Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age

by Sherry Turkle

Paperback, 2016

Status

Available

Call number

302.23

Publication

Penguin Books (2016), Edition: Reprint, 448 pages

Description

Business. Family & Relationships. Sociology. Nonfiction. HTML: �??In a time in which the ways we communicate and connect are constantly changing, and not always for the better, Sherry Turkle provides a much needed voice of caution and reason to help explain what the f*** is going on.�?� �??Aziz Ansari, author of Modern Romance Renowned media scholar Sherry Turkle investigates how a flight from conversation undermines our relationships, creativity, and productivity�??and why reclaiming face-to-face conversation can help us regain lost ground. We live in a technological universe in which we are always communicating. And yet we have sacrificed conversation for mere connection.   Preeminent author and researcher Sherry Turkle has been studying digital culture for over thirty years. Long an enthusiast for its possibilities, here she investigates a troubling consequence: at work, at home, in politics, and in love, we find ways around conversation, tempted by the possibilities of a text or an email in which we don�??t have to look, listen, or reveal ourselves.   We develop a taste for what mere connection offers. The dinner table falls silent as children compete with phones for their parents�?? attention. Friends learn strategies to keep conversations going when only a few people are looking up from their phones. At work, we retreat to our screens although it is conversation at the water cooler that increases not only productivity but commitment to work. Online, we only want to share opinions that our followers will agree with �?? a politics that shies away from the real conflicts and solutions of the public square.   The case for conversation begins with the necessary conversations of solitude and self-reflection. They are endangered: these days, always connected, we see loneliness as a problem that technology should solve. Afraid of being alone, we rely on other people to give us a sense of ourselves, and our capacity for empathy and relationship suffers. We see the costs of the flight from conversation everywhere: conversation is the cornerstone for democracy and in business it is good for the bottom line. In the private sphere, it builds empathy, friendship, love, learning, and productivity.   But there is good news: we are resilient. Conversation cures.   Based on five years of research and interviews in homes, schools, and the workplace, Turkle argues that we have come to a better understanding of where our technology can and cannot take us and that the time is right to reclaim conversation. The most human�??and humanizing�??thing that we do.   The virtues of person-to-person conversation are timeless, and our most basic technology, talk, responds to our modern challenges. We have everything we need to start, we have each other.  Turkle's latest book, The Empathy Diaries (3/2/21)… (more)

User reviews

LibraryThing member jaylcee
This is a thought-provoking book. It is also sad. The path humanity is pursuing will stamp out what it means to be human. The real world and meaningful interaction are being blocked out and that diminishes our humanity. People are increasingly not relating to each other in a "here and now" "this is
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real life and it is sometimes messy" way.....they are presenting carefully constructed positive posts on social media. Choosing to interact primarily by texting or email erodes our ability to meaningfully relate to others, encourages us to present a false "best self," encourages us to not feel our feelings, and pins our self worth (especially those who grew up using screens from a very young age) on how many "likes" or responses each post receives. Sherry Turkle offers dozens of examples that validate her argument that we must reclaim conversation to reclaim our humanity. Turkle has spent decades studying the psychology of people's relationships with technology. I was deeply saddened to learn how adolescents experience the world through carefully editing their texts and emails and how socially isolated they are since a screen and false self is always between them and others. Who need 1984 and the thought police? The digital age is impoverishing our feelings, thinking, and imaginations.
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LibraryThing member john.cooper
Although I'm generally in Turkle's camp—I had a pre-computer childhood, and I'm thankful for it—there's an unrelenting alarmist tone to "Reclaiming Conversation" that does her argument no service. This is a book made up of anecdotes, all about something that we have lost, or are in danger of
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losing, with only the rare rhetorical nod to the benefits that the mixed blessing of digital connection brings. A book titled "Reclaiming Conversation" should spend at least half its pages discussing the positive steps that the title hints at.

To be sure, the withering of real human connection that often accompanies our universal digital addiction is alarming. (I was especially aghast to consider how babies and toddlers whose parents' faces are turned too often to their phones instead of to their children may grow up with developmental and personality disorders due to insufficient "face time.") But sometimes Turkle doesn't give due consideration to the opposing side. That "woman in her thirties" on page 29 who talks about the advantages of arguing with her partner online has a point, I think: "We get our ideas out in a cooler way. We can fight without saying things we'll regret." I wouldn't be so quick to assume this is another example of "the move from conversation to mere connection."
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LibraryThing member deldevries
Very well written. Eye opening view of how we converse (or not) with each physically and with technology. How we have all changed and are still changing. Somewhat gloomy view of where we have gotten with our lives/technology, but knowledge is power. And this book will help you think.
LibraryThing member dmturner
A thoughtful, knowledgeable, well-researched book published in 2015 that anticipates many of the issues we face when we try to multi-task, avoid uncomfortable conversation, and engage with technology as if the objects we engage with are human. The author bases the argument on many interviews and a
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long history of working with schools, corporations, and universities around technological issues, and finishes with a thoughtful discussion of the pitfalls of engaging with robots and simulations in preference to engaging with other human beings, as if those artificial constructs were more human than actual humans. The book is already dated in 2019, of course (Facebook turned out to be even worse than she anticipated), and she has a utopian view of the nature of family conversations that betrays a certain amount of privileged nostalgia, but it asks many important questions.

Perhaps the only gap in the book for me was a more thorough discussion of the neurological reasons why (for instance) children who are on their smart phones all the time might be less empathic, or why we might seek out multitasking even though we never get better at it and it impairs performance drastically; to me, the big problem with our embrace of technology is its incompatibility with the weird, wonderful, complex, mysterious human brain and the way it operates.
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LibraryThing member PattyLee
Interesting criticisms of the book here seem to maintain that, indeed, technology can help us communicate. In my experience that is a very limited communication. I see parents at the park with their children, not interacting with them or talking to them, but on the phone. I see them at dinner, each
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person with his or her own device, not communicating. Her most compelling arguments are regarding business and medicine. Facebook and Twitter and all the rest have simply allowed people to hide behind anonymity for their nasty little comments. These apps are not about communicating with others, but to them. I am by no means a Luddite; I have a Kindle, a "smartphone" and a tablet as well as a regular computer. Nonetheless, I find Turkel's arguments compelling and her style engaging. I would say this is required reading for the 21st century.
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Awards

Massachusetts Book Award (Must-Read (Longlist) — Nonfiction — 2016)
Booklist Editor's Choice: Adult Books (Social Sciences — 2015)

Language

Original language

English

Physical description

448 p.; 5.4 x 1 inches

ISBN

0143109790 / 9780143109792
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