Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better at It?

by Kim Holderness

Other authorsPenn Holderness (Author)
Paperback, 2022

Status

Available

Publication

Thomas Nelson (2022), 256 pages

Description

Family & Relationships. Christian Nonfiction. Religion & Spirituality. Nonfiction. HTML: A USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestseller! Learn how to fight better and end your arguments with your partner feeling closer, more loved, and better understood. We take our cars in for oil changes. We mow our lawns and pull weeds. Why don't we do maintenance on our marriages? This relationship is the most important one we will ever have, so why not get better at it? For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight or a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom? With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their 10 most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and successfully close hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle�??and maybe laugh a little more along the way. In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to: Use "magic words" for healthy conflict resolution Address unspoken and unrealistic expectations Banish the three Ds of unhealthy communication�??distraction, denial, and delay Carry individual baggage while helping your partner deal with theirs Penn and Kim want you to know you're not alone. Everybody fights. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it… (more)

Media reviews

myself
When goofy, yet hilarious people write a book you have to know your in for an exhilarating ride. Kim and Penn Hold nothing back, bearing it all for us to read in black and white. The courage to air your dirty laundry so to say, is truly humbling. Every chapter divulging us with real arguments they
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had to and did work through. I have to admit I was called out on several occasions...Thankfully It didn't sting so bad because the humor Kim and Penn add to the book makes it feel like you're not alone and there are steps you can take to work through those problems. They even take it a step further by giving clear detailed steps and worksheets you can use to make working through your troubles easier. Marriage is hard but this book has the potential to make it just a little easier.
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User reviews

LibraryThing member GShuk
Highly recommend. They shared their real fights with perspectives from both sides and with what their marriage counselor told them.
LibraryThing member bookworm12
I’ll admit I am definitely the target audience for this book. My husband and I aren’t dealing with major issues of infidelity, infertility, a child with addiction, or a million other possible issues. Instead, we frequently fight about the small stuff that feels big at the time. They are real
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issues, that can cause major problems, but they are not insurmountable. That’s definitely the target audience here.

There are tips that I know will stick with me, like saying specific thank yous to your partner, avoiding the three Ds (delay, denial, and distraction), complimenting your spouse, and treating them with the same courtesy and kindness you’d show a stranger. I loved the couple’s honesty, vulnerability, and humor, especially in the audio version. They tackle communication styles, setting boundaries, and rules for how you fight. I found it incredibly helpful and entertaining.
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LibraryThing member krosero
This starts off like a conventional self-help book, but soon enough the authors' personalities start coming through, and it becomes laugh-out-loud funny. These two obviously can see the humor in life and have a gift for helping others to see it. Not only their humor, but Kim's "fighting" voice in
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particular, comes out more than in the videos, and it's a pleasure to hear.
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LibraryThing member bohannon
I love their videos,and when I saw this at the library,I thought: why not? When my wife saw it in my pile to read, she was surprised;and then checked out a digital copy to read herself. Neither author has relevant professional credentials, but they make no bones of this,or the role of their
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own therapist as a not-so hidden ghost writer / inspiration. All in all, its a fun read, and full of good tips and lessons learned. Well worth the short time it should take to go through.

(2023 Review 1)
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Language

Original language

English

Physical description

256 p.; 8.36 inches

ISBN

0785235736 / 9780785235736
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