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Harper Business (2018), Edition: Reprint, 272 pages
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"Working women today are better educated and more well qualified than ever before. Yet men still predominate in the corporate world. In The Confidence Code, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay argue that the key reason is confidence. Combining cutting-edge research in genetics, gender, behavior, and cognition--with examples from their own lives and those of other successful women in politics, media, and business--Kay and Shipman go beyond admonishing women to "lean in."Instead, they offer the inspiration and practical advice women need to close the gap and achieve the careers they want and deserve" --
User reviews
LibraryThing member Meggo
I have recommended this book to several coworkers. It has the power to be transformational - completely reframing how we can approach work, communication, and taking the risks so essential to success. Written for women, this book can also be eye opening for men. Recommended.
LibraryThing member LDVoorberg
A lot of duh! kind of insight, especially when it comes to comparing men and women. That is, no new information here.
The genetics and hormonal influences on confidence was interesting. One gene provides 3 phenotypes, oxycotin and serotonin influence is. And despite your nature, nurture has a lot to
The genetics and hormonal influences on confidence was interesting. One gene provides 3 phenotypes, oxycotin and serotonin influence is. And despite your nature, nurture has a lot to
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do with your confidence levels. Other than that, their advice comes done to "nothing ventured, nothing gained" and you just need to practice. Again, nothing really new. Show Less
LibraryThing member CassandraT
There's very little new here about women and not speaking up and it doesn't go very deep. The inquiry is guided mostly by the author's own personal experiences and reflections than critical thought. I would even say this book is a bit old in thought, maybe more appropriate for a decade or more ago.
Confidence is feeling that you can recover from failure, the sense that you can master something; it changes from task to task.
Takeaways for building confidence the book:
1) Practice. The authors don't go into this example I'm sharing, they just point to the mastery definition, but in scuba when someone is nervous before a dive we don't say"oh don't worry you'll be fine!" Instead we ask the person what are you worried about? They answer and we say, what would you do in that situation? You want that person to connect their worry to their training, to recall in that level of heightened anxiety the skills. You want the training to be their gut response to panic.
2) Meditate.
3) Practice gratitude to help persevere and persist.
4) Break up challenges into manageable chunks
5) Value struggle/become comfortable with struggle
6) Be yourself (this one is more modern and I am giving the authors credit here because they didn't really give a lot of space to this, behaviors were portrayed as gendered more than individual)
7) speak up/without hedging (the "fix the women" approach)
I want to read a book about how women can tell where to find support and when to give up on a group. Because sometimes your energy is better utilized elsewhere, no matter how confident or capable.
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The only added value from the book is defining confidence as per psychology. But don't expect a literature review, just quotes from psychologists whos credentials /expertise areas are not clear.Confidence is feeling that you can recover from failure, the sense that you can master something; it changes from task to task.
Takeaways for building confidence the book:
1) Practice. The authors don't go into this example I'm sharing, they just point to the mastery definition, but in scuba when someone is nervous before a dive we don't say"oh don't worry you'll be fine!" Instead we ask the person what are you worried about? They answer and we say, what would you do in that situation? You want that person to connect their worry to their training, to recall in that level of heightened anxiety the skills. You want the training to be their gut response to panic.
2) Meditate.
3) Practice gratitude to help persevere and persist.
4) Break up challenges into manageable chunks
5) Value struggle/become comfortable with struggle
6) Be yourself (this one is more modern and I am giving the authors credit here because they didn't really give a lot of space to this, behaviors were portrayed as gendered more than individual)
7) speak up/without hedging (the "fix the women" approach)
I want to read a book about how women can tell where to find support and when to give up on a group. Because sometimes your energy is better utilized elsewhere, no matter how confident or capable.
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LibraryThing member leslie.emery
A bit outdated now. Of the "Lean In" style. Acknowledges the double bind, but says you can overcome it with your own feminine style of confidence and authenticity. The significant amount of time spent investigating the possibility of genetic predisposition to confidence really seemed off the mark
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to me, a person with a PhD in genetics. This book clearly means well and has some interesting research behind it, but felt out of touch to me. Show Less
LibraryThing member japaul22
We've had a lot of conversations at work lately about leadership - how those in leadership positions can improve and also how to get a more diverse group of candidates ready for when leadership roles open up. This book was suggested by one of the women on my team at work, so I listened to the
I found a lot to interest me. I'm not a naturally confident person, at least not in the outward way that most people first define confidence, but I do have a strong inner confidence that has helped me in my leadership role at work. A lot of this book confirmed that some of my instincts are based in genetics, my upbringing, and tips that I've picked up over the years.
The book dwells quite a bit on the differences between men and women and wonders how women can be more like men in the workplace. There's a lot of generalization of course, to make these points. Men only need to feel about 40% percent confident that they are putting forth a "correct" answer/viewpoint to offer their opinion while women need to feel 100% positive that their opinions are researched and correct before they will speak. Studies have shown that men will stick to their convictions much longer than women when they are made to wait and see how things work out. Simply reminding women that they are women before they take a math test lowers their scores by a significant percentage. Men predict higher success rates on tests; women predict lower success rates on tests; actual outcomes are the same.
There is also quite a bit on raising children and what is seen in confidence even at a young age. There is quite a bit of focus on how sports can increase confidence in girls.
What I wanted more of was how to apply all this research into concrete ways to increase confidence in women, especially in women who I lead and I know need a boost. There were some ideas, but it felt crammed in at the end.
Of course, I also though the whole time, why should women try to achieve this male standard of confidence? Maybe the world would be a better place if men took a cue from how women portray confidence and lead. I think if we had more women in leadership roles in the workplace, this would shift quickly.
And, as always, my caveat with this sort of research is that the majority of men I work with do not portray these sort of male bravado or female "shrinking violet" tendencies that the book relies on. I think most people are somewhere in the middle. But, it's also true that men still overwhelmingly hold more leadership roles in the workplace than women, so I think it's worth thinking about what role confidence plays in that truth.
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audiobook.I found a lot to interest me. I'm not a naturally confident person, at least not in the outward way that most people first define confidence, but I do have a strong inner confidence that has helped me in my leadership role at work. A lot of this book confirmed that some of my instincts are based in genetics, my upbringing, and tips that I've picked up over the years.
The book dwells quite a bit on the differences between men and women and wonders how women can be more like men in the workplace. There's a lot of generalization of course, to make these points. Men only need to feel about 40% percent confident that they are putting forth a "correct" answer/viewpoint to offer their opinion while women need to feel 100% positive that their opinions are researched and correct before they will speak. Studies have shown that men will stick to their convictions much longer than women when they are made to wait and see how things work out. Simply reminding women that they are women before they take a math test lowers their scores by a significant percentage. Men predict higher success rates on tests; women predict lower success rates on tests; actual outcomes are the same.
There is also quite a bit on raising children and what is seen in confidence even at a young age. There is quite a bit of focus on how sports can increase confidence in girls.
What I wanted more of was how to apply all this research into concrete ways to increase confidence in women, especially in women who I lead and I know need a boost. There were some ideas, but it felt crammed in at the end.
Of course, I also though the whole time, why should women try to achieve this male standard of confidence? Maybe the world would be a better place if men took a cue from how women portray confidence and lead. I think if we had more women in leadership roles in the workplace, this would shift quickly.
And, as always, my caveat with this sort of research is that the majority of men I work with do not portray these sort of male bravado or female "shrinking violet" tendencies that the book relies on. I think most people are somewhere in the middle. But, it's also true that men still overwhelmingly hold more leadership roles in the workplace than women, so I think it's worth thinking about what role confidence plays in that truth.
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Language
Original language
English
Original publication date
2014-04-01
Physical description
272 p.; 8 inches
ISBN
0062230638 / 9780062230638
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