- When a Man You Love Was Abused: A Woman's Guide to Helping Him Overcome Childhood Sexual Molestation

by Cecil Murphey

Paperback, 2010

Status

Available

Call number

248.86

Genres

Mind and Body

Religion & Spirituality

General Nonfiction

Nonfiction

Collection

Wishlist

Publication

Kregel Publications (2010), Paperback, 256 pages

Description

"One in every six males has experienced unwanted or abusive sexual experienced before the age of sixteen. The myriad of lasting effects are as varied as the men themselves and can have a devastating impact on future relationships. Yet while so many must deal with it, few are talking about it. Until now.Writing with the empathy that only a true survivor can convey, New York Times best-selling author Cecil Murphey has written and honest and forthright book about surviving and thriving despite past abuses. Both informative and highly practical, When a Man You Love Was Abused will help you understand the continuing problems that survivors may encounter but are unable to express, including hurtful memories, issues of self-worth, and the need to feel in control. Whether the survivor is your brother, father, son, boyfriend, or husband, you will find strength and encouragement from the balanced mix of statistics, personal insight, and inspirational stories from other survivors. A powerful, compassionate, and timely tool, When a Man You Love Was Abused offers the strength men need to confront the past£and the encouragement women need to help them recover and heal -- BACK COVER.… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member hellonicole

This book was really hard for me to read and review. Of course, the subject matter isn't light, upbeat reading, but the writing felt disjointed. The transitions between the 'advice' and victims' stories was not very smooth and I found it hard to keep the different stories straight at times.

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haven't read enough books on this topic to say how this one compares, but it was rather informative, and in the end it all made sense. I just wish there had been a greater overall flow to the book.

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LibraryThing member novelnympho

This book is an excellent addition to my foster parent library. I think it is a great resource and reference book if you have anyone in your life that has gone through abuse - and not necessarily just sexual in nature. Because it is a book written to help others better understand the trauma and

effects of that trauma on a victim of abuse it is not "light" reading and also not a book you can just read straight through. It takes some reflection on what one has read and a break from the serious nature of the subject. Thank you for the courage to write a reference book such as this.

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LibraryThing member BrookeYvonne

This was a very educational book. I would recommend this to anyone studying the subject of adults and sexual abuse. Amazon currently sells this book and at the time I checked was getting a 5 star rating. I would assume that those who are dealing with this issue or looking for research information

on this issue would find this book extremely beneficial.

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LibraryThing member MeeksShelf

This book had a lot of valuable information on the subject of male sexual abuse. Although the flow of topic transition was a bit choppy, overall, the book was very informative. I would recommend this book to any man who has experienced abuse or anyone who knows someone who has.

LibraryThing member mookiekat

although i am not a man nor have i , thankfully, known a man who was sexually abused i found this book to be very informative with page after page of situations that i also could relate to having been there myself . this book did help me to understand the differences, although both are horific,

between what a male vs a female goes through. i found myself reading, re-reading and highlighting passages on every page as a confirmation of how i feel or have felt. i am not really sure i can see it as a guide for women to use to help a man whom she loves whose been abused as much as a real life encounter of what the author went through and the journey he took and is possibly still taking to overcome the emmence damage done to him. i feel that anyone, both male or female can benefit from reading this book, i did. i would definately reccomend this book to all for there are many more out there who have been abused and just having those around them understand what they are going through would be of tremendous support.

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LibraryThing member nolak

When I first began reading this book, I didn't think it would be helpful, but as the book progressed there was a great deal of helpful information. It is a good book not only for spouses, but for the man who was abused himself.

LibraryThing member starlitehouse

I won a free copy on goodreads
review: This was a thought-provoking book, one that I am ashamed to say I had to force myself to start reading. Not because of any problem with the book itself, but with my own shrinking away from facing an issue that touches thousands who don't come forward for fear

of that same puling away. This book is a helping tool to not only women who love a male who has been abused but also to other men in the man who has been abused life to get an idea of the terrible cost child molestation has on the boys and ...more This was a thought-provoking book, one that I am ashamed to say I had to force myself to start reading. Not because of any problem with the book itself, but with my own shrinking away from facing an issue that touches thousands who don't come forward for fear of that same puling away. This book is a helping tool to not only women who love a male who has been abused but also to other men in the man who has been abused life to get an idea of the terrible cost child molestation has on the boys and men who have suffered from it. Not only from the physical, and emotional point of view but also the self doubting and questioning that can come about from being an abused child. I recommend this book for anyone who may have someone in their life who has been abused as a boy. It is a hard book to read, to sit down and face a truth that is mostly hidden away from everyone. But if we aren't willing and ready to open a book on this subject will we ever be ready to embrace those who have lived it.

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