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Business. Psychology. Self-Improvement. Nonfiction. HTML:"Hosts of all kinds, this is a must-read!" �??Chris Anderson, owner and curator of TED From the host of the New York Times podcast Together Apart, an exciting new approach to how we gather that will transform the ways we spend our time together�??at home, at work, in our communities, and beyond. In The Art of Gathering, Priya Parker argues that the gatherings in our lives are lackluster and unproductive�??which they don't have to be. We rely too much on routine and the conventions of gatherings when we should focus on distinctiveness and the people involved. At a time when coming together is more important than ever, Parker sets forth a human-centered approach to gathering that will help everyone create meaningful, memorable experiences, large and small, for work and for play. Drawing on her expertise as a facilitator of high-powered gatherings around the world, Parker takes us inside events of all kinds to show what works, what doesn't, and why. She investigates a wide array of gatherings�??conferences, meetings, a courtroom, a flash-mob party, an Arab-Israeli summer camp�??and explains how simple, specific changes can invigorate any group experience. The result is a book that's both journey and guide, full of exciting ideas with real-world applications. The Art of Gathering will forever alter the way you look at your next meeting, industry conference, dinner party, and backyard barbecue�??and how you hos… (more)
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Almost anyone can get something out of this book. If you're human and not a hermit, you most likely gather in some way over some occasion at some point - weddings, funerals, hosting a few friends to dinner - these are all gatherings. In business, a meeting, a conference - these are gatherings too. Parker takes general principles that you can apply in almost any situation. She talks about having a specific purpose to the gathering, and using that to make decisions about where it is located and how you structure the event. From there, she uses her expertise to explain ways in which you can make a more meaningful, memorable gathering: but unlike most books on gatherings, she's less interested in logistics than in people. I liked that she includes examples of times she didn't get it right. She's not setting herself up as a perfect person who's got it all down; she's learning too, and she's here to explain what she's learned and why she believes in doing things the way she lays it out. I'm hoping to put some of this into practice in some of the gatherings I'm involved in personally and professionally.
Described (by its subtitle) as a book on “how we meet and why it matters,” it might not immediately catch the attention of those of us involved in training-teaching-learning—which is a real shame, for in adjusting our thinking so that “lessons,” “workshops,” “courses,” and “panel discussions” are seen through the powerful lens of “gatherings,” we find magnificent ways to liberate ourselves and our learners from the “tedium of learning” and find new ways to turn those lessons/workshops/courses/panel discussions into engaging, transformative gatherings with long-term impact.
The initial chapters of this engagingly-written book focus on social gatherings and the gatherings that occur when, for example, students and senior citizens living together in a retirement community interact over a long period of time. She offers concise reminders that successful gatherings grow out of myriad up-front decisions about the purpose of the gathering, the location in which it will be held, the duration of the gathering, and even the number of people who will be included in the gathering—all of which, of course, are elements considered and decisions made as we design and facilitate effective, memorable, transformative learning opportunities.
One of the sections where she tremendously inspires us in our lifelong-learning environments is in her discussion, near the middle of the book (pp. 172-173), on the importance of providing a memorable opening to any gathering. She reminds us that we have plenty of adaptable models for providing stimulating, memorable openings for our gatherings—including the formats common today in movies and television programs through what she refers to as “the cold open…the practice of starting a TV show directly with a scene rather than with opening credits.” Applying the cold open and its storytelling roots to my own work has completely changed the way I approach the learning opportunities I design and facilitate. And if you take the time to read Parker’s book, you may find it inspiring you in equally positive ways.
Much of what she says represent things we should know
Parker also helpfully reframes many aspects of gatherings and meetings for us. She encourages hosts to leverage “generous authority”: by virtue of being the host, they do have a position of authority in the gathering, and acting as if they shouldn’t is really an abdication and often leads to confusion. “Generous” is an important caveat, for the authority should not come across as controlling. She praises the virtue of defining specific guest/participant lists for specific events: we often want to be more welcoming in a lot of events, but bringing more people in can lead to a complete vibe shift or disrupts the flow of the event entirely. No one remembers meetings in which there is no “heat” or grappling with difficulties or disagreements. Don’t start or end with logistics; logistics should be penultimate, and done as creatively as possible. Be intentional with creating a different space for the event and have clearly defined beginnings and endings. Try to make it so that guests or participants will not try to present their best selves and make it all about puffery; find ways to make it real. Allowing an event to have its end is healthy but difficult.
There’s a lot of good wisdom here to consider for anyone active in hosting any kind of gathering.