See What You Made Me Do: The Dangers of Domestic Abuse That We Ignore, Explain Away, or Refuse to See

by Jess Hill

Ebook, 2020

Status

Available

Call number

362.82920994

Collection

Kindle

Genres

General Nonfiction

Nonfiction

Description

"A deeply researched account from an award-winning journalist that uncovers the ways in which abusers exert control in the darkest-and most intimate-ways imaginable We fear dark alleys when in truth, home is the most dangerous place for a woman. Of the 87,000 women killed globally in 2017, more than a third (30,000) were killed by an intimate partner, and another 20,000 were killed by a family member. In the US, that rate is 2.5 women killed by their partner every day. These statistics tell us something that's almost impossible to grapple with: it's not the monster in the dark women should fear, but the men they fall in love with. In not only a searing investigation, but a dissection of how that violence can be enabled and reinforced by the judicial system we trust to protect us, See What You Made Me Do carefully dismantles the flawed logic of victim-blaming and challenges everything you thought you knew about domestic and family violence"--… (more)

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User reviews

LibraryThing member brakketh

Amazing collection of evidence.

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LibraryThing member HanGerg

An utterly harrowing book about domestic violence that really should be read by everyone, everywhere, I'm afraid. The depth of this problem lingers at the very heart of so many of society's ills, and we are so very, very far from making it any better, unless we all arm ourselves with the knowledge

in books such as these and really set out with determination to tackle this problem. And by we, I mean all of us. It's going to take that many. How we might start doing that is tackled in later chapters, but first off, there's some very important fundamentals. Why don't the women leave? Because coercive control have been proven to be as effective as methods of brainwashing employed by the North Koreans against American soldiers that caused those soldiers to renounce their American citizenship and move there. "Intimate terrorism" is another name for it. Don't ask why many don't leave. Marvel at the strength and resilience of those that DO. Also consider the many thousands of pounds/dollars involved in moving your family out of the house of a committed coercive controller, and the sheer ingenuity it takes to stay safe - surveillance experts talk of searching the cars of women in refuges and in 99% of cases finding a tracking device on their car. Also consider the heart breaking fact that it is legally very hard to stop a man seeing his children, even if he is a known domestic abuser (the chapter on this is one of the most dispiriting things you will ever read), so many women stay just to make sure there is another adult in the room at all times when these men are with their children. And in case you are wondering, coercive controllers are almost 99% men. There are women who are domestic abusers - some studies suggest there may be a roughly an equal amount of them as there are violent men, and the harm they do should definitely not be dismissed. But coercive control is only in very small part to do with violence. It's a much more sinister web of rendering another human being utterly defenceless, and it is terrifying and very hard to escape. Like I said, just read the book already. Join the fight. It's time.

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