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Middlebrook was not quite fifty when she was told that a lump in her breast was not only malignant, but had already metastasized. When Middlebrook's husband asked the surgeon for an honest prognosis, she told him his wife had a 50 percent chance of surviving two more years. Unlike the many upbeat books that end with the author triumphing over his or her illness through traditional or alternative medicine, or by some variation of mind over matter, this book offers no naive conclusion. What it does give is a picture of family love, including lessons in dealing with pain so real and unflinching that readers will cling to Middlebrook even as she takes them right to the edge of the abyss. Seeing the Crab is filled with unforgettable vignettes - of the author unable to activate the automatic faucets in an airport bathroom (as if the machine already sees her as gone), facing up to her daughter's refusal to get a driver's license (so that her mother cannot leave her), and coming to appreciate a friend's brutally honest words: "This is life's biggest transition. Go for it."… (more)
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Middlebrook was a Jungian psychologist and I particularly liked the final chapter ("The Dier") and her discussion of the Ego vs. the Psyche. A quote: My ego holds as tenaciously to life as anyone else's. I cannot imagine this world without me in it, or at least I couldn't in the beginning. There is nothing I, or any soldier or doctor or commander-in-chief, any director of hematology oncology or the Nobel Prize winner who discovered the oncogene, can do to change how bad I feel about dying in my fifties. My only ally is surrender. I find great relief in surrender. Surrender means I can stop worrying and fretting and figuring out what I am supposed to do. I can forget about beating odds and just live my life. I don't need to work harder than I already have, I tell myself, because I have already done everything that I can and because I didn't do anything wrong in the first place.
This book was published in 1996 and Middlebrook unexpectedly ended up living until the age of 67, dying in 2009. This is both a very personal memoir of a specific woman and her family and treatment decisions at a specific time in history, and also a universal exploration of living with a terminal illness. She does not mince words or hold back her anger and frustration. She can also be very funny and an astute and uncompromising observer of both herself and others. I found a lot I could relate to here, and I really liked Middlebrook's writing style. Recommended for fans of potentially depressing cancer memoirs!