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Biography & Autobiography. Psychology. Nonfiction. HTML:INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER! Now being developed as a television series with Eva Longoria and ABC! "Rarely have I read a book that challenged me to see myself in an entirely new light, and was at the same time laugh-out-loud funny and utterly absorbing."�??Katie Couric "This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book."�??Arianna Huffington, Founder, Huffington Post and Founder & CEO, Thrive Global "Wise, warm, smart, and funny. You must read this book."�??Susan Cain, New York Times best-selling author of Quiet From a New York Times best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's world�??where her patients are looking for answers (and so is she). One day, Lori Gottlieb is a therapist who helps patients in her Los Angeles practice. The next, a crisis causes her world to come crashing down. Enter Wendell, the quirky but seasoned therapist in whose office she suddenly lands. With his balding head, cardigan, and khakis, he seems to have come straight from Therapist Central Casting. Yet he will turn out to be anything but. As Gottlieb explores the inner chambers of her patients' lives �?? a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with a terminal illness, a senior citizen threatening to end her life on her birthday if nothing gets better, and a twenty-something who can't stop hooking up with the wrong guys �?? she finds that the questions they are struggling with are the very ones she is now bringing to Wendell. With startling wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds and providing the rarest of gifts: a boldly revealing portrait of what it means to be human, and a disarmingly funny and illuminating account of our own mysterious lives and ou… (more)
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By about the third appearance of a given 'character', I found the case studies that Gottlieb outlined became boring. It was as if there were example categories of each type
Gottlieb's personal struggles were candidly explained and the insights from her own counselling as a patient were revealing and poignant. For that alone, I recommend the book. She was very brave to publicly hang out her psyche to dry.
We have used a therapist for two of our children, briefly. One was overwhelmingly unhelpful, while the other, though for only 3 sessions, was helpful and got dialogue going in the right direction.
I enjoyed this book. I've never undergone therapy myself, but I've been thinking lately that I ought to, so I was hoping this would give me some motivation to start that process. I think it succeeded in that, in placing therapy in a positive light and reassuring me of the benefits. Gottlieb's part of the story was very personal, and I admire her for placing so much of her inner life on display ("hanging her psyche out to dry," as a fellow reviewer so aptly put it). I did find myself sometimes wondering, "Why did she include that detail?" Also, there's a bit of unresolved business, which ought to be expected in memoir (vs. fiction), but which I found a bit unsatisfying. The parts with her clients seemed much more polished and cohesive in comparison, which makes sense because she notes at the start that she has carefully curated, compiled, and edited those accounts to preserve the privacy of her actual patients. If you are interested in this sort of memoir, curious about what therapy might be like, or enjoy reading about people working through deeply emotional issues, I would recommend this book.
Overall, though, I did enjoy the author's interactions with her patients. She does accurately portray the empathy, and even love, that therapists often feel for their patients. It's impossible to remain fully objective, to not feel somewhat emotionally invested in their healing. It's also nice to see a book about therapy - of all things - at the top of the bestseller list!
I very much enjoyed her accounts of her own therapy, and those of her patients, but mixing the two - the professional and the personal - didn't quite work for me. (If it weren't for this, I would have given it 5 stars)
Lori is speaking next week at Bookbar. I will definitely be going to see her.
*for patient privacy she changed a lot of details and in some cases put multiple patients challenges into one patient story. The author’s note says “All changes were carefully considered and painstakingly chosen to remain true to the spirit of each story while also serving the greater goal; to reveal our shared humanity so that we can see ourselves more clearly.”
1. Loved it. Took copious notes. Was crushed when it ended.
2. I want to be Lori Gottlieb’s best friend immediately. What an authentic voice!