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Humor (Fiction.) Young Adult Fiction. Young Adult Literature. HTML:Award-winning author Susin Nielsen has written a laugh-out-loud and heartrending novel for fans of Robyn Schneiderâ??s Extraordinary Means and Cammie McGovernâ??s Say What You Will. Beware: Life ahead. Sixteen-year-old Petula de Wilde is anything but wild. A former crafting fiend with a happy life, Petula shut herself off from the world after a family tragedy. She sees danger in all the ordinary things, like crossing the street, a bug bite, or a germy handshake. She knows: life is out to get you. The worst part of her week is her comically lame mandatory art therapy class with a small group of fellow misfits. Then a new boy, Jacob, appears at school and in her therapy group. He seems so normal and confident, though he has a prosthetic arm; and soon he teams up with Petula on a hilarious project, gradually inspiring her to let go of some of her fears. But as the two grow closer, a hidden truth behind why heâ??s in the group threatens to derail them, unless Petula takes a huge risk. . . Praise: Bank Street Best Childrenâ??s Books of the Year â??Nielsen writes with sensitivity, empathy, and humor.â?ť â??Kirkus Reviews, Starred â??Nielsen excels at depicting troubled, clever teenagers in familiar environments.â?ť â??School Library Journal, Starred â??[An] empathic and deeply moving story, balanced by sharply funny narration and dialogue.â?ť â??Publishers Weekly, Starred â??A poignant exploration into the nuances of heali… (more)
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Tundra Books (2018), 256 pages
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2017-02-21
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LibraryThing member SandyAMcPherson
This was a depressing, difficult story which I would never give to a young teen. While the author's writings have previously resonated strongly with the plight of growing up in a city renowned for its underbelly of dysfunctional families with no recourse to effective counselling, this book came
There seemed so many unresolved aspects to the narrative and the two main characters (Petula and Jacob) are not left in a good mental space.
Nielsen has written other novels where the issues are realistic and often not entirely addressed or 'fixed' by the end of the book. These stories about the gritty side of life in Vancouver (BC) were insightful and well-written. She was effective in using the teenaged voice and in keeping it real. Overall those titles were good to read, with some uplift at the end. I think this book never reached that level.
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across as grim and unhappy.There seemed so many unresolved aspects to the narrative and the two main characters (Petula and Jacob) are not left in a good mental space.
Nielsen has written other novels where the issues are realistic and often not entirely addressed or 'fixed' by the end of the book. These stories about the gritty side of life in Vancouver (BC) were insightful and well-written. She was effective in using the teenaged voice and in keeping it real. Overall those titles were good to read, with some uplift at the end. I think this book never reached that level.
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LibraryThing member bucketofrhymes
I received a free copy of Optimists Die First from the publisher in exchange for an honest review -- thank you!
This is an equisite, funny, cat-filled book that made me cry a whole lot more than I was expecting. Dealing with issues of anxiety and guilt, the author explores tough topics while
Highly recommended for fans of young adult literature... especially if you like books such as Alice, I Think (which was even referenced in here!) or those support group novels.
This is an equisite, funny, cat-filled book that made me cry a whole lot more than I was expecting. Dealing with issues of anxiety and guilt, the author explores tough topics while
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balancing them out with plenty of humour and crafting.Highly recommended for fans of young adult literature... especially if you like books such as Alice, I Think (which was even referenced in here!) or those support group novels.
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LibraryThing member Brainannex
Susin Nielsen is always good for a great story. Here, a young woman lives her life in the safest manner possible until she meets a young man who encourages her otherwise. Always a heart-warmer from Nielsen.
LibraryThing member Susan.Macura
After the accidental death of her younger sister while in her care, Petula becomes the ultimate pessimist, always expecting the worst to happen to everyone. As part of her therapy, she must attend an art therapy group with other misfits. However, when Jacob joins the group things begin to change,
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resulting in some wonderful things happening to them all. It is a wonderful story about friendship, change and love. Show Less
LibraryThing member Dani.St-Onge
Disclaimer: A free copy of this book was received through LibraryThing Early Readers in exchange for an honest review.
Petula is sixteen and terrified of life. Freak accidents happen every day so she must always remain vigilant. She doesn’t cross without looking both ways, walk near construction
This book is quirky, cute and fun. From cat-lovers, crafters, record collectors, film geeks and bookworms this book has something for everyone. There’s plenty of good representation from gay to amputees. It’s a very diverse read that has laughs and cries throughout.
The romance is the issue. It’s fluffy and slow and a nice portrayal of sex, but it’s a little love as the cure-all drug. Love doesn’t make mental illness better. Throughout this book, several therapist type things are bashed and the real cure is a cute boy. No.
The other slight issue is FULL OF SPOILERS. LOOK AWAY TO AVOID SPOILERS. The love interest does something very bad. He deserves to feel guilty. He deserves to not enjoy life ever again. However, this book compares it to a tragic accident. That he’s been punished enough and people should still be friends with him. No. There are things that you don’t deserve forgiveness for and this is one of them. I was very unhappy with how this was dealt with and made to seem like he was even sort of a victim.
I want to love this book. Susin Neilsen has written things I love. She’s Canadian. I love cats and books. There are so many good things going on. I cannot, however, give this book the five stars I was hoping to when I began reading.
The story is good. There are so many cute moments with family, friends and lovers. There are cats. I really enjoyed reading this book. It was a fun time and quite a quick read. However, the issues with the romance and how certain things were dealt with left me with a bad taste in my mouth.
Petula is sixteen and terrified of life. Freak accidents happen every day so she must always remain vigilant. She doesn’t cross without looking both ways, walk near construction
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sites, or eat ground beef. When Jacob joins her art therapy group, Petula begins to open up, but she isn’t the only one with secrets.This book is quirky, cute and fun. From cat-lovers, crafters, record collectors, film geeks and bookworms this book has something for everyone. There’s plenty of good representation from gay to amputees. It’s a very diverse read that has laughs and cries throughout.
The romance is the issue. It’s fluffy and slow and a nice portrayal of sex, but it’s a little love as the cure-all drug. Love doesn’t make mental illness better. Throughout this book, several therapist type things are bashed and the real cure is a cute boy. No.
The other slight issue is FULL OF SPOILERS. LOOK AWAY TO AVOID SPOILERS. The love interest does something very bad. He deserves to feel guilty. He deserves to not enjoy life ever again. However, this book compares it to a tragic accident. That he’s been punished enough and people should still be friends with him. No. There are things that you don’t deserve forgiveness for and this is one of them. I was very unhappy with how this was dealt with and made to seem like he was even sort of a victim.
I want to love this book. Susin Neilsen has written things I love. She’s Canadian. I love cats and books. There are so many good things going on. I cannot, however, give this book the five stars I was hoping to when I began reading.
The story is good. There are so many cute moments with family, friends and lovers. There are cats. I really enjoyed reading this book. It was a fun time and quite a quick read. However, the issues with the romance and how certain things were dealt with left me with a bad taste in my mouth.
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LibraryThing member Bonnie_Ferrante
This is a deeply engaging young adult book. 17-year-old Petula De Wilde is plagued with guilt over her accidental contribution to her baby sister's death. In addition, she has become obsessed with the idea that anything less than constant vigilance can result in tragedy, leaving her parents with no
The tragedy has damaged her parents' marriage. Her mother has become a cat rescuer to the point where they are struggling to pay the bills. Her father is the absent workaholic.
Petula has intense, debilitating, physical reactions to stress. She has become socially isolated. Her conversations with the school counsellor are minimally successful so Petula is tossed into an art therapy group. Against her wishes, she connects with an odd collection of students each also coping with overwhelming tragedies in their personal lives. Every character is distinct and believable. The reader will root for each and every one to break free of the crushing experiences they have suffered.
Although this is a dark and disturbing topic, Nielsen gives Petula a winning sense of humor. The students in the arts therapy group are frank and often hilarious. Their progress, and Petula's, proceeds with fits and starts but leaves the reader feeling hopeful.
Nielsen writes with finesse and insight. This highly readable book will be enjoyed by young adults and adults as well.
I received a hardcover copy of this book for review.
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children at all. As a result, she will not shake hands, walk anywhere near construction sites, get in elevators, or do anything that remotely endangers her safety.The tragedy has damaged her parents' marriage. Her mother has become a cat rescuer to the point where they are struggling to pay the bills. Her father is the absent workaholic.
Petula has intense, debilitating, physical reactions to stress. She has become socially isolated. Her conversations with the school counsellor are minimally successful so Petula is tossed into an art therapy group. Against her wishes, she connects with an odd collection of students each also coping with overwhelming tragedies in their personal lives. Every character is distinct and believable. The reader will root for each and every one to break free of the crushing experiences they have suffered.
Although this is a dark and disturbing topic, Nielsen gives Petula a winning sense of humor. The students in the arts therapy group are frank and often hilarious. Their progress, and Petula's, proceeds with fits and starts but leaves the reader feeling hopeful.
Nielsen writes with finesse and insight. This highly readable book will be enjoyed by young adults and adults as well.
I received a hardcover copy of this book for review.
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LibraryThing member titania86
Petula De Wilde is terrified of accidents. Anything could happen. Freak accidents occur everyday, so she will minimize her risk as much as possible no matter how much people tease her. Her family is torn apart and unrecognizeable since her little sister died due to a freak accident that she blames
While I don't like the cliche a boy changes a girl's life thing, Optimists Die First is adept at dealing with grief, anxiety, and making amends. I've heard some criticism about the portrayal of Petula's anxiety, but it is dismissed as trivial by other people. To Petula, it's very real and very serious that she do everything she can to avoid fatal accidents. She has pushed everyone in her life away and opted to wallow in guilt and sorrow while her family reals from the loss and copes in their own ways. Her mother collects needy cats to take care of and her father throws himself into work. No one acknowledges each other's pain, too busy feeling their own. When Jacob walks in, they are forced to work together and both hate it at first. Their romance is sweet and develops organically over time. Birth control is acknowledged and used which is rare. The one mar on it is that Jacob doesn't really share about himself, opting to give fake names and movie plots instead of what really happened to him.
The art therapy is my favorite part of the whole book. At first, everyone is miserable and just going through the motions. This Breakfast Club-esque group of misfits all have their own trauma to deal with. Jacob's filmmaking talent gives each of them the tool to communicate something in a way they never thought of before. Koula apologizes for all the thoughtless, mean things she did when she was drunk or high. Alonzo expresses his journey and pain through mime. Ivan gets to hold a funeral for his mother when he was barred from the original one. Petula made a video archiving her family's life and Maxine's life. When Jacob's secret comes out, everyone is hurt. The ending has everyone on the road to rebuilding and reconciling, but it's not perfect. Petula still has some doubts as one would after being lied to. It's the most realistic representation of a teen relationship I've seen. This book has real emotions and shows different ways of coping with grief and trauma. Optimists Die First is a short, heart punch of a read that I enjoyed.
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herself for. After counselling at school failed disastrously, she has to go to art therapy led by a woman who would rather work with elementary age kids. Then a very tall boy walks in with a prosthetic arm named Jacob and her whole life changes. While I don't like the cliche a boy changes a girl's life thing, Optimists Die First is adept at dealing with grief, anxiety, and making amends. I've heard some criticism about the portrayal of Petula's anxiety, but it is dismissed as trivial by other people. To Petula, it's very real and very serious that she do everything she can to avoid fatal accidents. She has pushed everyone in her life away and opted to wallow in guilt and sorrow while her family reals from the loss and copes in their own ways. Her mother collects needy cats to take care of and her father throws himself into work. No one acknowledges each other's pain, too busy feeling their own. When Jacob walks in, they are forced to work together and both hate it at first. Their romance is sweet and develops organically over time. Birth control is acknowledged and used which is rare. The one mar on it is that Jacob doesn't really share about himself, opting to give fake names and movie plots instead of what really happened to him.
The art therapy is my favorite part of the whole book. At first, everyone is miserable and just going through the motions. This Breakfast Club-esque group of misfits all have their own trauma to deal with. Jacob's filmmaking talent gives each of them the tool to communicate something in a way they never thought of before. Koula apologizes for all the thoughtless, mean things she did when she was drunk or high. Alonzo expresses his journey and pain through mime. Ivan gets to hold a funeral for his mother when he was barred from the original one. Petula made a video archiving her family's life and Maxine's life. When Jacob's secret comes out, everyone is hurt. The ending has everyone on the road to rebuilding and reconciling, but it's not perfect. Petula still has some doubts as one would after being lied to. It's the most realistic representation of a teen relationship I've seen. This book has real emotions and shows different ways of coping with grief and trauma. Optimists Die First is a short, heart punch of a read that I enjoyed.
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LibraryThing member acargile
This novel is realistic fiction and is by the author of We are all Made of Molecules.
Petula believes that optimist die first, so she is happily a pessimist living her life prepared for disaster. She has a notebook of bizarre deaths, which further proves her idea that preparation is important. This
The therapy group has never been particularly close and hate attending because the facilitator expects them to do childish therapy even though they are high school students. Jacob brings them together by getting to know them. He gets all of them to talk about their lives, but he doesn’t tell about his own. He really likes Petula and pushes himself into her life, turning her life around. He challenges her to face her fears. They end up doing a group project together, making a video of Wuthering Heights. Jacob is very talented and the therapy group start doing videos as their therapy.
Due to the death of Maxine, Petula’s family has fallen apart. Petula spends much of her time making life at home pleasant for mom and dad. She cleans up cat poop from the increasing number of cats living in their home; she does laundry; she cleans up the house. As Jacob has her try new things, Petula begins to realize life cannot be planned. She finds love with Jacob and the challenge of dealing with lies, truth, and reality.
There is mature content, so remember to choose books that won’t get you in conflict with your parents. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this novel because the characters are so interesting. The truths that are discovered are very real to our lives. It’s a fairly short book and very engaging.
Petula believes that optimist die first, so she is happily a pessimist living her life prepared for disaster. She has a notebook of bizarre deaths, which further proves her idea that preparation is important. This
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obsession began when her sister Maxine died. Maxine was supposed to take a nap but choked on a button off her outfit that Petula had knitted. She choked and died. Subsequently, Petula feels responsible and wants to be prepared for the next disaster. Her principal gets her into therapy--Art Therapy. One day the bionic man, soon to be called Jacob, shows up.The therapy group has never been particularly close and hate attending because the facilitator expects them to do childish therapy even though they are high school students. Jacob brings them together by getting to know them. He gets all of them to talk about their lives, but he doesn’t tell about his own. He really likes Petula and pushes himself into her life, turning her life around. He challenges her to face her fears. They end up doing a group project together, making a video of Wuthering Heights. Jacob is very talented and the therapy group start doing videos as their therapy.
Due to the death of Maxine, Petula’s family has fallen apart. Petula spends much of her time making life at home pleasant for mom and dad. She cleans up cat poop from the increasing number of cats living in their home; she does laundry; she cleans up the house. As Jacob has her try new things, Petula begins to realize life cannot be planned. She finds love with Jacob and the challenge of dealing with lies, truth, and reality.
There is mature content, so remember to choose books that won’t get you in conflict with your parents. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this novel because the characters are so interesting. The truths that are discovered are very real to our lives. It’s a fairly short book and very engaging.
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LibraryThing member SheilaCornelisse
Following the accidental death of her baby sister, sixteen-year-old Petula, feeling that she is responsible, slips into a depression. Obsessed with safety and bizarre accidents, she withdraws from her friends and the activities which she used to enjoy. Her only escape is a special arts therapy
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class where she bonds with a eclectic group of students, including Jacob - a new boy with secrets of his own that he is trying to battle. Together Petula and Jacob begin to heal. This is a well-written, very quick read. Highly recommended for young people dealing with guilt and depression issues. Show Less
LibraryThing member xaverie
I didn't really know anything about this book when I received it from the Library Thing Early Reviewer program. Despite being double the protagonists age, I saw aspects of my teenage self in her quite a few times.
Like the protagonist, Petula, I also lost a sibling to a stupid freak accident as a
The Art Therapy group that Petula goes to was one of my favourite parts. Though none of the kids in it truly want to be there or even like each other, they're all struggling with issues that set them apart from their peers. At first, Petula isn't able to connect with them, but as Jacob befriends them all, each group member begins to find it easier to relate to the others, to cope with their own traumas and issues. The members of the art therapy group stand out, unique in their characterization even without major focus.
I've seen some complaints in reviews that other readers didn't like the tone of the book or didn't like that Petula's relationship with Jacob "cured" her anxiety. I'm usually the first to call these things out but I didn't find them egregious errors in Optimists Die First. I liked the tone a lot; grief is a nebulous, difficult experience and there are moments of levity within the tsunami of anger and sadness. Likewise, I didn't feel that there was some magical boyfriend fix for the way Petula's grief made her feel, in the same way Petula didn't heal the overwhelming guilt felt by Jacob. Having someone who is able to comprehend aspects of your own trauma is a large part of recovery after the death of a loved one, and I think Optimists Die First showed Petula managing a lot of that on her own, or with the help of her friends.
Optimists Die First is small in scope, its focus tight on Petula's world, but manages to have a lot to say about loss and grieving. The moments of levity keep the story from dragging or being too depressing despite the heavy subject matter.
Like the protagonist, Petula, I also lost a sibling to a stupid freak accident as a
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teenager and I also struggle with anxiety and depression. I found myself relating heavily to Petula's anxiety-ridden habits, her avoidance of the people and things she used to love, her inability to connect in the ways she used to. The sides of grief that you don't often see in media. The Art Therapy group that Petula goes to was one of my favourite parts. Though none of the kids in it truly want to be there or even like each other, they're all struggling with issues that set them apart from their peers. At first, Petula isn't able to connect with them, but as Jacob befriends them all, each group member begins to find it easier to relate to the others, to cope with their own traumas and issues. The members of the art therapy group stand out, unique in their characterization even without major focus.
I've seen some complaints in reviews that other readers didn't like the tone of the book or didn't like that Petula's relationship with Jacob "cured" her anxiety. I'm usually the first to call these things out but I didn't find them egregious errors in Optimists Die First. I liked the tone a lot; grief is a nebulous, difficult experience and there are moments of levity within the tsunami of anger and sadness. Likewise, I didn't feel that there was some magical boyfriend fix for the way Petula's grief made her feel, in the same way Petula didn't heal the overwhelming guilt felt by Jacob. Having someone who is able to comprehend aspects of your own trauma is a large part of recovery after the death of a loved one, and I think Optimists Die First showed Petula managing a lot of that on her own, or with the help of her friends.
Optimists Die First is small in scope, its focus tight on Petula's world, but manages to have a lot to say about loss and grieving. The moments of levity keep the story from dragging or being too depressing despite the heavy subject matter.
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LibraryThing member laVermeer
Petula wants her life to be as safe, quiet, and unremarkable as possible. Since the tragic death of her little sister, Petula has cut unnecessary social ties, turned inside herself, and become an expert at identifying — and avoiding — risk. Then she meets a boy she dubs the Bionic Man; soon
I loved OPTIMISTS DIE FIRST. I enjoyed it much more than Nielsen’s 2016 book WE ARE ALL MADE OF MOLECULES. Although the plot sounds like a romance (and there is a romantic relationship at the centre of the plot), the novel engages much bigger issues than simply girl meets boy. A twist revelation late in the book adds depth and dimension to the story; I appreciated that the author didn’t let her characters take the easy way out.
OPTIMISTS DIE FIRST is likely to become a favourite with YA readers. With all her anxieties, Petula is initially tough to like, but she’s worth getting to know.
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she’s questioning her ideas about safety and security. With friendships, relationships, and her own mental wellness hanging in the balance, Petula must decide whether to take a chance on a boy who gives her so much, but could hurt her very badly.I loved OPTIMISTS DIE FIRST. I enjoyed it much more than Nielsen’s 2016 book WE ARE ALL MADE OF MOLECULES. Although the plot sounds like a romance (and there is a romantic relationship at the centre of the plot), the novel engages much bigger issues than simply girl meets boy. A twist revelation late in the book adds depth and dimension to the story; I appreciated that the author didn’t let her characters take the easy way out.
OPTIMISTS DIE FIRST is likely to become a favourite with YA readers. With all her anxieties, Petula is initially tough to like, but she’s worth getting to know.
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LibraryThing member RavenShoe
“I’m the only child my parents have left.” The death of sixteen-year old Petula De Wilde’s beloved sister has crushed the once active, fun-loving family and Petula’s now convinced that danger lurks at every turn, behind every bush, and across every street; convinced that it’s only a
When Jacob, a mysterious newcomer to Petula’s high school joins her art therapy class, her world slowly begins to shift and change. Petula begins to question everything she knew, or thought she knew, about life, love, and fear and gradually comes to understand that sometimes bad things happen to good people. She learns that it’s ok to let go of the guilt, fear, and shame that have been overshadowing her and maybe, just maybe, she can be happy once again.
Optimists Die First is a quirky, humorous story that deals with grief, loss, anxiety, and hope in a way that many of us can relate to. Susin Nielsen sensitively addresses issues that can sometimes be difficult to face. She reminds us that we have no idea what people are dealing with in their personal lives and to treat each other with kindness and compassion. Forgiveness comes in many shapes and forms.
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matter of time before the next disaster strikes. She’s given up her crafting and crocheting, pushed away her best friend Rachel, and germaphobia now rules her life. When Jacob, a mysterious newcomer to Petula’s high school joins her art therapy class, her world slowly begins to shift and change. Petula begins to question everything she knew, or thought she knew, about life, love, and fear and gradually comes to understand that sometimes bad things happen to good people. She learns that it’s ok to let go of the guilt, fear, and shame that have been overshadowing her and maybe, just maybe, she can be happy once again.
Optimists Die First is a quirky, humorous story that deals with grief, loss, anxiety, and hope in a way that many of us can relate to. Susin Nielsen sensitively addresses issues that can sometimes be difficult to face. She reminds us that we have no idea what people are dealing with in their personal lives and to treat each other with kindness and compassion. Forgiveness comes in many shapes and forms.
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LibraryThing member wcs53
I liked this book a lot, but it probably wasn't as good as We Are All Made of Molecules. Having said that, it's still a great read. Susin Nielsen is probably someone I would have read as a teenager. She creates real characters, in believable situations, and never pulls any punches.
Most of the
It's not a long read and is one that would be enjoyed especially by teenagers with many questions about life. But it's one that can be read enjoyably by older readers too.
Most of the
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characters in this story have a fair bit of dysfunction in their lives and are brought together at an art therapy class at their high school. The main character, Petula, is very pessimistic about life, but as her story unfolds, you start to realise why. Another teenager with a tough past, joins the class and has an immediate impact on Petula. He brings some optimism to her life, but all is not what it seems. There are some things that he seems to be keeping hidden and he seems to live life through his favourite movies. The rest of the young people in the class are also positively affected by the class newcomer, but as his story starts to become clearer there are some real moments of tension where everything that has been gained my end up being lost.It's not a long read and is one that would be enjoyed especially by teenagers with many questions about life. But it's one that can be read enjoyably by older readers too.
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LibraryThing member JRlibrary
As a result of the accidental death of her baby sister, which Petula thinks is her fault, Petula now sees dangers in everything. She even keeps a scrapbook of freak fatal accidents. Although this sounds quite tragic, her voice is raw, honest and unintentionally funny. She is an extremely believable
For example here is a description from page 5 of why the chair she's sitting in, in principal Watley's office, (after having fainted in class) is her favourite:
"It was my favourite because it was the farthest from his bookshelves, which were not secured to the wall in any way. Believe me, I checked. So if there was an earthquake - and in Vancouver they say it's a matter of when, not if - I could be badly injured by falling hardcovers. (I tried not to think about the building itself, which would collapse like a pile of Jenga blocks in any quake over a five point zero on the Richter scale. If I thought about that, I would have to leave school, and Vancouver, and live alone in a cave somewhere, which would crush my parents. Plus I would be a sitting duck for any psychopathic serial killer who happened past. And/or I would contract of respiratory illness because of the damp and die a slow, painful death. At least death by earthquake was more likely to be instantaneous.)"
And here on page 7 and 8 is an explanation for the books title. Petula is talking to her principal explaining why he will die before she will.
Mr. Watley thought for a moment. Then he pointed at a mug on his desk. "Look at that and tell me what you see."
"A half-empty mug of coffee."
"I see a half-full mug of coffee." He smiled triumphantly like he just said something profound.
"And that's why you'll die before I do."
He blinked a few times. "Well I hope so, I'm fifty-two, after all, and you're only fifteen- "
"Sixteen as of last week. But age aside, studies show that in general, optimists die ten years earlier than pessimists."
"I find that hard to believe."
"Of course you do, you're an optimist. You have a misguided belief that things will go your way. You don't see the dangers till it's too late. Pessimists are more realistic. They take more precautions."
"That seems like a sad way to govern your life."
"It's a safe way to govern your life."
I highly recommend this book for teens. The only caveat is that the main character does enter into sexual activity with one of the other characters, but in a very responsible and mature fashion involving both condom use and a brief written discussion with her mom about the need for birth control pills.
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and likeable character.For example here is a description from page 5 of why the chair she's sitting in, in principal Watley's office, (after having fainted in class) is her favourite:
"It was my favourite because it was the farthest from his bookshelves, which were not secured to the wall in any way. Believe me, I checked. So if there was an earthquake - and in Vancouver they say it's a matter of when, not if - I could be badly injured by falling hardcovers. (I tried not to think about the building itself, which would collapse like a pile of Jenga blocks in any quake over a five point zero on the Richter scale. If I thought about that, I would have to leave school, and Vancouver, and live alone in a cave somewhere, which would crush my parents. Plus I would be a sitting duck for any psychopathic serial killer who happened past. And/or I would contract of respiratory illness because of the damp and die a slow, painful death. At least death by earthquake was more likely to be instantaneous.)"
And here on page 7 and 8 is an explanation for the books title. Petula is talking to her principal explaining why he will die before she will.
Mr. Watley thought for a moment. Then he pointed at a mug on his desk. "Look at that and tell me what you see."
"A half-empty mug of coffee."
"I see a half-full mug of coffee." He smiled triumphantly like he just said something profound.
"And that's why you'll die before I do."
He blinked a few times. "Well I hope so, I'm fifty-two, after all, and you're only fifteen- "
"Sixteen as of last week. But age aside, studies show that in general, optimists die ten years earlier than pessimists."
"I find that hard to believe."
"Of course you do, you're an optimist. You have a misguided belief that things will go your way. You don't see the dangers till it's too late. Pessimists are more realistic. They take more precautions."
"That seems like a sad way to govern your life."
"It's a safe way to govern your life."
I highly recommend this book for teens. The only caveat is that the main character does enter into sexual activity with one of the other characters, but in a very responsible and mature fashion involving both condom use and a brief written discussion with her mom about the need for birth control pills.
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LibraryThing member FearStreetZombie
I adore this book! I I am so glad I read it. I honestly didn't think it would be thus good.
When I first started, it was really hard for me to get into and the "former best friend" thing got annoying really fast. But the more I read, the more I related to Petula. It felt like the author stalked my
I'm not understanding how people keep saying this book makes a mockery of mental illness and that she was magically healed when she met a guy... It didn't happen like that at all.
Honestly, it's a hearbreaking mind numbing heartwarming story that shows us no matter what we are going through or have been through, we can get through it and there is always someone there to help even if we don't realize it.
When somthing traumatic happens, it's not just something you get over. It alters you in so many ways and it is so hard to open up to anyone. It's really hard to admit you need help. But if you have the right people like Petula did, anything is possible. Jacob helped her so much. Oh my gosh I'm so thankful for his character. I admit I did get mad close to the end when the rug got ripped out from under our feet, I didn't blame Petula for being mad. I would have done the same thing. But I'm glad they got past it. They are perfect for each other. Where one is weak, the other is strong and helps.
When traumatic things happen, people tend to move away to start fresh... Personally, I think Jacob was Petula's fresh start. Which is why she trusted him and he was able to help her get over her fears. He wasn't there when it happened so she didn't see him as someone judging her all these years..... I think it's safe to say I love their relationship lol
I loved all the diversity of characters. None were alike in anyway and that couldn't have been an easy task to write about. But Susin did it. Lol
The only character I hated with a passion is Rachel. All through the book we know her as the former best friend... But later Petula tries to make amends and it works till someone calls them freaks... Suddenly she's not sure she can be friends with Petula. Not to mention Rachel gets butthurt when she doesn't want to go back to her house. Like really? You have a perfect family while hers is going through hell and you're gonna be a hero about it. I felt like Rachel only wanted to be friends when it was convenient for her. Because she would literally blow in straight out of the blue and leaves you wondering "what in the hell are you doing here? Don't you have hair to bleach and a mall to shop at or something?" She's like one of those girls that'll smoke in your face, say they'll never tell so you spill all your secrets then everyone knows about them the next day.
There really isn't much else to say about this book. Once you start reading you won't want to stop. It's a perfect pace that keeps you sucked in and so vivid that it's like you're living the book. I would definitely recommend this. I wish I could rate more than 5 stars.
When I first started, it was really hard for me to get into and the "former best friend" thing got annoying really fast. But the more I read, the more I related to Petula. It felt like the author stalked my
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life and stuck it in a book. LolI'm not understanding how people keep saying this book makes a mockery of mental illness and that she was magically healed when she met a guy... It didn't happen like that at all.
Honestly, it's a hearbreaking mind numbing heartwarming story that shows us no matter what we are going through or have been through, we can get through it and there is always someone there to help even if we don't realize it.
When somthing traumatic happens, it's not just something you get over. It alters you in so many ways and it is so hard to open up to anyone. It's really hard to admit you need help. But if you have the right people like Petula did, anything is possible. Jacob helped her so much. Oh my gosh I'm so thankful for his character. I admit I did get mad close to the end when the rug got ripped out from under our feet, I didn't blame Petula for being mad. I would have done the same thing. But I'm glad they got past it. They are perfect for each other. Where one is weak, the other is strong and helps.
When traumatic things happen, people tend to move away to start fresh... Personally, I think Jacob was Petula's fresh start. Which is why she trusted him and he was able to help her get over her fears. He wasn't there when it happened so she didn't see him as someone judging her all these years..... I think it's safe to say I love their relationship lol
I loved all the diversity of characters. None were alike in anyway and that couldn't have been an easy task to write about. But Susin did it. Lol
The only character I hated with a passion is Rachel. All through the book we know her as the former best friend... But later Petula tries to make amends and it works till someone calls them freaks... Suddenly she's not sure she can be friends with Petula. Not to mention Rachel gets butthurt when she doesn't want to go back to her house. Like really? You have a perfect family while hers is going through hell and you're gonna be a hero about it. I felt like Rachel only wanted to be friends when it was convenient for her. Because she would literally blow in straight out of the blue and leaves you wondering "what in the hell are you doing here? Don't you have hair to bleach and a mall to shop at or something?" She's like one of those girls that'll smoke in your face, say they'll never tell so you spill all your secrets then everyone knows about them the next day.
There really isn't much else to say about this book. Once you start reading you won't want to stop. It's a perfect pace that keeps you sucked in and so vivid that it's like you're living the book. I would definitely recommend this. I wish I could rate more than 5 stars.
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LibraryThing member KWadyko
I really enjoyed this book...it wasn’t one that I went out of my way to read, but when I saw it was available on Overdrive, I thought, “why not?”
The issues the kids in YART are dealing with are 100% on point, maybe a bit dramatic in Tula and Jacob’s situations, but relatable.
I really
#punkrocklibrarian #overdrive #audiobook
The issues the kids in YART are dealing with are 100% on point, maybe a bit dramatic in Tula and Jacob’s situations, but relatable.
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valued how the YART kids came to terms with their issues and made a valiant effort to make their situations better. #punkrocklibrarian #overdrive #audiobook
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LibraryThing member ainjel
So this book is pretty okay.
It's a good read for when you want something easy, but not necessarily something light. It deals with some heavy stuff, but is written very smoothly and accessibly. It's not very deep or meaningful, and it didn't tug on my heartstrings, but I did care for the characters
I really love Petula and all of her weirdness. In fact, I think the book loses some of its charm when Petula gets a bit more normal. Which brings me to my biggest problem with this book: the treatment of Petula's mental illness. I really wish the book would have explored this more, especially since Petula has some pretty serious problems. Instead, it opts for a "prince-saves-the-day" type of resolution, where everyone-- including her friends who also have mental illnesses-- comments that he "made her better." I rolled my eyes SO HARD because wow, way to ruin a book.
Overall, I did like the story, even if it was rather predictable, and even though Petula should have been treated with more care and development. I found the romance weak and unnecessary but hey, it felt like a teenage relationship. I think it would have been better as remaining a friendship, and better yet if it focused less on the relationship and more on Petula's journey, but you can't win em all.
A good book, and one I think many younger teens and lighter readers will enjoy, but definitely not a life-changer.
It's a good read for when you want something easy, but not necessarily something light. It deals with some heavy stuff, but is written very smoothly and accessibly. It's not very deep or meaningful, and it didn't tug on my heartstrings, but I did care for the characters
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and I really enjoyed how it's not a happily-ever-after type of book: bad things happen. Lots of bad things, but they feel realistic too. I really love Petula and all of her weirdness. In fact, I think the book loses some of its charm when Petula gets a bit more normal. Which brings me to my biggest problem with this book: the treatment of Petula's mental illness. I really wish the book would have explored this more, especially since Petula has some pretty serious problems. Instead, it opts for a "prince-saves-the-day" type of resolution, where everyone-- including her friends who also have mental illnesses-- comments that he "made her better." I rolled my eyes SO HARD because wow, way to ruin a book.
Overall, I did like the story, even if it was rather predictable, and even though Petula should have been treated with more care and development. I found the romance weak and unnecessary but hey, it felt like a teenage relationship. I think it would have been better as remaining a friendship, and better yet if it focused less on the relationship and more on Petula's journey, but you can't win em all.
A good book, and one I think many younger teens and lighter readers will enjoy, but definitely not a life-changer.
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LibraryThing member Sammi.Smith
This book wasn't a page turner. Sadly, I found the writing style to be very repetitive and unoriginal, constantly repeating phrases multiple times on the same page.
I did also find that there was little work with Petula's character. It shouldn't have been as simple as meeting a guy and all of her
Overall it was a quick read but I wouldn't say it represented the issues properly. Find another book if you want to know about mental health issues that are portrayed more accurately.
I did also find that there was little work with Petula's character. It shouldn't have been as simple as meeting a guy and all of her
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fears washing away. Overcoming such fears or problems with all of the characters felt rushed with little actual backstory. Before I could even start to like a character it seemed their story was done. There was no expanding or understanding of who they were.Overall it was a quick read but I wouldn't say it represented the issues properly. Find another book if you want to know about mental health issues that are portrayed more accurately.
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LibraryThing member calicok3
Optimists Die First is the story about a young girl, Petula, who is dealing with the loss of her younger sister along with guilty of surviving her. Throughout the story Petula meets other teenagers who are also working their way through guilt and loss issues of their own. It is nice to have books
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available for readers on these topics so that they don't feel as though they are alone in the world. While the book is predictable in parts, the predictability does not take away from the ultimate message of forgiveness and moving forward, even if forward involves super baby steps! It would be a good book for teens and young adults. Show Less
LibraryThing member kawaiibelle
Optimists Die First was a "read-in-one-sitting" kind of book. The story and the characters drew me in to their world. It was a great take on anxiety that felt very relatable. Fans of Turtles All the Way Down by John Green would like this book I think.
As a Canadian, I also loved the references to
As a Canadian, I also loved the references to
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Timbits and No Name products - feels like home. Show Less
LibraryThing member HannahJo
I like Susin Nielsen. I believe she has a gift for writing about difficult, even horrific events with a light touch. Her humour helps the reader approach the hardest parts of life we all have to face.
Optimists Die First follows Petula, a high school girl whose life falls apart after a family
I think Nielsen understands teens really well, and the dialogue and situations reflect that. I appreciated the well-meaning but ineffective counsellor, the adults who say things like, "I thought you had moved past this", and the friendships that are so hard to hold onto when everything feels like it is slipping away. The kids find creative ways to solve their own problems in the book, something I found surprisingly moving. One scene I liked involved Petula and her mum writing notes to each other in an effort to make a potentially difficult conversation easier. I also enjoyed the many Canadian references (of course someone brings a box of timbits!)
On the other hand, I can't say that I loved the budding romance between Petula and Jacob. They seemed codependent in a bad time in their lives. (There is sex, but it is not described in detail.) I wish more happened in the storyline, I didn't especially like many of the characters very much, although I did wish them all well. I also have a bit of a problem understanding who the audience would be for this book. Some characters are written in a cartoonlike way at would appeal to middle grade readers, but the subject matter and relationships seem to be older.
All-in-all, a medium book for me. For some readers Nielsen's wit and thoughtfulness will really hit the mark, I'm sure. Not quite for me, I'm afraid.
Optimists Die First follows Petula, a high school girl whose life falls apart after a family
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tragedy. Because of her depression and anxiety, she is placed in an art therapy class (nicknamed "crafting for crazies") with other teens dealing with their own issues. The plot is light, and the reader mainly follows the kids as they muddle throgh. No tidy finishes at the end, but the characters are generally supportive of each other, and I felt a lot of hope for all of them.I think Nielsen understands teens really well, and the dialogue and situations reflect that. I appreciated the well-meaning but ineffective counsellor, the adults who say things like, "I thought you had moved past this", and the friendships that are so hard to hold onto when everything feels like it is slipping away. The kids find creative ways to solve their own problems in the book, something I found surprisingly moving. One scene I liked involved Petula and her mum writing notes to each other in an effort to make a potentially difficult conversation easier. I also enjoyed the many Canadian references (of course someone brings a box of timbits!)
On the other hand, I can't say that I loved the budding romance between Petula and Jacob. They seemed codependent in a bad time in their lives. (There is sex, but it is not described in detail.) I wish more happened in the storyline, I didn't especially like many of the characters very much, although I did wish them all well. I also have a bit of a problem understanding who the audience would be for this book. Some characters are written in a cartoonlike way at would appeal to middle grade readers, but the subject matter and relationships seem to be older.
All-in-all, a medium book for me. For some readers Nielsen's wit and thoughtfulness will really hit the mark, I'm sure. Not quite for me, I'm afraid.
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LibraryThing member paulamc
Thanks to Librarything and the publisher for a free copy of Optimists Die First. I loved everything about this book! The quirky characters with dysfunctional families are well developed and sympathetic. Issues surrounding death are treated with sensitivity and humour. I loved the many Canadian,
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literary, and music references. All this wrapped up in a well written novel that is appealing to young and old alike. If you enjoy books like Goodbye Days by Jeff Zentner, but want more of a Canadian feel, you should definitely pick up Optimists Die First Show Less
LibraryThing member DJ_Cliffe
To live a life proscribed by fear and paranoia is hard and isolating. When bad things *do* happen life becomes almost unbearable. Petula fears and suffers and lives a shallow life. When she meets Jacob and opens up to him she has a brief glimpse of joy, only to have it dashed by a revealed lie.
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Susin Nielsen walks us through a ragged healing for both Petula and Jacob. Not to perfect but to better and better, which is the best we all can hope for. Show Less
LibraryThing member kpolhuis
A sad (but eventually healing) story of grief and mental health. The message of this book is a powerful one of acceptance,understanding,love, and forgiveness (even when you drop your bundle!). A good book for anyone to read and a great one for young adults who could learn some more about acceptance
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and compassion for friends who are grieving. Show Less
LibraryThing member LaMaestra72
Nielsen does a nice good job of showing a regular kid’s daily internal struggles. She also shows the importance of self-reflection, friendship and acceptance in dealing with psychological and socio-emotional concerns.
ISBN
1770497838 / 9781770497832