so plainly before them.
LibraryThing member xuesheng
This is a very readable book on parenting and sibling relationships. Many times, I read through parenting books very slowly trying to capture the thoughts, but this one was so well written and organized, that I read through it quickly. I especially like the Quick Reminders that give a brief summary
Topics covered include:
- Acknowledging feelings about each other
- Resisting comparison of siblings
- Treat children uniquely
- Don't lock a child into a role
- No more problem children
- Handling fighting
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of the topics in each chapter and the cartoons that illustrate the wrong way and the right way to handle sibling stresses. This will be a valuable and handy reference.Topics covered include:
- Acknowledging feelings about each other
- Resisting comparison of siblings
- Treat children uniquely
- Don't lock a child into a role
- No more problem children
- Handling fighting
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LibraryThing member lilysea
I like the Positive Discipline series in general and this book in particular is full of useful examples, tips and reminders to help prevent all-out sibling war.
LibraryThing member stephaniechase
Indispensible for anyone with more than one child.
LibraryThing member DinadansFriend
Not a very good book, didn't help much, they're immature people living in the same house, quarreling over limited resources...gotta live with that.
LibraryThing member SueinCyprus
This is a very readable book, with the approach of finding good solutions to sibling problems, and helping children learn to get along without parental interference, wherever possible.
The first chapter is introductory, giving examples of the kinds of problems many parents experience: children
While none of the material was new to me (I first read this over twenty years ago), it was a useful reminder about parents’ and other adults' roles in helping children learn to deal with problems that arise. The book is so readable, and so interesting that I read the whole thing, including the supplementary chapters to the 10th anniversary edition, in just a few hours.
The ideas won't necessarily work first time, but are well worth considering if one's current approach is not having any success. I recommend this book highly to any adult dealing with children who can’t get along at all, or who are worn down with children fighting.
The first chapter is introductory, giving examples of the kinds of problems many parents experience: children
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fighting, putting each other down, and so on. The rest of the book helps parents to see when it’s appropriate to get involved, and how to see issues from a child's point of view.While none of the material was new to me (I first read this over twenty years ago), it was a useful reminder about parents’ and other adults' roles in helping children learn to deal with problems that arise. The book is so readable, and so interesting that I read the whole thing, including the supplementary chapters to the 10th anniversary edition, in just a few hours.
The ideas won't necessarily work first time, but are well worth considering if one's current approach is not having any success. I recommend this book highly to any adult dealing with children who can’t get along at all, or who are worn down with children fighting.
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LibraryThing member Bertha_
Great book! It reminded me of "The Happiest Kid on the Block".
LibraryThing member ACRF
This wise, groundbreaking book gives parents the practical tools they need to cope with conflict, encourage cooperation, reduce competition, and make it possible for children to experience the joys of their special relationship. With humor and understanding―much gained from raising their own
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children―Faber and Mazlish explain how and when to intervene in fights, provide suggestions on how to help children channel their hostility into creative outlets, and demonstrate how to treat children unequally and still be fair. Selected Reading Questionnaire. Show Less
LibraryThing member bookworm12
This a great reference book for helping your kids develop healthy relationships with their siblings. Stand-out points to me are:
Encouraging your kids to work out the problem together instead of involving you.
Talk to your kids about specific things you love about them instead of saying to love
Never pigeonhole your kids by saying they are specifically good or bad at something in front of other people. Or pitting your kids against one another by saying the other one is better at something (cleaning up, being on time, doing homework, etc.)
Spend one-on-one time with each kid and don't talk about the other kids during that time.
Encouraging your kids to work out the problem together instead of involving you.
Talk to your kids about specific things you love about them instead of saying to love
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everyone equally. I love you uniquely, not equally.Never pigeonhole your kids by saying they are specifically good or bad at something in front of other people. Or pitting your kids against one another by saying the other one is better at something (cleaning up, being on time, doing homework, etc.)
Spend one-on-one time with each kid and don't talk about the other kids during that time.
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Language
Original language
English
Original publication date
1987
1998 (updated)
Physical description
219 p.; 8 inches
ISBN
0380705273 / 9780380705276
UPC
071001008951